| Attitude means the way you think, feel and believe | | | | (mother). Your shouting, abusive language on your |
| about something or somebody. That is: how you feel | | | | wife, treating her as a second class citizen, lack of |
| and believe about something. There are right and | | | | love shown to the mother, are painful to the child. |
| wrong attitudes. Your action will always give you | | | | Such child's confidence and trust in the father is |
| away even when you try to cover up. Your | | | | gradually being eroded. He/she may not alter a word |
| behaviour determines whether you enjoy unity or | | | | but you as a father have planted a rebellious seed in |
| not in your marriage. | | | | him/her. |
| Lack of unity in a home breeds hatred and terror. It | | | | For every child, both parents are very important to |
| brings enmity between husband and wife. Hatred | | | | him/her at birth and all through infant. Parent's |
| among brothers and sisters. It is painful when either | | | | attitudes determine his/her rating as he/she grows. |
| of the couple discovers he/she has been deceived | | | | The best is for the parents to understand their roles |
| into a wrong relationship. A let down could bring | | | | and play all in love. |
| disunity into a marriage. When you fail on your | | | | It is good to point children to the right direction. |
| promises, your partner may decide not to go along | | | | Encourage them to ask questions. Be available - if not |
| with you in truth | | | | always, find time once in a while to be with them. |
| Envy is one of the by-products of lack of unity. It | | | | Children who took to negative ways of life are in |
| gives rise to a situation where people are thorn in the | | | | most cases, victims of being left to find ways by |
| flesh of others, where members of the same family | | | | themselves. |
| see one another as an enemies instead of being | | | | Thank God for the war against child abuse in Nigeria. |
| complementary towards achieving greatness. Your | | | | But what can we do to parents who gave birth to |
| own blood relation could stand against your progress | | | | children they cannot care for. Or those parents who |
| if he/she thinks or feels your progress is a threat to | | | | give their infants out for labour? Such parents live on |
| his/her life. Likewise in marriages. Your spouse could | | | | the money paid by those who hired such children. |
| become a thorn in your flesh where there is no unity. | | | | Such children develop hatred for their parents. |
| The Covenant of greatness is for every family - for | | | | Comparing or showing that you have preference for |
| the favour of God is on him who finds a wife. Finding | | | | any of your children leads to rebellion in a home. Such |
| a wife is the starting point of a family. Marriage is not | | | | attitude leaves an indelible mark in the heart of |
| without responsibility. When you fail in yours as a | | | | children who are at the receiving end. The Word says |
| parent, the children rebel (going against parents by | | | | fools compare themselves among themselves. (2 |
| most children stems from lack of unity between | | | | Corinthians 10:21). No one loves to be criticized but at |
| parents). Spouses are to work out their salvation so | | | | times it is inevitable. However, it is wise to be |
| as to enjoy the favour of God meant for them by | | | | considerate in your approach, doing unto others what |
| being alive to their duties. | | | | will please or make you happy if you are given such |
| When husband and wife do not speak with one | | | | treatment. (Matthew 7:12). |
| voice, the children are helplessly watching and mostly | | | | Children could rebel when their father takes another |
| not happy. Rebellion is the known way for children to | | | | wife. Or when mothers cheat on their father. They |
| protest their parent's lack of proper co-ordination. | | | | detest it, why? They feel depreciated among their |
| No child was born wayward. Most children rebel when | | | | peers. It is a heat issue that must be rectified. |
| they are unhappy with the state of things between | | | | A qualitative classroom education without moral |
| their parents. | | | | lessons breeds adults who show no love and |
| Showing love, care and living a life of dignity endear | | | | affection to their parents. They also go about their |
| children to their parents. Lack of submission on the | | | | goals in life with little or no regard for value or the |
| part of the mother to the father, the suppose head | | | | family name. Live in love, live in unity. Do all within |
| of the family, is one reason a child sometimes | | | | your power to see that the cord of love and unity is |
| misbehave, just to show disapproval. | | | | strengthened in your family. See to it that a new |
| When the head of the family does not stand up to | | | | Nigeria starts from your home. |
| his responsibilities, he shows less care for the wife | | | | |