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Children Have No Control over What Their Parents Do When you are a child you look up to your parents and sometimes they go wrong. As a child you do not have control over your parents and therefore you can not tell them to stop. Growing up suffering mental abuse. Mental abuse can continue into your adult life when you have been mentally abused as a child. But you do not have to put up with it any more. Forgiveness is essential but if you do not feel at ease with the way the person is treating you then you don't have to see them - just get on with your life. Maybe you have had someone controlling everything you have done ever since you were a child and it's still going on now –[..]

Survivors in recovery find getting through some days more difficult than others. Having strategies for living will help you not to be stuck in the lows. I know because I am an abuse survivor. 1. Spiritual practice. Rely on your spirituality daily. Have none? Explore developing your own. Here are possibilities: praying, listening to nature, practicing yoga, belonging to a 12-step group, participating in worship services, meditating on sacred writing, or keeping a journal. 2. Self-care. Care for yourself physically, mentally and emotionally. Practice good hygiene, be tender with your nutrition, have a fitness program, be self-affirming and self-forgiving. 3. Home-care. Clean and[..]

1 - You actually need to know how long the abuse has being going on. This gives you an idea into the level of emotional trauma that child has been suffering from. 2 - Every detailed information gotten from the abused child must be held in utmost confidentiality, because the more people you tell the bigger the scar and shame the child is exposed to, let the story stay limited within the household, this gives the child some assurance that things can still go right. 3 - Try as much as possible to make the child know that it was not his or her fault, that it happened due to the action of an irresponsible adult.This saves the child from self guilt, which could slow down the healing process. 4[..]

When it comes to playing dirty the worst trick in the book is to falsely accuse someone of a crime against their own child. It will make your blood boil and take you completely off of your child custody strategy. It creates the worst possible relationship between parents. It takes a special brand of "evil" to do that to a child. Make no mistake, falsely accusing a parent of abuse is a crime against the child because it is ultimately the child who will pay the price of having parents at each other's throats instead of having them cooperate for their benefit. In fact in some states (including California) if one parent falsely accuses the other parent of abuse, it is considered grounds to[..]

Regardless of how your children come into contact with abusers, you need to do everything possible to prevent your children from getting hurt. In some cases, a criminal intent on kidnapping or harming a child will not take action immediately. Among other things, they may find out your child's phone number, and make calls from a cell phone. If you have caller ID, or some other monitoring system, you can use a reverse cell finder to expose them. Using Reverse Number Information to Spot Kidnappers Even though it may be expensive to use a reverse cell finder, you will be able to obtain the name and address of the person that is calling your son or daughter. Without a question, if the[..]

A school bus is teetering on the edge of a bridge ready to fall 500 feet downwards into the ravine below.  All of a sudden a red and blue blur zips in from out of nowhere and the school bus is pushed back onto the bridge.  It's Superman.  Nearby, a cyborg walks onto the bridge holding a piece of green rock.  Superman's legs start buckling and he starts feeling really sick.  It turns out the cyborg is holding the one thing that can trigger Superman's downfall.  It's Kryptonite. Do you ever find that your family can bring you to your knees like this? One minute you're standing strong, and the next minute a cutting remark or something they do just rips you apart emotionally.  This is[..]

Sometimes child abuse leaves marks anyone can see, whether they want to or not, but not always. Sometimes it's invisible, and so hard to understand that you don't realize anything is wrong, even when it's happening to you. When that happens it's easy to talk about evil and cruelty and failure to accept responsibility, but sometimes it's not that way. All too often it's unintentional. Sometimes choices made with the best of intentions will lead to consequences that will be sad beyond imagining. What do you call it then? What happens when dutiful parents choose to deny what would have been obvious if it were not so extraordinary, convinced that their child will become a better person[..]

Child Abuse is so rampant in our societies these days! It really shouldn't hurt to be a child! Treat your children well. In Nigeria for instance, we have what you can call House Helps (some are as young as 6-years-old). For a discerning adult that has such a small aged child as a house help: do all you can to be humane in your dealing with the child. Please don't over-labor the child beyond what they can do. Treat that child like your own - feed and dress them properly, take them to outings and your religious functions. Even though they seem disadvantaged at that age, make them to realize they can be all that their maker has destined them to be. You really can be that channel of hope[..]

