A Domestic Violence Divorce - How Abusers Use the System to Invalidate Domestic Violence Survivors

Victims of domestic abuse reach out to the systemjustice to prevail. Then, the day comes when they
for help in stopping the abuse perpetrated uponawaken to the fact that they have been
them. This can involve both healthcare and lawre-victimized by their abuser's manipulation of the
enforcement. Yet, what actually happens, more oftenpsychologists and psychiatrists.
than most people know, is that these so-calledPsychiatric Re-victimization To What End
"helpers" can be used to perpetuate domesticNow you'd think that if the batterer is getting a
violence "legally" during divorce.divorce and seeking to move on with their lives, then
In healthcare, it's the psychologists and psychiatrists.the victim's declared mental health status would be
These healthcare providers are frequentlyof no interest to him/her. Wrong...completely wrong!
manipulated by abusers to aid them in establishingBy establishing for "the record" that the domestic
false claims about the domestic abuse survivors thatviolence survivor is "crazy," the abuser leverages their
they batter and control.ability to regain and maintain control over the
Psychiatric Diagnosis as Batterer's Club in Domesticfamily...and most importantly, control over
Violence Divorcethemselves, or at least control over their public
Almost daily, I am sought out by a domestic violenceimage. Many people will tell you that the legal
survivor seeking help from being falsely accused ofpsychiatrics of a case are nothing more than to save
being mentally ill. In many of the cases, the mentalface for the batterer.
healthcare diagnostics appear to be grossly improper.The abuser seeks to walk away looking good and
But that doesn't prevent a court from makingcertainly not being an abuser. To this end, they must
determinations about the accused. In many of thesemake the victim to be "bad"..."wrong"..."crazy."
cases, the battered mothers (and abused fathers)Essentially, the abuser enlists (directly or indirectly)
are faced with losing custody of and, in some cases,the healthcare provider to discredit the victim in order
even the essential moments of simple human contactto invalidate who she/he is and what she/he stands
with their children.for with respect to being a domestic abuse survivor.
Once judicial decisions are made, remedies can beIf you are a domestic violence survivor and have
added on and on...with no regard for the accuracy ofbeen threatened with losing custody of your children
the original foundation underlying the initial judicialand the credibility of you mental health status, seek
decision. We have seen domestic violence victimsto understand how batterers manipulate healthcare
prevented from having unsupervised or any accessproviders to establish false claims. And as you learn
to their abused children because of a clinicalabout the reality of what's before you, find a credible
psychiatric diagnosis.professional to help you prevent this life-changing
The sad thing here is that those directly negativelydestructive legal psychiatric ploy. The sooner you
impacted, like the protective parent and children, arebecome proactive in preventing the establishment of
unaware of this ploy during its set-up and ultimatefalse claims, the easier you can prevent them from
execution. Often they go along with certaindefining your life and limiting your liberties.
procedures trusting in their sanity and hoping for