| There is nothing that is more surprising or hurtful than | | | | you probably have loads of email or texts complaining |
| the bitter sting of a personal attack. And no attack is | | | | about clothes, food, or something trivial. Where’s |
| more personal than being falsely accused of | | | | the major allegations complaints? |
| something that involves your child. Whether it is an | | | | 2: The motivation driving the allegation. Why resort to |
| accusation of directly harming the child like a physical | | | | false allegations? You must be doing something right. |
| assault, or mental abuse, or if it is an accusation in an | | | | Because it caught you off guard, you were not |
| attempt to keep you from seeing your child like drug, | | | | prepared to deal with it as quickly as you should. |
| or alcohol abuse it is all very personal. | | | | Depending on the type of allegation and how it came |
| One of the worst things about it is that you realize, | | | | about, you may find yourself kept from your child, or |
| in a very personal way, how venerable everyone is | | | | finding it in court documents that were served on |
| to these false accusations. Of course the focal point | | | | you. Either way it is an unpleasant feeling. |
| that makes this such a horrendous offense is that it | | | | If you find yourself talking to a CPS worker or court |
| could cost you time and even a relationship with your | | | | worker unexpectedly, you should make sure you ask |
| child. And it is that hard wired genetic parental sense | | | | the question, if they know you are in a high conflict |
| of protection that gets triggered. It isn’t really | | | | custody battle. This in most instances is all they need |
| about you, it is about keeping your child safe. And | | | | to hear. If you don’t say that and find yourself |
| here you are being faced with leaving them in the | | | | in much more dire straits, then share some email or |
| protection of someone who has no problem with | | | | texts with the investigator. Then ask the question, if |
| harming their relationship. | | | | this is such a horrible crime, why is the other parent |
| The 2 major problems you typically face with false | | | | concerned with daily tasks in their communication |
| allegations are: | | | | with you? Why not address this horrible accusation |
| 1: The element of surprise. This is normally sprung on | | | | directly? |
| you and you have no idea it was coming. | | | | While you cannot directly disprove a negative, you |
| 2: The difficulty of disproving a negative. There is no | | | | can point the light and ask why now? Above all, |
| good answer to ”Have you stopped beating your | | | | don’t panic. This normally means you were doing |
| wife?” | | | | well and they fear losing control. Keep your cool and |
| On the other hand you do have to tools that work in | | | | ask why now? Why this? Why not before? These |
| your favor. | | | | cases are painful but they can be won if you ask the |
| 1: The complete lack of a documented history. While | | | | right questions. |