One of the most common fears of adults who encounter distressed children is the concern that a child's trauma will leave scars that cannot be erased. There's no need to dance around the issue-childhood trauma does create unwanted stress for its victims. Many children who were hurt at a young age are disturbed and troubled as adults. But many formerly abused children thrive as they age. Indeed, some distressed children thrive because of life's traumas. Mind you, I am not advocating that trauma of any kind is good. I am simply asserting that troubling childhood experiences do not doom kids to defeat. As a caregiver to a distressed child, keep in mind these simple thoughts: - All children[..]

As a pet owner, do you need to have a pet trust or will in your estate plan? Well, maybe so, given the fact that in the American society of today one fundamental sociological reality has now become absolutely indisputable and well-established, namely, that America's house pets (generally defined nowadays to include dogs, cats, fish, reptiles, and other small animals) are increasingly considered a member of the family or a child, and not just "animals" any more. The evidence? The results of many credible surveys and studies, for example, which show, as in the case of an October 1999 report by the USA Today newspaper, for example, that more than 66% of American pet owners consider their[..]

"There is something wrong with you and I want you to come to the counselor with me. If you don't, your contact with your grandchild will be supervised!" Sound familiar? Now on face value this looks like a concerned parent attempting to keep her child out of harms way. However, when you look more closely at what's going on here, your see the danger is not coming from the supervised grandparent; to the contrary, the danger is toward the supervised grandparent. How do you know who is in danger under these circumstances? 1) If you are told that you must see a therapist that someone else has selected. 2) If this therapist has contact with the referring family member without your consent. 3)[..]

Let's pretend you can shrink yourself to a microscopic level, because we're going on a field trip inside your brain. We're going to take a look at your brain and try to learn all we can about its link with depression. If we were to travel inside your brain, we would see special substances called neurotransmitters scurrying about. These neurotransmitters allow your brain's nerve cells to communicate with one another. They're responsible for helping you to feel good. Although the exact biochemical causes of depression still elude scientists, they have found that doing one simple thing can help you feel better. It's called exercise. You can play Frisbee, take your dog for a walk in the[..]

It's sometimes a tough thing for you as a parent to confront, not being in control of what happens to your child. But there are things you can do to have more influence. The basic fact is that the more a person knows about something, the more responsibility he can take for it and the more he can control it. I want to emphasize straightaway here that the philosophy behind this article is all about applying simplicity to the subject. It's about basics. The world can be such a complex place but the truth is simple - and the truth about drugs is simple. So it is possible to get it across to someone easily. It may be a cliché but knowledge IS power and the knowledge which you have and then[..]

We hear that you are "what you eat." True. And you are also "how you eat," and "when you eat." How you eat and when you eat determines how we assimilate what we eat. This, of course, is how nourishing the food we eat will be for us. Mealtime in an abusive home Living in an abusive relationship can influence how you eat. You can come to the dinner table and sit down to criticism, nitpicking, outright belittlement that can go from "let me count the ways I hate you" to a major family feud. Over time, mealtime can be met with apprehension and caution--feeling states that interfere with proper digestion. So you come to the table and awhile at the table you could be preventing proper digestion[..]

Relieving pain from a patient while steering clear from the possible addiction to pain killers has become the specific problem health care provider constantly fight. This is the reason why doctors under-prescribe painkillers, because they fear the patients to become addicted to medications such as morphine and codeine. Although these drugs carry a heightened risk of addiction, research has shown that providers' concerns that patients will become addicted to pain medication are mostly unfounded: Most patients who are prescribed opioids for pain, even those undergoing long-term therapy, do not develop an addiction. The few patients who do develop such an addiction usually have a history of[..]

"Families turn to nursing homes to give the elderly the care and attention they need, but a congressional report out Monday says 1,600 U.S. nursing homes - nearly one-third - have been cited for abuse." This in a report from CBS News Correspondent Bill Whitaker. Some 5,283 nursing homes were cited for abuse violations, according to a review of state inspection records requested by Rep. Henry Waxman, D-Calif. These homes were cited for nearly 9,000 abuse violations from January 1999 to January 2001. "We found examples of residents being punched, choked or kicked by staff members or other residents," Waxman said. It was indeed a sad day when the time came around to place my mother in a[..]

