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However, working for an employer that does not consider your welfare as a human being can outweigh the financial advantages of even the best salary package. Our needs as individuals don't simply evaporate because we are paid a good salary. Who is the employer? The employer is the organisation for whom you work, but in reality your manager or supervisor is the visible face of your employer. Have you been in a situation where your work group is full of tension and unhappiness whilst another group within the organisation seems to thrive on co-operation, good humour and great results? If staff from both groups were asked what they thought of the "employer" they would each give a very[..]

I was speaking with a client this week regarding a business related matter that I am helping him with and he mentioned the expense of his divorce that he had a different attorney handling. He commented that only the attorneys win and they were the ones making money. I mention this, because I really like the message throughout this book that it is to everyone's benefit, and especially that of children, to make the divorce process as civil as possible. If you don't, you may find yourself in a battle such as Michael Douglas and Kathleen Turner in "The War of the Roses." To help save money, emotional turmoil, and a lot of time, Nolo's "Essential Guide to Divorce" by Attorney Emily Doskow is[..]

Probate court is the office where all probate issues are handled. The probate court handles all matters of probate, right from admitting the petition for probate until issuing the order for transfer of property to heirs and beneficiaries. In most states probate courts function exclusively. [In some states such as Massachusetts, Probate and Family Courts function as one unit with two compartments; Probate and Family Courts take up additional issues such as birth and death, marriage, domestic violence, child abuse, adoption, separation and divorce, maintenance etc]. A typical probate court has a presiding Judge, a supervisor and a few clerical employees. Let us have a look at the main[..]

-- End Ad Box ---> This article explains the Rhode Island divorce process from pre- filing considerations through trial including Rhode Island divorce law strategy. Finding a Rhode Island Divorce attorney/ lawyer The first step in obtaining a divorce from your spouse is finding a Rhode Island attorney who you are comfortable with. Many attorneys give free initial consultations while others charge for the first consult. I have always taken the position that the initial consultations will be free. It is important to ask the proposed lawyer about his or her experience and qualifications to handle your case. It is also crucial to determine the hourly charge and the amount of any initial fee[..]

You may rightfully get upset when you find out someone you love is an addict. You may think that the person chooses to take drugs for fun. Choosing to take drugs is not a choice in the life of an addict. He or she is addicted to drugs and it should be treated like a disease. Estimates of the total overall costs of substance abuse in the United States exceed half a trillion dollars each year. That includes $181 billion for illicit drugs, $168 billion for tobacco and $185 billion for alcohol. What is important to know though is the cost of drug addiction extends to every citizen in the United States of America. We pay for the drug addiction through family disintegration, loss of[..]

This article by Rhode island Divorce aLwyer David Slepkow (401-437-1100) explains the Rhode Island  (RI) divorce process from pre- filing considerations through trial including Rhode Island Divorce law strategy. <b>Finding a Rhode Island Divorce Attorney / Lawyer<b> The first step in obtaining a divorce is finding a Rhode Island Divorce Lawyer who you are comfortable with. Some attorneys charge for the first consult. Many attorneys give free initial consultations. I have always taken the position that the initial consult should be free. It is important to ask the proposed lawyer about his or her experience to handle your case. It important to determine the hourly charge and[..]

Many people do not understand why individuals become addicted to drugs or how drugs change the brain to foster compulsive drug abuse. They mistakenly view drug abuse and addiction as strictly a social problem and may characterize those who take drugs as morally weak. One very common belief is that drug abusers should be able to just stop taking drugs if they are only willing to change their behavior. What people often underestimate is the complexity of drug addiction—that it is a disease that impacts the brain and because of that, stopping drug abuse is not simply a matter of willpower. Through scientific advances we now know much more about how exactly drugs work in the brain, and we[..]

April 1 didn't just mean April Fool's Day, it also meant the start of something far more serious: Alcohol Awareness Month. This awareness campaign is designed to educate anyone-from those with an alcohol problem to their loved ones who are affected by it-on how to recognize this disease and how to get help. If you're looking for a career that will allow you to work with those who struggle with alcoholism and help them recover, now is the perfect time. These three different career paths will allow you to fight alcoholism and its affects on a variety of levels: Substance Abuse Counselors work directly with those who battle alcohol and drug addictions. They not only help these individuals[..]

