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When we think of verbal emotional abuse, we envision the name-calling and slanderous character attacks common in emotionally abusive relationships. However, these actions, while painful in and of themselves, are only a small part of the emotional verbal abuse. The underlying attitudes of the verbally abusive husband (or wife) are as crippling to the relationship as the foul words and verbal assaults. It's an attitude of disregard, disrespect and devaluing the very essence of the other person. These attitudes may be unconscious and below the level of awareness. It's like a blind aura of despair...hatred...unresolved negative conflict harbored by the verbal abuser. The Attitude of the[..]

Spousal emotional abuse is a marital problem that is in a class of its own. And the reason why is because unlike other types of marital issues, spousal abuse leaves both physical and emotional scars. In fact, the situation can even escalate to murder, if no appropriate action is taken. So what are one's options when this sort of thing happens in a marriage? Now, usually, it's recommended that separation is the best answer for victims of spousal emotional abuse. Yet, as more of these situations come to light in the media, there are stories of rehabilitated abusers. They show remorse for their actions and, (after intense therapy), are able to continue the relationship in a normal manner.[..]

"I'm depressed!" This is such a common statement made by victims of emotional abuse. The effects of emotional abuse are long term and affect every aspect of a person's life. Nobody deserves to be abused in any way and nobody deserves to live with the consequences of emotional abuse. These victims have low self-esteem, low self-worth, are depressed and withdrawn, antisocial and can suffer from real health issues; both physical and emotional and their employment can suffer. Emotional abuse is very real and more common than people realize. The effects of this abuse, are long term and difficult to overcome. When a person has been put down, controlled and made to feel worthless, their[..]

Women consistently put up with abuse for several reasons. One is their own upbringing which tells them that man is superior and they have to depend on them for a living. Also, the way they were treated as children. They often hold themselves responsible for the abuse even if it has been inflicted by a parent or anyone else. A lot of women in the United States are subject to domestic violence and yet they do not leave the relationship. The victims of domestic violence are highly resistant to change. Also, the abuser lives like a phantom in the victim's mind and the victim will refuse to do anything without the consent of the abuser. Women as victims go through several changes in their[..]

Domestic abuse is quickly becoming a major problem in the United States. A Las Vegas domestic violence attorney reported recently that reports of abuse in Las Vegas and other big cities are rapidly increasing. The Las Vegas domestic abuse attorney stated that he has seen a large increase in abuse clients as well. With reports of abuse increasing, it is important to let people know some of the major warning signs of abuse. It is important for people to be knowledgeable on the subject because you never know when someone may need your help getting out of an abusive relationship. One warning sign is a lot of injuries and unclear excuses for the injuries. Another major warning sign is[..]

Healing after spousal abuse can happen once you actively take part in the process. Change doesn't always come easy and neither does it happen in a blink of an eye but once you have released yourself from the abusive relationship, you will heal in no time. Taking responsibility for the abuse that transpired may be hard for you but it is necessary. Accept that you have played a part in the relationship. If you have allowed for it to happen, it is also in your power to make it stop. Here are a few tips to help you get through spousal abuse: - Ensure your safety by distancing yourself from the source of abuse. Ask for the help of relatives or friends who could temporarily give you shelter.[..]

Domestic abuse is more widespread than many people would like to admit. Have you noticed how your neighbor had her face covered after last night's row? But, before going further I would like to correct a popular misconception. Men are also victims of the violence. Sadly men inflict more physical injuries on their partners than there women but a majority of the violence is give-and-take. Intimate partner violence and spousal abuse are commonly used to describe situations involving domestic abuse. Also the abuse can be non-physical through acts of mental and emotional torture, intimidation and control. Domestic abuse is a serious issue that there are government-funded programs that aim, to[..]

I'm frequently approached by families to help them "yank" their adult daughter or son out of an abusive relationship. And they come to me wanting me to "do it" as they have attempted to "do it." That is by trying to influence their adult child's choices in whatever way the parents are accustomed to doing so. While this does inspire the intervention, it is not what makes the intervention successful. The only way to help a person in an abusive relationship to see the danger they live and to choose not to enable abuse toward themselves is to "do it" from the inside out, not from the outside in. I don't really know the specific life choices the survivor/patient will make for themselves until[..]