Have you ever watched a group of children playing together? There's so much energy and so much smiling. There's lots of running around, and then inevitably, somebody starts crying. Someone gets mad. There's a bit of emotional chaos. Sometimes a grown-up has to step in and sometimes the kids work it out themselves. You might call it child's play. After all that's what children do. They run around, they have fun, they quarrel, and then they get up and do it all over again. But there's something a bit deeper going on that most of us don't even realize. It's the learning of how to handle the ups and downs of relationships. It's a vital skill. It even goes on with preschoolers. Researchers[..]

Have you ever watched a group of children playing together?  There's so much energy and so much smiling. There's lots of running around, and then inevitably, somebody starts crying.  Someone gets mad.  There's a bit of emotional chaos.  Sometimes a grown-up has to step in and sometimes the kids work it out themselves.   You might call it child's play. After all that's what children do.  They run around, they have fun, they quarrel, and then they get up and do it all over again.  But there's something a bit deeper going on that most of us don't even realize.  It's the learning of how to handle the ups and downs of relationships.  It's a vital skill.   It even goes on with[..]

Behind some of the most messed-up celebrities (and some who were able to cope) are some pretty messed-up parents. They could be stage parents, parents who are going through separation, or just plain free-loaders, investing in their child's celebrity status, so that, in time, their abuse will pay back its dividends. Macaulay Culkin - Let's start off with someone who was able to cope with his parent's abuse. A celebrity since the age of 4, this child star made a hit as the cute and funny kid from Home Alone. The most famous and richest child star in history, he alone set the standard for how kids could be cute by interacting with his older co-stars. By the age of 13, he was already earning[..]

Watch Out For These days you never know what can happen to your kids when you are away at work or on a business trip. So it pays to be better informed and alert to some suspicious changes in the home or the behavior of a child. Thus, it is not enough that your CCTV camera just captures the daily rituals of sleeping, eating, and playing. You should be on guard for child abuse or neglect. Caregivers are wiser now with home surveillance recording their every move. They simply stay away from the reach of an inquisitive CCTV camera, so that leaves you guessing about the nanny and if the children are all right. In most cases, parents place their hidden cameras in the most obvious places, the[..]

of the best things a parent can do to boost the self-esteem of pre-teen girls is to share family books about their worth. Starting in early childhood and going throughout life, girls and women look at life shaped by stories told to them. Stories affect the worldview and belief systems of both girls and boys. Did you ever stop to think how certain stories influence pre-teen girls? Consider child abuse and bullying. Child abuse is the direct result of a lack of respect for the dignity and potential of children. Statistics show that almost 80% of child abuse is caused by parents or family members. Pre-teen girls are verbally and emotionally challenged at school. According to Prevent Child[..]

What to Watch Out For These days you never know what can happen to your kids when you are away at work or on a business trip. So it pays to be better informed and alert to some suspicious changes in the home or the behavior of a child. Thus, it is not enough that your CCTV camera just captures the daily rituals of sleeping, eating, and playing. You should be on guard for child abuse or neglect. Caregivers are wiser now with home surveillance recording their every move. They simply stay away from the reach of an inquisitive CCTV camera, so that leaves you guessing about the nanny and if the children are all right. In most cases, parents place their hidden cameras in the most obvious[..]

Securing our homes should be one of our priorities and one way of effectively achieving this is by using a wireless security clock camera. Why go wireless? Well if you're like me who hates running wires through walls or under rugs then this should be your best bet. How does it work? It's really simple, a wireless camera consists of a camera with a transmitter and a separate receiver that is attached to a TV, VCR or computer. Since it is wireless, you do not have to connect the transmitter to the receiver. A wireless security clock camera is a great tool for spying because nobody will ever know what it's really meant to do. It's up to you if you want to tell the nanny that there is a[..]

