| Do what you're called to do and the universe will | | | | struggle with the most. And this, too, is |
| support you. You've probably heard this, but may be | | | | understandable. |
| scratching your head thinking about your bills, | | | | You see when you're living in an abusive relationship, |
| responsibilities and all of the what ifs... | | | | one of your survival mechanisms is to put forward |
| This is understandable. So rather than jump in with | | | | what your abusive partner needs to hear and see to |
| blind faith, I want to invite your everyday casual, | | | | keep peace in your home. |
| rational mind to do what you're called to do. And | | | | Thus, life in the abusive relationship is not about |
| then, address the missing link domestic abuse | | | | supporting and honoring what you love, but rather |
| survivors commonly bring to the table. | | | | discrediting what you love and grooming your |
| Doing What You're Called to Do Is Your JOB | | | | honoring what your partner loves. In many cases, |
| When you're doing what you're called to do, what | | | | there is also a sting added to this grooming |
| happens?a) You lose yourself in what you're doing | | | | (conditioning) in which you may even be punished |
| and the activity in many respects does itself. It's | | | | (negatively rewarded for honoring that which you |
| effortless. It's performed without strain or resistance | | | | love). |
| of any kind.b) Time stops as you do it and you feel | | | | For example, in my own life, I can vividly remember |
| stress-free...at ease, and your performance | | | | hiding newspaper articles featuring my work, in |
| approximates excellence.c) Resources show up to | | | | prestigious publications, under the bed when I lived in |
| support what you're doing and the continuation of | | | | an abusive relationship. Why did I do this? I did this to |
| your doing it. | | | | avoid the blowout that would follow my former |
| It's as though the universe wants you to be happy, | | | | abusive partner's discovery of my achievements and |
| is looking for excellence, and is willing to support that | | | | recognition by others. |
| which makes you fulfilled to also benefit those | | | | The net result of this is you lose your inclination to |
| around you. | | | | honor what you're called to do and of course with |
| Domestic Abuse Survivors Doing What You're Called | | | | this comes the need to recreate the habit of |
| to Do | | | | honoring what you love. As you invite this honoring in, |
| Now to do this that we're called to do, we must first | | | | practice it and enjoy it, then doing what you're called |
| know what that is and second honor it. This honoring | | | | to do becomes effortless, natural and plain good |
| part is what domestic violence survivors often | | | | sense for yourself and for all those around you. |