How do you know if this is emotional abuse? How do you know if you are being abused emotionally? You know from the inside out. Look closely at these three tell-tale signs of emotional abuse and let your awareness of your inner experience, relative to each, permeate your entire being. 1) Being Called to the Carpet Emotional abusers have a very unique way of calling out their disappointments. They do it by calling you to the carpet, where you crawl with your tail between you legs and your stomach in a knot. Your mind is all consumed in how you are going to appease and please them that you may not even have time to address their expressed concerns. All you know is: it's time to make this[..]

Because so many people include drugs or drinking as part of their weekends, it is easy to overlook that you may have crossed the lines into an addiction. Most people will vehemently deny that they have an addiction to alcohol or drugs such as marijuana and rationalize it away as weekend enjoyment. Does anyone in your family have a history of drug abuse? If it is someone in your home, it has made an impression on you since your childhood. The impression may be very negative, but sometimes we repeat what we've observed despite disliking the behavior. One indication of addiction is if the use of the drug or drinking is the means to release underlying tension. Do you look forward to it in a[..]

A common question people ask is what are some practical ways to break the cycle of abuse? First is identifying the syndrome It is essential that you have identified the cluster of symptoms that defines domestic violence and understand how it lives in your life. Giving it a name is number one. If you don't do that what you end up doing is the following. One day you are treating what troubles you about your partner as though it's substance abuse. Then, it looks like partner abuse. Then, the next day you treat it like it's a narcissistic personality disorder. The day after that it could be intermittent explosive disorder. And you just go round and round and round. But when you give it a[..]

I hear people say, "My partner is controlling and he puts me down." Then they add, "It is abusive, but it's only verbal." The question I have is, how do you feel about that? How does it make you feel when spoken to as he/she does? And how do feel about yourself in relation to your partner? The impact and the import of the verbal abuse and controlling behavior, while being personal, will invariably be destructive. Here are some hard-core facts that you will want to know about verbal abuse. So when you catch yourself saying, "...it's only verbal," consider this... 1) Verbal emotional abuse is a disregard for self and other. 2) Verbal abuse leaves memory magnets of continued self and other[..]

Emotional safety is vague when it isn't there, and it's ever so palatable when it is. What is being emotionally safe? And how does this serve as an indicator...an internal red flag of a potentially destructive relationship. What is emotional safety? Emotionally safe is a feeling that your inner most thoughts, feelings and experience are, and will be, honored as one honors themselves. You need not prove, nor impress; you just simply are. When it is present you feel open, even, at ease, and fluid with the spontaneity of a healthy child. The absence of being emotionally safe carries an air of guardedness, and an uneven tempo of highs and lows, of opening up (possibly for the wrong reasons)[..]

When children go away to college and get away from "who and what" the controlling family members want them to be, a window opens up. What they discover is their essence. Now here's the gem... That essence is a composite of their formative years. If you were in their lives during this time, good chance you can slip back in and they can be in yours. 3 Keys to Healing Parental Alienation There are some key things you will want to do and things you'll be best avoiding in order to rekindle your relationship with your children if you are an estranged parent. 1) Focus on what you have, and what you had, with them; not what you don't have or what you missed. To help you maintain this focus, find[..]

Oftentimes battered women leave abusers only to find out that they are in an abusive relationship with their own divorce lawyer. And unfortunately, many spend as long awakening to this reality as they did admitting the abuse they endured by their former intimate partner. Here are some seduction strategies that divorce attorneys use with battered women. You will benefit by knowing these strategies if you are looking for legal representation or if you feel that your attorney is not serving your best interest. 1) Tell you exactly what you want to hear, before the retainer is paid. Yes, you heard me. He/she will promise you the moon, just like the prince charming that you are divorcing. 2)[..]

Last Thursday, I was coaching a client who was overwhelmed with the fear of not making enough money for all his business to pay for his life expenses. I can’t even express in words how strong his emotions were. Let’s just say… lots of anger, fear and terror towards himself and others. It was much more than feelings of lack. It was outright… “omigod, I am going to lose the clothes on my back” feeling and I can’t believe God is doing this to me. Now, before I go on… let me tell you a little bit of history about this client. He has three employees, his business sometimes brings in revenues of over 100k a month, however when it doesn’t achieve or exceed that amount, he[..]

