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"It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men." -- Frederick Douglas Whether this is true or not is certainly less than obvious. The lack of clarity starts with the meaning of "strong children" and "broken men." The ambiguity extends to include how one might go about building a child, strong or not, and the skills and tools needed to repair broken men. If one posits that "strong children" are kids who are well adjusted and that "broken men" are adults who are maladjusted, the aphorism is likely true. Adults may become maladjusted, i.e., "broken," after they are adults. This can happen due to numerous causes and circumstances; but since Douglas connects strong children[..]

Caring for the aging when they are ill is not for the weak of heart, mind and body.  As we all get older, the tendency to complain about the most insignificant thing, increases each day. Helping them through a painful experience can be an adventure for all involved. When a sick relative has an inclination to point out perceived mistakes and foibles of those around him, it makes it a little difficult to care for them with the kindness, understanding and patience they deserve. Helping with their care can cause even the most steadfast of us to lose our patience. My brother climbed out of his drug induced sleep that had kept him from feeling the pain of the surgeon's knives as they amused[..]

Defining the Boundaries of Emotional Limits Many of my posts have dealt with the issue of emotional edges. I have written about the In's and Out's of Emotional Limits, How To Honor Your Emotional Boundaries and Break Up With Grace and Dignity, How to Keep Your Emotional Limits with Your Co-Workers, and most recently, How To Say "No" Guilt Free. In these articles I have touched on the various aspects of emotional boundaries but I have provided for you a comprehensive definition of emotional edges and what you need to do to develop these boundaries in your own life. Although I have approached this subject many times, I keep hearing from you that you need more information. I have decided to[..]

"body"> As I am someone who has been married for almost 40 years (my wedding anniversary is next week 6th June 2010), I think I have a pretty good idea about what it takes to have a long and successful marriage! My husband and I are more in love with each other every day, and we tell each other quite a few times throughout the day. We have never had a fight! You may find this hard to believe but it's absolutely true. We have had minor disagreements, but we've never yelled at each other or mentally or physically abused one another. You may ask how we've managed to stay married for so long? Here's a few tips to help you have a great relationship too. - Treat your spouse as though they are[..]

It is a fact that not all marriages end with happy endings. Divorce can sometimes be the best last option in a bad marriage. However, getting a divorce is not an easy task. In many states it is legal to get a divorce without representation. If you have limited or no assets and no children or dependents, it may the way to go as you'll save money in attorney and court costs. Not all couples are advised to file for a divorce without a lawyer because there are some conditions that must be met in order to do away with the need of a lawyer. There is now available a method to deal with a divorce without a lawyer or an attorney. The process is termed as the Pro Se divorce. To be able to use this[..]

Today I made a decision to help women to get out off an abusive marriage; I want to help women to understand that they deserve a much better life. I was there and I done it, and it took me many years to get really over it and how to get out there even when the divorce was final for years. I want women to understand how they got into this situation and how they were destroyed with their self-esteem and confident, and the important part how everything even started. When I was able to get out of an abusive marriage and raise my kids all by myself in another country, so can you do it too! Now let me tell you what I went through and how you can avoid be stacked, so you can move on in your[..]

I get a lot of correspondence from spouses (who are usually wives) that admit to me that they are "only staying married for the sake of the children." These wives often admit that they are quite unhappy and they worry that their lack of passion for life is going to influence or negatively affect their children. Sometimes, they admit, they wonder if their children would be better off with a divorced but happy parent rather than one who remains married only for their sake but who is quite unhappy. Most people would agree that even small children pick up on and reflect their parents' unhappiness. And, they learn how to live their own lives, and form their own relationships, from their[..]

I hear you asking "Should I leave my partner?" What a dilemma and what an awful position to be in. There is nothing worse than being in a relationship where you are unhappy. If you are asking a question such as this, you must have some serious things happening in your life right at the moment. My heart goes out to you, because life is not meant to be this way. I guess that the answer to the question will depend on what is going on in your relationship. Certainly, if there is any physical or mental abuse going on, my answer would be yes without any doubt. No one deserves to be in a relationship where there is physical or mental abuse. That is totally unacceptable. The big question that[..]