Anger and anger management can both be learned behaviors. We tend to learn behaviors from those around us. If we have lived with people who express anger in negative ways, we are likely to use the same approach. The good news is that negative behaviors can be unlearned, and positive ones can be learned to replace them. The key to changing old, destructive patterns of angry behaviors is to learn what contributes to your feelings of anger. The following are common causes that provoke anger:o Frustration and stresso Being overtiredo Keeping feelings bottled up insideo Feeling misunderstood or ignored The consequences of uncontrolled anger can be devastating to personal[..]

Perhaps the most problematic area in the anger management field is a serious psychological disorder called intermittent explosive disorder (IED) . This is a fairly rare disorder of the brain characterized by explosive outbursts of behavior such as throwing or breaking things and inflicting physical harm on others with little or no provocation. It is an impulse control disorder that is sometimes linked to temporal lobe epilepsy. It has also been suggested by studies to be the underlying cause of road rage. It is estimated that up to 7.3% of adults, approximately 11.5 to 16 million Americans, suffer from IED at some time during their lives. The actual percentages may actually be higher,[..]

A mediator in California can help parents involved in a contested child custody and visitation dispute resolve their disagreements in mediation without a litigated hearing. Mediation is a mandatory process in California that must take place before a contested issue regarding custody and visitation is heard in a litigated hearing as pointed out in Family Code 3170. Due to the high degree of conflict often associated with contested child custody and visitation disputes, mediators in California will have special training, qualifications, and experience and must adhere to certain guidelines and standards when conducting mediation. Mediator and Domestic Violence Mediators should have[..]

It seems that we're reading about cheating and betrayal everywhere these days. Unfortunately, this situation is not limited to the tabloids; it's all too common among married couples everywhere. So, if it you think that your spouse may be cheating on you, you're not alone. I know that is no consolation, however, the good news, is that you can learn how to stop your spouse from cheating by getting to the root of the problem now. There is no way to pin down any one cause for an affair. It seems, however, that the causes do stem from underlying problems in the relationship. Many times the problems are beneath the surface and, although they may not be recognized or acknowledged, they tend to[..]

My father is remarrying and he has chosen this three-time widow lady. When I made a background check on her, all I found out in marriage registries indeed points out that she has been a good mother and wife to all the family she made. But would you not get suspicious and cautious too if your father marries someone whose husbands died while in relationship with her? Anyway, I would and I can not take away the thought that she might have something to do with the deaths. So in one of my short conversation with her I pried out her maiden name to dig deeper in her past. I started making phone and address searches for her name. I discovered that she barely attended celebrations with classmates[..]

More than 14 million Americans who suffer from painful arthritis, one of the most common, persistent and baffling diseases known to humankind. Archeologists who study the bones of our ancient ancestors have discovered that the fossilized bones of "Lucy", a half-ape, half-human ancestor of humans, were afflicted with arthritis! Now, after hundreds of years of scientific and technical advancement, a sure cure has yet to be found for this crippling disease. It's Not Hopeless Take heart. The truth is, thousands of arthritis sufferers claim not only to have effectively eased their illness -- but actually cured it. Can arthritis really be cured? Thousands of people say yes! Let's explore the[..]

* Goteti Himabindu ** N.V.S.Suryanarayana In the past studies on public policy were dominated by researchers and students of political science who largely concentrated in the institutional structure and philosophical justification of government.  The focus was rarely on policies themselves.  Past studies hardly recognized the role of organizations towards the formulation of policy.  Yet, the policy is an important element of political process.           It is important to understand the concept of public for a discussion in public policy.  We often use such terms as ‘Public Interest’, ‘Public Sector’, and ‘Public Health’ and so on.  The strategy point is that[..]

Masses of youth volunteers have flocked to Africa, South America, Asia, and India to lend a helping hand for a few weeks during their summer or half term breaks. These kinds of trips are a great way for youths to see how other people live in the world, and gives them a chance to form their own thoughts about poverty, healthcare, government responsibility, and culture. However, you don't have to get on a plane and fly half way across the world to find people in need. From the homeless man who sleeps in the tube station, to an abused child who lives down the road from you, to the nursing home where your nan lives, there are plenty of opportunities to volunteer within your community. When[..]