Feeling lousy about oneself is part and puzzle to some people who have low self-esteem. But if you dwell on negative feelings regularly, then you may be experiencing low self-esteem. Such a person dwells in self-doubt, guilt, anger and embarrassment. A person suffering from low self-esteem criticizes himself and passes comments like,I should not have done it, why do I act so stupidly? etc. There are some school of thought that says, if you keep thinking along the lines of I am stupid all the time, then your mind would tend to prove yourself right by making you act in such a way. We are all different by nature. No one person is exactly the same as the other. If you focus on being low in[..]

/p> Most of us will want to settle into our own Small business and entrepreneurship someday. With the global crisis the world is facing right now and with the decreasing number of jobs that companies offer, it is important that you have other source of income and your own Small business and entrepreneurship. First thing to consider in creating your small business is what your passion is. Most people excel if what they do is their passion. When you love what you do, you will definitely excel on it. You will give your best to achieve the best result simply because you not just love your small business but you love what you do. Set a budget for your Small business and entrepreneurship it[..]

Sometimes the best way to say something is the way someone more literary than you has said it.  In that vein, here are some relationship quotes of note: "Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down."  -Oprah Winfrey "Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something: they're trying to find someone who's going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give, and not a place that you go to take." -Anthony Robbins "Some people come[..]

"We have to learn to be our own best friends because we fall to easily into the trap of being our own worst enemies." -Roderick Thorp In the last week I've come across several people who have found themselves in situations that didn't work out the way they wanted. They instantly blamed themselves! Wondering what is wrong with them that things didn't turn out the way they had hoped. Was it something I said, or did, or am I unattractive? What is wrong with me? Why did things just end, or why didn't they even get started. The most extreme example of this is women (or men) who are abused. Whether it's verbal, physical, emotional, it doesn't matter. If someone hits you or demeans you or tries[..]

If you've been in an abusive relationship, dating again can be scary. You're tired of being lonely, but you're afraid of ending up with another abuser. It is normal for women to have these fears. Here are some tips to make the dating scene easier for you: The most important point that I can make is to wait before you date. It's best to wait at least six months to a year so you can recover from the past abuse and get grounded before you find someone new. The reason for this is when you're just out of an abusive relationship, there's much stress and mixed emotions going on, and you're in no state of mind for dealing with another relationship. Relationships take a lot of time and energy to[..]

There is a lot of confusion over whether marital/couples therapy will help couples in abusive relationships. You may have heard that marital therapy is not the proper modality for domestic abuse. Even stronger, you may realize that marital therapy is actually contra-indicated in the treatment of intimate partner abuse. Then, you may also realize that some couples who deal with abusive control issues in their relationship can learn to develop new skills to facilitate their use of non-violent and non-abusive behavioral responses with their intimate partner. With this apparent contradictory information, one remains confused as to whether marital therapy works or does not work. Does marital[..]

Act according to the powers vested under the Immigrants and Emigrants Act to identify and determine the legality of persons entering into and leaving the country. Issue and extension of Visas to foreigners to enter into and stay in the country. Removal / Deportation of undesirable foreigners and those who have overstayed in Sri Lanka. Issue of Resident Guest Visas to Investors and Professionals. Citizenship Registration of Births out side Sri Lanka of children born to Sri Lankans. Grant applications for Dual Citizenship. Process applications for resumption of Sri Lanka Citizenship. Grant of Citizenship to Stateless Persons Registration and grant of Citizenship to Stateless Persons under[..]

Every day in America, over 2,000 children are reported missing. If you have a child: There is a 1 in 100 chance your child will become missing this year. Nearly 1 of 8 children are molested by the time they turn 18. Child abductions occur so frequently when a child is on their way from school. So it is very important that the child abduction prevention safety studies that a parent and child pursue makes mention of that. Child abductions have been known to happen in broad daylight, while a child is on their way home. Child abduction is the equivalent of a nuclear blast to a family. In many ways, having a child abducted and not ever knowing his or her true fate, like the Etan Patz case, is[..]