What is it like growing up in a family with not one but two parents that are alcoholics? Very difficult I would answer it makes you grow up far too quickly and mentally you are scared for life at the things that you witness. As the eldest of 3 children the first memory that I have is of being locked inside my home with my younger sister who was only 12 months old at the time and we our grandmother come to the door and she was knocking and through a locked window I was crying as I couldn't open the door and she couldn't come in. I saw her sit on the back steps and she was crying too as you see both of our parents were at the local pub. From there on it was endless drinking sessions after[..]

This is for all those weed buffs who declare that marijuana has utterly no undesirable outcomes, while being devoid of setting aside time for any exploration themselves. The knowledge made available here is properly tested & documented within the scientific and health care fields in order to help people understand the real dangers of marijuana and motivate them to stop smoking weed. If, perhaps you're prepared to deal with the facts, then please be my guest & keep reading the material. Within the twenty-first millennium, the technological and healthcare field has found the way marijuana reacts the moment inside of the entire body and also the nerve fibers. Bear in mind that it does not[..]

Divorce documents can be integral to finding out certain important information on an individual. It is often a good idea to perform a background check on a potential mate or someone you have become intimately involved with. While it might sound slightly paranoid at first, consider the issues of safety involved in meeting and becoming involved with someone. If a person has a divorce on file in the public records, then it is kept in a physical and online repository for the public to access for just these means. Consider if your daughter or sister were dating an older man. It is within your bounds to be a bit wary. In fact, it is your responsibility to protect her! Does this person have any[..]

How many things do you believe and act on, that aint so? I always knew that Seattle was the most rained on city in the U.S. Kids wereborn there with umbrellas in their hand. Now I saw the stats and Atlanta, Boston and New York are worse. Another urbanmyth dies. Do you think the word stupid, when you read or hear pitches forherbs and supplement concoctions? Me too, but recent research by independent sources indicates many work as well as prescription drugs, and without harmful side effects. Turns out that scientists findserious merit in Ginko and Ginseng, while folic acid may prevent strokes and heartattacks better than anything else. What about memory strategies? 92% of us believe in[..]

Bed-Wetting for many youngsters can be extremely traumatic-there is the potential for teasing from siblings and other family members,punishment from parents,and the possibility of their peers discovering it especially if the youngster wants to attend sleepovers. This article is divided into two parts. I feel there is useful information in both parts so I encourage you to read part 1 and 2. Although many cases of bed-wetting can be cured using medicines,alarms,and other methods there are cases of enuresis persisting into adult years. In fact many adults suffer from this problem their whole lives. The statistics vary but anywhere from 2 to 3% of adults wet the bed. Due to the negative[..]

"Hello. My name's Patricia Bowman. I'm the one who accused William Kennedy Smith of rape." Now it can be told! Miss Bowman, her name and face shrouded by media television, Miss Bowman likely will become a household name -- and face. Withholding the names of women who make accusations of rape became a widely discussed issue when the Smith case surfaced. Most electronic and print media declared they would protect the accuser by not revealing her name and by not showing her face. The trial, and events connected with it, drew unbridled media attention. The debate over the wisdom, or right, of the media to identify one who makes an accusation of rape began even before the case went to court.[..]

According to Kelly Neal, there are two popular drugs used in date rape. The first one is Rohypnol, which is also known as Roofies. The next is GHB, a short-term for gamma-Hydroxybutyric acid or gamma-hydroxybutyrate. But there is also a third type of date rape drug known as Ketamine. Kelly's study was backed up by the Needs Assessment Department under the Texas Commission on Alcohol and Drug Abuse. The Department's Director, Jane Maxwell said that these club drugs or date rape drugs are on the rise. What is even more alarming is the fact that while these are popular to individuals in their 20's, they have also been used by seventh to twelfth graders. Rohypnol or Roofies Rohypnol is said[..]