Successful people have always had clear, focused goals that guide them to greatness. It took Thomas Edison thousands of attempts and thousands of failures over many years to invent the electric light bulb, but he new exactly what he wanted, and his goal kept him going until he achieved it The rest, as they say, is history. Michelle Kwan had a goal to be the best skater in the world. Oprah Winfrey was an abused child who determined to make a better life for herself. Successful people always have clear goals. Great musicians, great athletes, successful salespeople and inspiring leaders know what they want in life, and they go after it. Great parents work at it. No one becomes an astronaut[..]

"When I discover who I am, I'll be free" - Ralph Ellison "Identification" or "identity" is one way we use to define who we are. Either historically, or in the present moment, we come to view ourselves in some way, shape or form that identify "who I am." Identity can take the form of an image, an impression, an emotion or feeling, or a body sensation and make it one of the many building blocks that define "me." Forms of identity that we took on early in life or create in the present moment might include: I am a strong man; I am an optimist; I am an extrovert; I am a spiritual person; I am a happy person; I am a fearful person; I am a worrier; I am a manager; I am a parent, etc. When we[..]

cl Studies around the world are clearly showing that obesity rates continue to climb despite the weight–loss industry being worth billions of dollars. With all the aids to weight loss why is it that people continue to get fatter? The answer lies in how the body was designed to survive. The body is all about survival. In a psychological sense the subconscious creates beliefs that are formed, initially at least, for safety and psychological survival. Such a mechanism could be in place when an abused child grows up obese as a way of protecting herself from the advances of men, or as a way of proving that she has control, for instance. There could be many possible events and beliefs[..]

The law of attraction is often guided by the beliefs of your ego. Everything you learned from experiences with your parents, peers, teachers, doctors and so forth are a continuing determinant of your behavior. The best way to define ego, is "What you think you are." You created your ego to protect you from experiencing unpleasant circumstances. Of far greater importance to your belief system is not whether you have big feet, but how the world treats people with big feet. The beliefs you have about people with big feet and how having big feet affects your life are the deep-seated beliefs that your ego remembers and plays that tape every time something comes up about the size of[..]

Easter thoughts: What ever was the son of God thinking at the time of his crucifixion? Easter is a time where we celebrate to commemorate the resurrection of our lord Jesus Christ. People all over the world of different cultures celebrate this miraculous rising. The season of spring is a time for new beginnings - new life. Nature's beauty bounces back with lush jade privets - leafy trees in forty shades of green and flowers in full bloom. What with the lord Jesus Christ and new plant growth then who are we to disbelieve in the fact that there is life after death. Easter thoughts: What ever was the son of God thinking at the time of his crucifixion? Remember the lord by rejoicing - make[..]

It may seem like finding a purpose has become sort of a psychology buzz word for these days. The truth is, however, living for a purpose really will give your life meaning and structure. To have a purpose is a step beyond simply having a goal in life. A goal can be very materialistic, but a purpose will probably be altruistic instead. (In case you're unfamiliar with the word "altruistic," it means that you are concerned about the welfare of someone else and not just your own benefits.) Really, you're not looking for "a" purpose, but for "your" purpose. The purpose that will make your life meaningful will be unique to you. It will be an expression of your innermost concerns and thoughts.[..]

Physical punishment is not a very effective manner of disciplining your child. Years of research has brought forth evidence that has linked physical punishment in one's childhood to negative developmental characteristics in people such as increased aggression, tolerance towards violence, physical injury, antisocial behavior, and being unable to adjust as an adult. Moreover, it has been proven that physical punishment serves as a big obstacle in the development and safety of children. It is far too easy for physical punishment to slowly turn into physical abuse leading to devastating physical and mental injury that can even result in death. Every year, hundreds of children die due to[..]

What happens to the battered mother-abused child relationship once the children outgrow "legalized control?" Can you overcome the parental alienation? These questions come across my desk by readers and from the hearts of patients globally. My answer is that the core mother-child relationship will always be there even if it is tainted with pain, propaganda and confusion. Mother's Remnants of the Abusive Relationship In her words... "If you throw darts at me and bruise me in every way, shape and form-from assaulting my character to robbing me of my natural civil rights-then there are consequences. What remains is for me to deal with...within myself and with my children. It may mean that I[..]

It happens to many gamers. You get started playing an online game and the first 10-20 levels seems to go by like a breeze and then you hit that leveling wall. It seems like a daily grind just to get one level and you become bored with waiting for the next level. For many people the answer has become World Of Warcraft Leveling services that charge outrageous amounts of money to level your character for you. One problem is many people have found they pay their hard earned money to a World Of Warcraft leveling service and have their accounts stolen because you have to give them your user-name and password. Once they log in and change that password you are basically out of luck. The cost for[..]

