| The word abandonment is used a lot of late, to | | | | abandonment is a root cause, developing in them a |
| describe a great many symptoms someone may | | | | detachment from the world around them that |
| exhibit. To generalize though, it is as simple as a child | | | | undermines emotion and relationships one at a time. |
| not having their needs met in the ways they need. | | | | Individuals with BPD often strive to nurture and heal |
| This can come in the form of a parent not | | | | their wounded souls, unconscious of the emptiness |
| expressing their love to the child properly or a parent | | | | inside of them. They will unknowingly search to fill |
| completely abandoning a child. Abandonment does | | | | that hole for their entire lives, seeking the love and |
| not merely refer to a child being physically ignored. | | | | acceptance they never received when they were a |
| Emotion is a much more powerful force and when a | | | | child, and yet always pushing that love and |
| child does not receive the love and nurturing he or | | | | acceptance away because they cannot trust anyone |
| she needs, it can greatly affect their outlook and | | | | who has become close to them. |
| emotional wellbeing for the rest of their life. | | | | They will consistently fill the emptiness in their soul |
| It is when the basic emotional needs of a child are | | | | for short periods of time, but will often sabotage |
| neglected that they are truly abandoned and this | | | | their relationships as soon as they become too |
| happens all too often, resulting in many long-term, | | | | substantial, pushing those who care about them |
| ongoing issues. For one, the child will develop an | | | | away due to their fear of yet more abandonment. |
| inability to trust anyone. They fear that the people | | | | Any person who becomes close to them is someone |
| closest to them will not be there for them when | | | | that could one day leave them and they strive to |
| they need them most. They will start to develop a | | | | keep this from happening. |
| feeling that they are not needed and are not | | | | Cycling through relationships unhealthily does not heal |
| important themselves and that they are somehow | | | | abandonment. The only true way to do so is to start |
| not worthy of the love being lavished on them by | | | | the healing process. The abandonment needs to be |
| any individual they become close with. They assume | | | | confronted and dealt with directly, with the individual |
| those who love them hide a degree of disrespect | | | | coming to terms with what people have done to |
| that subverts those relationships, and they can be | | | | them and taking the steps to make themselves feel |
| hard to get close to for all of these reasons. | | | | better, the only path to true happiness. Only when |
| One of the most common situations in which you will | | | | they can accept the pain they feel and begin to |
| find abandonment is in those with Borderline | | | | understand it can they truly leave it behind and have |
| Personality Disorder. For many individuals with BPD, | | | | healthy relationships for the first time. |