| Now that you have filed all your paperwork and laid | | | | your ally. And if time is your ally, it is your ex's |
| the foundation for you child custody order, you get | | | | enemy. With each passing day, the truth becomes |
| hit with a false allegation that you are an unfit parent | | | | clearer and clearer. |
| because of drug abuse. And just like that your | | | | Even if you deny the charges and the court orders |
| carefully laid plans are up in smoke. Now you are in | | | | drug testing, make sure you get it on your terms. |
| the fight of your life and you're on the defensive. | | | | Your terms are, random checks twice a month, paid |
| How do you make this into a good thing? Let's take | | | | by the ex. Here's the fun part, while it is a hassle to |
| a look. | | | | go twice a month, it establishes that you were and |
| Whether you have hired an attorney to represent | | | | are truthful about not having a habit. It also |
| you or you are In Pro Per (self represented), nothing | | | | establishes that your ex is a liar. Oh yeah, and they |
| can destroy your case like false allegations. No | | | | not only asked to be proven a liar, they are paying |
| matter what allegation it is, you have just gone on | | | | for the privilege. |
| the defensive instead of being on the offensive. No | | | | What you agreed to was a program to discredit your |
| matter what the answer, there is no good answer to | | | | ex. Here's the truly beautiful thing, you see, it's a |
| the question "Are you still using drugs?". You are now | | | | court order. They must continue to pay $120 twice a |
| in a completely defensive posture, just like the ex | | | | month, almost $3000/yr to prove they are a liar and |
| wanted you. Or are you? | | | | you are truthful. The drug test facility must test you |
| Just like a game of chess, you sometimes have to | | | | because it is a court order. The ex must pay them, |
| sacrifice a small piece to win the game. Well, the ex | | | | because it is court ordered. In order for this |
| may have just made the move and taken the small | | | | expensive reminder of their lies to stop, they must |
| piece. You would be surprised at how quickly this one | | | | beg the court to stop. |
| can be flipped and how it's done. While you may at | | | | |
| first think what a horrendous thing to pull (and it is), | | | | Now seriously, isn't this a whole lot more fun now? |
| focus on the long run. | | | | You are now the compliant law abiding citizen and |
| Allegations of Drug Abuse and using Illegal | | | | they are the liar who would go to any length to get |
| substances: | | | | their way, and you have clinical proof! |
| The first thing I want you to know is that time is | | | | |