Anger is an emotional distress which must be checked and not allowed to grow into a mighty rage. People have died from the anger of country or group leaders through creation of wars or through acts of terrorism. Marital abuse, child abuse and street fights are some of the effects of anger that have gone out of control. Usually a person gets angry not out of choice but out of provocation. The challenge here is to disallow provocation to influence our emotion and make us do things that we regret later. If we have a problem in managing our anger, we must learn to control it before it controls us. What causes anger? Let us identify the triggers before we get to how to control it. When[..]

There are several answers to this question, depending on whether you live in the USA, China or Iraq. I choose to be facetious because many American photographers, in these times, seem to forget that they still have First Amendment Rights. There are enough discussions exhibiting confusion about model releases in the Kracker Barrel Archives to fill several volumes. All of it, like all legal matters, is open to interpretation. My comments on the subject of model releases are always directed to the use of your photos in editorial situations. The real test of this question about whether you should be trying to get a release for photos of children in public is the book, newspaper, or magazine[..]

There is a saying that I once read that we are attracted to people in spite of their imperfections but as time passes their imperfections get on our nerves or become intolerable to handle. First of all what are imperfections? I don't know about you but I don't have any. By this I don't mean to imply that I'm perfect, but then who is? My imperfections from your perspective are generally things about me that are, who I am, but that are different than you think I should be. HELLO... Is anyone listening? You have the right to be you. Who you are, who you were and who you are becoming, whether these attitudes, behaviors, feelings or tendencies bothered someone else or not. In fact if who I am[..]

The laws of the land are quite clear when it comes to immigration and almost everyone follows them with the exception of people crossing the Mexican/US borders. The vast expanse that creates our borders, the ease of crossing over, the level of corruption and poverty in Mexico, and the prosperity of the United States makes the temptation just too strong for many to resist. The principles of compassion are also quite clear when it comes to treating the 'least of these' as we would treat Jesus himself. The Parable of the Good Samaritan tells us to take care of our neighbor and that our neighbor is someone in need. The Book of Leviticus even mentions that the treatment of immigrants[..]

Sales of home and business surveillance/security systems have exploded in recent years Even before September 11th, sales of surveillance systems had been on the rise. But following the terrorist attacks, sales of home and business security systems rose as much as 20% over the course of three months. The reasons for this increased interest in property and personal security are varied. However, whether you own a home or business, topping the list are the three most common reasons for installing surveillance cameras; protecting your property, family members and employees. The rise in the sales of security cameras has been more than justified by the results stated by police departments of[..]

"I know what's best for you...better than you do." Sound familiar? If you are in an intimate relationship that has emotional psychological abuse, you know this message, whether delivered directly or indirectly. The message says, "You need to trust my wisdom—over your own—regarding issues specific to you." Now, when you are living in an abusive relationship, you even come to recognize the subtle reinforcement "routine" employed to help you buy into this propaganda. You might observe reprimand or the withholding of something you desire when you resist the other person's conclusions/recommendations. And conversely, you are showered with positive "reinforcers" when you yield to the[..]

Music was one of the few pathways to self-esteem I had as a child. There was not much positive reinforcement in my home and luckily I inherited some musical talent. I did my parents proud when I performed and won state-wide contests. But the value of music is better understood by me now than it was then. Music is brain exercise! Everyone has heard of the "Mozart Effect" when it comes to music and accelerated learning. And all one has to do is Google "Music Therapy" to see the efficacy of music on all matter of psychological disorders. But I want to address the value of music as a vehicle. I recently did a photo composite of a piano keyboard. Every key is a picture -- a statement about[..]

d="body"> Have you ever been encountered with a trauma in life and not know how your life would be after it was all said and done? This is a story of my trauma and how I survived and how I am taking an extreme tragedy and turning it into something spectacular. This is a story of psychological terror brought on by the hands of my mother. I am the second oldest of 16 children and the stories I am about to describe relays what it was like to live under the terror and reign of our mother. The abuse started about 35 years ago in 1970 and who knew there would be 16 direct victims and many other people affected by her manipulations when all was said and done. Hind sight is truly 20/20 and I[..]