Parenting is one of the most difficult things you can do, and it is a highly pressurized, one chance only environment where mistakes can have drastic consequences. As a parent, it is your responsibility to guide your child through his physical and mental development, whilst encouraging a sense of morality, justice and decency. At the same time you need to devote a tremendous degree of care and attention to your child to avoid compromising his safety and security. Parenting can be a difficult juggle-act to maintain, particularly if you also work and have other commitments. One of the most important aspect of parenting is spending the right amount of time with your child. It is[..]

It's the worst nightmare that parents can ever have: that sweet and efficient nanny who's been watching their kids while they were at work has actually been physically and verbally abusing them behind their backs. Sadly, the news reminds us that nobody is beyond suspicion. There are cases of children being abused by neighbours, relatives, even parents of friends. However, very few parents can afford to stay at home all the time. More and more women are deciding to go back to work, and even a full-time mom needs to have 'me" time away from the kids--even if it's a day off with friends, or an afternoon to do the groceries without a toddler throwing a tantrum in the middle of the candy[..]

It is common for children with ADHD to display ADHD violent behavior. This, in turn, can result in feelings of isolation from family and peers alike. It can be hard for parents to deal with ADHD child violence, especially when they feel that they are obliged to somehow punish their child for such aggressive behavior. It can be even more confusing for those who are not familiar with ADHD and are perplexed as to how to deal with ADHD violent behavior. Studies have shown that it is never the best solution to criticize and punish a child for ADHD violent behavior. Instead, parents and primary caregivers need to be more understanding, loving, and sensitive to the needs of the child, however[..]

One of life's most difficult situations is when someone you love is no longer present in your life, especially if that someone is a child. It's a given thing that sometime, as a parent, you and a child are going to have a major disagreement. This so frequently happens with life transitions and as we approach retirement. Many Baby Boomers are experiencing this as their adult children sometimes move back home. Maybe they are retiring from one career and wanting to start their own business, so children see a shift in financial allocations. Possibly the "empty nest" syndrome is finally hitting everyone; life is going to be different and change is hard. Being disconnected from someone you[..]

There are many ways to form a story in your mind, but I have developed a unique approach that almost writes the story for you. Keeping in mind that every story must have plot, conflict, and resolution (not necessarily in that order) - I build the conflict first, then the resolution, and then the lead in. Notice I didn't say "plot", as it will develop itself with this method. Part I I'll make up a story right now, as I type, to show you the process. I'm starting in the middle of my story because I'll get into the action quicker, I can identify most of the characters quickly, and the plot will develop more normally. FIRST, I'll begin with the action scene that comes in the middle. I have[..]

Good Information on Pet Therapy Are there any benefits to owning a pet also companionship? Pet therapy is becoming more documented nowadays. Experts relied on pet therapy to reach out to elderly and abused children. Terms for pet therapy ranges from animal-assisted activities or pet visitation. Hospitals do consider this method of therapy can reduce stress and anxieties for patients. How does it really work? Pet therapy is an important part of a rehabilitation progression that involves reducing anxieties throught the companionship of animals. Pet therapy can alleviate and help medical problems as well as emotionla ailments. How does it work? Pet therapy promotes the patient to be more[..]

"Where is your Mom?" asked a little boy to another. The little boy replied, "I don't know." From his point of view, she was lost. She was gone. She left him. She abandoned him. ...And the conclusions go on and on, each one with more and more potential to fracture a young psyche. Eventually, it can. That's what you can expect when you have children with an abuser. Many people think that when they reach a point where they can no longer live with the abuser, they will just get a divorce and the system will protect them and their children. Not necessarily so! That's a drastic assumption. Hard and Cold Reality of Domestic Violence Common sense would suggest that the "protective"agentsthose[..]

You can predict how much your divorce is going to cost and how long it will take based on the parties' ability to get along and communicate peaceably. The more you argue or refuse to communicate, the more expensive and lengthy your divorce will be. The divorce will be faster, cheaper and easier if both parties are on the same page emotionally, financially and regarding the issues. This does not mean that they are emotionally connected, financially equal, or in agreement on all issues. Both parties need to be emotionally ready to end the relationship and have positive emotional support from the people around them. Similarly, both parties don't need to have the same amount of money, but[..]

