Children and Verbal Abuse

I am a man of 54 years now. But despite seeing soThe children lose faith in their own abilities. They learn
many things in my life and experiencing all thewrong methods of behavior. I have seen some
emotions, I feel hurt when I am verbally abused. It isparents who verbally abuse their child in presence of
not that verbal abuse does not hurt. Some peoplethe teacher. All the complaints they have about the
think that verbal abuse can be easily forgotten andchild are made right in the presence of the teacher.
one may go forward. Yes, one goes forward but theThis is a verbal thrashing. Somehow because the child
scars of the wound inflicted by the verbal abuse gocannot hit back, it is taken as granted by many
along with many of us. How about a child?adults that children can be verbally abused without
A child can be verbally abused in many ways. Childrenhurting them. Adults feel good after verbally abusing
abusing each other with name calling etc. arethem and feel that they know how to properly train
common. But worse is verbal abuse by elders.a child. The facts are contrary. The child feels
Parents, relatives and teachers form part of thishumiliated.
group in a child's life. Many parents have set ideasWhenever we talk to a child, we should put
about how a child should behave. If the child doesourselves in their shoes and first think about how
not behave that away, the parents do not explainthat will affect the child. Only after we are sure, we
them the right way but make fun of them verbally.should speak to a child about sensitive issues. Verbally
If such fun is made in presence of others the child'sabusing a child is a crime in law, and also a bigger
psyche is hurt. The hurt may look very innocent butcrime in the scheme of God.
that makes a child feel insecure about themselves.