Domestic Abuse - It's Not Your Fault

Domestic abuse is more widespread than manythat abuse is occurring. Many times the victim is in
people would like to admit. Have you noticed howdenial and try to explain away the physical signs - "I
your neighbor had her face covered after last night'sfell and hit my hand".
row? But, before going further I would like to correctMany signs exist that can point to an abusive
a popular misconception. Men are also victims of therelationship. A fear of the partner is the most
violence. Sadly men inflict more physical injuries onobvious one. If you are inclined to tread very
their partners than there women but a majority ofcarefully around him/her and you are constantly
the violence is give-and-take. Intimate partnercareful about what you say and do to prevent an
violence and spousal abuse are commonly used toexplosion you should admit that you are in a
describe situations involving domestic abuse. Also therelationship that is unhealthy and abusive. A partner
abuse can be non-physical through acts of mentalthat belittles you and tries to organize every aspect
and emotional torture, intimidation and control.of your life also point to signs of danger. Some of
Domestic abuse is a serious issue that there arethese things may seem harmless but domestic abuse
government-funded programs that aim, to assist theis known to spiral up from simple verbal intimidation
victims and the perpetrators. There are supportand yelling to physical assault.
groups, call lines, social programs that are there toAlso one of the most common and misguided
help. These allow both parties to come to terms withconceptions among the victims is that "I am at fault.
what has happened and give them the support asHe\she was only trying to show me my mistake". No.
they embark on rebuilding their lives. So recognizeNo action on your part justifies the abuse. It may
that you need help and contact someone. Thesetrue as told about the violence being reciprocal, but
people are professional and will always maintain therefrain from accepting you are to blame. It is the
details you supplied with confidentiality.other party that is doing the abusing, so it is clearly
Domestic abuse also has a history of being cyclic.their fault.
The couple will reconcile, and then over a period theOnce you recognize you need help - please contact
tension will build before it is allowed out in an act ofthe above organizations. On rare occasions both
abuse. Also there are many explanations as to whypartners are known to visit such a program for help
people are driven to abuse their partner. Stress,together, though sadly it was precipitated by a
childhood experience, the need to be in control andserious event, causing both parties to recognize that
mental illness have been attributed among thethey need help to keep the good things going.
reasons for the abuse.Remember domestic abuse is something that can and
People need to first come to terms with the factshould be overcome.