| In marriages in which there is no domestic abuse and | | | | the control shifts to another means of expression. |
| parental alienation upon divorce, it is more often the | | | | That being the victimized litigant's rights and liberties: |
| woman who is the alienating parent. Whereas in | | | | their civil liberties and their parental rights. |
| marriages in which there is domestic abuse, the | | | | It is estimated that 70 % of men seeking custody |
| victimized partner is in most cases the alienated | | | | will get it and 50% of those actually obtaining it are |
| parent. Why these trends? | | | | batterers. The traditionalized trend in domestic |
| PAS in Non-abusive and in Abusive Relationships | | | | violence families is that children are raised to believe |
| Parental alienation goes back as far as childbirth. | | | | that they will never see the estranged parent again. |
| Women assume a more significant bond with their | | | | And the alienated parent is more often than not |
| offspring, especially in infancy and through the | | | | simply pushed out of their children's lives. |
| formative years. And many men assume traditional | | | | While under normal (that is common) conditions, if |
| roles of provider, taking them out of the home | | | | one can consider the above having any semblance of |
| during much of the baby and young child's life | | | | "normal," this is a horrific violation to both child and |
| (waking hours). Divorce merely extenuates this | | | | alienated parent. But what we find is that these |
| already existing status quo. | | | | consequences magnify when the domestic abuse |
| In abusive relationships, these same roles exist and in | | | | family also involves the abusive parent who batterers |
| most cases in an even more entrenched way. As | | | | the children. |
| abusers adhere to strict stereotype male-female | | | | Sixty to 70% of men who batter their female |
| roles and demand their female partners do the same. | | | | partners also batter their children. The net result of |
| When divorce comes knocking on the door of | | | | parental alienation of the protective parent is that |
| domestic violence families, the control serving as the | | | | these abused children are not only denied their right |
| glue binding the parents merely transforms from | | | | to equal access to each parent, they are given a long |
| expectations within the marital residence to demands | | | | sentence of child abuse. |
| in family court. | | | | And for society the horror is we that "the people" |
| How Domestic Violence Transforms into Legal | | | | have contributed to the intergenerational transmission |
| Domestic Abuse | | | | of relationship abuse. The children of these homes |
| When the verbal licks, emotional manipulations, mental | | | | have a higher incidence of adult violence than those |
| cruelty, psychological abuse and physical altercations | | | | children of domestic abuse who maintain contact with |
| become forbidden by civil court's restraining orders, | | | | their protective parents. |