The three core documents every Life Coach needs to prove what they say they can produce are an Emotional Checklist for Adults an Emotional Checklist for Ages 7-17 and a Workbook that literally puts the subconscious on paper so you can begin the process of taking control of what controls you. These documents have set a definitive standard by which all other Coaches are measured. This is a continuing effort to standardize the industry. A standard can only be set if you have the infrastructure to measure the results you claim you can produce and that is the purpose of these documents. The Emotional Checklist for Adults that was used in clinical trials sponsored by Medifast and administered[..]

ion and loneliness are often strongly linked to each other. You can feel depressed because you are lonely, or you can feel lonely because you feel depressed. If you can get a grip on depression, you are likely to feel less lonely too. Although depression is an umbrella term for a host of problems, it is important to diagnose it correctly and quickly. With proper medication, therapy, nutrition and exercise, people can return to their daily lives without any long-term effects. Depression is a very common condition. Approximately, 15 percent of doctor’s office visits are depression related. This is also the most prevalent serious illness primary care physicians treat. One out of 10[..]

There are many different ways in which people will show their support for a charity or cause, and these can range from donating money, to participating in fund raisers, to wearing a rubber band bracelet. The rubber band under discussion here is not the ubiquitous rubber band which might be used for household purposes, or even used on your hair. Rather, this rubber wrist band is one which has been made for the sole purpose of raising awareness about something, promoting a charitable cause, or spreading a message of hope and endurance. The messages which you might find embossed, debussed, screen printed or colour-filled on these wrist bands might be to raise awareness about the fight[..]

When a technology product enters the everyday vocabulary, you know there's a demand for it. Take the case of the nanny cam. Everyone knows what the product is - a camera to monitor the quality of care the nanny is providing to a child. The need came about due to the shocking stories of abuse of children by their caregivers. The surveillance and security companies answered this need by providing affordable and easy to install cameras for the average family. Still, there's a lot of fancy words out there confusing the user in what to look for in a nanny cam. This article serves to explain the different types of nanny cams available. First off, when it comes to buying surveillance[..]

This article will discuss the challenges faced by organizations around earning, developing, and retaining employee trust. Specifically, special emphasis on how and why companies must develop trust within their workforce. Next, I will discuss the implication that can and will be faced by organizations if they do not develop trust within their workforce. Additionally, I will offer suggestions for how to build trust in organizations. Since managers are initiators of trust, the target audience of this paper will be management at all levels of a company. It is essential that management understand the value of trust and how to promote trust in their organizations. Competence, integrity and[..]

I am sitting here late at night watching Addicted, trying to figure out where these parents might have gone wrong or where might they have prevented the issues their children face. Yes, sometimes there is absolutely nothing they could have done, other times I see that it is a broken home, molestation, abuse, death, etc. I think about my 2 small children and try everything I can to not let them ever become a statistic. I want them healthy, happy, and productive in life. I think about my own life. I am the product of a broken home. I have divorced and remarried parents. My father has been remarried about 4 times. Not sure, I lost count. I know he has been engaged more than he has been[..]

The Marxists find it easy to reaching consensus regarding their ethical beliefs because of their single minded approach to the Marxist theological, philosophical, biological, economical and historical disciplines. Though these ethics have no absolute foundation, the Marxist believes the dialectical view of the class struggle is foundation enough. Such a view dictates the conflicts between the proletariat and the bourgeoisie and since their later exploits the former, the two classes are of different moralities and Marxist/Leninist believe that a new morality for a new man would be established if the bourgeoisies are said to be capitalist who are controlled by the Old-Morality system, the[..]

Maya had the dream life. She had a career she loved. She married when she was mature enough to pick a partner for the right reasons. She had a partner, a son, a daughter and a lovely puppy. Add the picket fence and you could say she had it all. On the surface of course... Beneath the surface she was struggling with the demise of a marriage due to the malicious interactions of a verbally and emotionally abusive mother in law who was going unstopped in the family. This women had such control over the men in her family, that she could say and do as she pleased, and no one would stop her from viscious behavior. Maya became the victim of emotional and verbal abuse, first from her mother[..]