A visit to the office of a voluntary organization providing succour to women, victims of domestic violence, led to a memorable experience. A lady with her infant children walked into the waiting room, sat down quietly without a word as if in a daze. The children clinging to her in a way that suggested they were horrified. She bore the tell tale of physical abuse. It was evident that she had just been assaulted bearing injuries and blood shot eyes. In the melee, she had decided to seek refuge. In consideration of what could be done to help adults and children in such difficult situations, I felt it was pertinent to provide legal protection to these victims of family violence. The law[..]

How destructive are the effects of domestic violence? An article from Psych Central gives us a perfect example: "one of the most tragic outcomes of domestic violence is that well more than half of the young men between the ages of 11 and 22 who are in jail for homicide have killed their mother's batterer." It's a frightening statistic but no more so than the number of women who have lost their lives or received permanent injuries due to domestic violence. For those victims who are still hanging on within an abusive relationship or those that have thankfully escaped there is the reality that they have been robbed of what is rightfully theirs. Many domestic abuse survivors have to start[..]

Domestic violence survivors know the abuse to them and to their children is wrong. And they expect the divorce court to recognize the wrongdoings they endure. Then, when it is not forthcoming as they anticipate and desire, they scratch their head or pull their hair out, asking why and wondering what to do. They may even have the best attorney money can buy or at least counsel they trust. They can even appreciate a good relationship with the court-appointed custody evaluator and still wonder why their children are being positioned to live with their abuser. What's missing on the domestic abuse survivor's support team? A) What is missing, often for these abuse victims in divorce and[..]

Did you know the signs of emotional verbal abuse are your friends if you recognize them for what they are? An adult survivor of severe childhood abuse by her natural father plotted with her sister (also abused) to kill their parents in cold blood. The mother, who watched the children being abuse, took the first bullet and the abusive father the second. As I'm watching this Law in Order story, I'm reminded of the mother's dilemma. Love, or leave 'em? Each of these options can be equally ugly. If she hangs in there to keep the family together, she is an accomplice in the child abuse. And if she leaves him, further abuse to her and to the children spikes more often than not. It is truly a[..]

The Battle of Marathon took place in 490 B.C. during the first Persian invasion. It was fought between the citizens of Athens, Greece, and the Persian forces under the rule of the Persian King Darius. A fabled run of a Greek soldier Pheidippides, a messenger from the Battle of Marathon to Athens, is the basis for the modern marathon, held in cities across the world, with the larger ones having tens of thousands of runners participating. The marathon is a long-distance, foot race on the road with an official distance of 26 7/32 miles, requiring great strength and endurance. A sprint, on the other hand, is a short distance run, requiring a burst of energy, to run at one's full speed.[..]

Poverty suggests a family with no food, clothing, or shelter. In the year 2005, a Poverty Pulse poll was taken by the Catholic Campaign for Human Development (CCHD). It asked the public this question: "How would you describe being poor in the United States?" The responses focused on homelessness, hunger and not being able to meet basic needs. The U.S. Census Bureau's latest annual report on poverty in the U.S. states there were 37 million poor individuals (2005) living in this country. That number has not changed much in recent years -- as the report states 12.6 percent of Americans were poor in 2005. This number has been averaging between 11.3 percent to 15.1 percent of during the last[..]

What is a home visit from a social worker? Well if you have foster children, or have been the perpetrator of child abuse, you already know the answer to that. Counselors have to make routine visits to the homes of state wards and those whom a judge has ruled in need of supervision. Often home visits are made when there are situations of drug court for teenagers to both perform drug testing as well as counseling. Children in foster care are assigned a social worker that will check on him or her periodically. If you are interested in fostering a child from the state, you will have to tolerate sometimes frequent visits from their social worker. They are obligated to make certain the child[..]

If you need to find an old friend, confirm the identification of a new date, or check out the credentials of a prospective employee, nothing works better or faster than using a people search.  Everyone leaves a trail of clues and information about themselves just by living their lives.  With a little old data, you can soon have all the new information you need. Find Old Friends If you have lost contact with old friends from school, you can use the data you currently have to track them down.  By entering former addresses, phone numbers and a name, it is possible to find where they are now.  The people search data that has been made publicly available makes it much easier to track a[..]