Are you familiar with any young people who have a domestic violence background? Would you be honored to instill in them a message that discourages inflicting harm against others, especially the ones they live with? You will learn methods you can use to mentor youth who have committed domestic violence or are at risk for engaging in this behavior. You will also learn how to assist young people who have been victims of domestic violence. One way you can assist young people who have committed or threatened violence against family members or partners and help youth who have been on the receiving end of violence is to encourage them to get counseling. You can offer to help pay for counseling[..]

Listening is something we do on autopilot, so it's easy to forget that it is a key skill in helping us to develop productive business and personal relationships. Improving your listening skills, as most of us are aware, is more difficult than you would think. Even though it's something that we really want to listen to, our minds wander and we lose concentration. Why? The problems One of the reasons why listening is such a problem is that people speak at approximately 150 words a minute but think at about 600 words per minute. The result is, that when we are listening to someone, we are continually jumping ahead of what is actually being said. And what do we think whilst we are[..]

Far too often, we hear individuals in abusive relationships seeking to change their partners in order to change their relationship. While it is true that a change in either person will change the overall dynamic of the relationship, changing one's partner is only an option if it is partner-self-initiated. Rather than holding onto something that is essentially out of one's controlactually not one's businesslook to changing what is within your control and is indeed your business: yourself. In working with thousands of patients over the years, the one thing I consistently see is that when people grow to honor and respect their physical, emotional, mental and spiritual space, they have no[..]

Every child has a fit of misbehavior from time to time. It causes a lot of distress to parents like you whenever your child misbehaves in any way. You would always want your child to behave properly because your child's behavior reflects your being a parent greatly. It is a very common concern for parents which sometimes causes you to forget to look into the reason for your child's misbehavior. To effectively handle a child's behavior, it is very important that you as a parent identify why your child acts in an improper way. Any misbehavior may be intentional or unintentional. Some of the improper behaviors you detest include swearing, acting violently or aggressively, lying, stealing,[..]

For the expectant mother, when considering the purchase of a new Baby Bassinet, or a Moses Basket, the first and foremost consideration is to make sure that the bassinet or Moses basket adhere to the strictest safety standards. That is the materials must be durable, and the construction comfortable. For thousands of years, mothers have used the basket, not only as a bed for the sleeping baby, but to transport them. Many of us are familiar with the story of how the mother of Baby Moses used a basket to save the child from harm at the hands of the Egyptian Pharoah. Mothers are always doing their very best to keep their offspring safe. Today, mothers have a wide variety of Baby bassinets,[..]

Project Head Start has been successful not only for the youthful students, but for the teachers, supporting staff, and families as well. My first job while still in college was as a Teacher's Assistant during the summer of 1968. Years later I was a Mental Health Consultant with Head Start in the US Virgin Islands. Although a bit bias, I have nothing but respect for Project Head Start and their teachings. Therefore, borrowing from their Seven Builders for Family and Youth, I encourage you to apply them as well. Principle 1. Commit to Quality and Excellence in Thought and Action: * Give quality service to all. * Develop positive habits through daily practice. * Develop and maintain a[..]

There is nothing worse than the feeling that you have not been able to protect your child from harm. That is why it is so important to make sure that you are taking all of the proper steps in order to make sure that your children are protected. This means your seven year old and your seventeen year old. Your teens need your help, your guidance and your protection as well, even though they may not act like it. As we raise our children, we teach them about strangers who try to get them into their cars and we teach them what to do when they are home alone and someone calls or knocks on the door. Protect your child any way you can, which includes educating them. However, how many parents[..]

Safety equipment for children is an important part of being a parent. This equipment can help protect your child from harm, as well as be used as preventative measures. However, from the many recalls we've seen over the years, we know that this child safety equipment can be as dangerous as anything found in our home. Parents need not stress, though. With a little bit of research, you can find that there are a great many sites that offer a plethora of child safety equipment that are truly child safe. Everything from alarms, to monitors to car seats can be found and proven safe. One might wish to try These bright people have delivered the best of the best companies in one convenient[..]