| I was recently reminded of how personal an attack | | | | You must realize that false allegations are the other |
| can be when a false allegation is made against you. | | | | parents way of letting you know you are doing far |
| The truly terrifying thing is that there is an air of | | | | better at custody than they can deal with. They are |
| being guilty until you prove you are innocent. While | | | | typically controlling in nature and are attempting to |
| we grow up with the ideal that a person is innocent | | | | gain control again and stuff all of that anger and pain |
| until proven guilty, family court is a civil court and has | | | | back into the background where it belongs. After all, |
| a completely different agenda from its criminal court | | | | if you have control over your own life and part of |
| cousin. | | | | your child's life, how can they possibly control what |
| The 2 biggest problems you are faced with when | | | | you do, where you go, or what you say? This is |
| being accused of a false allegation are: | | | | why historical documentation is so important. |
| 1. The element of surprise – not being able to | | | | You see a controlling person cannot help but leave a |
| plan for it. | | | | trail of everything they have controlled. Emails about |
| 2. The problem of being unable to conclusively | | | | minor things like food choices, bath times, clothes, |
| disprove a negative | | | | money, the list goes on. But with all of that controlling |
| So now that you understand what you are up | | | | behavior, there is no mention of the horrible allegation |
| against, let’s take a look at the 2 biggest tools | | | | against you. |
| you have to work with: | | | | If this is such a horrible problem, why was it not |
| 1. The lack of an historical track record of the | | | | mentioned before the food choices, bath times, or |
| allegation. | | | | money. Simple, because until it appeared that they |
| 2. The motivation causing the false allegation. | | | | would lose control of you there was no immediate |
| The first things you must do when faced with a false | | | | need to trigger this emergency response in them. |
| allegation are to deny it to the authorities (be it CPS | | | | This is a tactic of last resort. Now move beyond |
| or another agency) and inform them that you are in | | | | reacting personally and emotionally to acting with an |
| a high conflict custody battle, and, then put together | | | | intentional purpose. Show the history and that there |
| all the documentation that you can find that shows | | | | is no mention of a problem until desperation set in for |
| there is no concern by the other parent of any kind | | | | them. |
| of problem of this nature. | | | | |