| "Where is your Mom?" asked a little boy to another. | | | | the person a legal finding of abuse and judicial |
| The little boy replied, "I don't know." From his point | | | | remedies to the abused, like orders of protection. |
| of view, she was lost. She was gone. She left him. | | | | You think now you and your children are safe. Again, |
| She abandoned him. ...And the conclusions go on and | | | | not necessarily so. |
| on, each one with more and more potential to | | | | From the Frying Pan to the Fire of Family Violence |
| fracture a young psyche. Eventually, it can. | | | | Your troubles aren't over. When there are financial |
| That's what you can expect when you have children | | | | resources available to the battering litigant, then |
| with an abuser. Many people think that when they | | | | many hungry sharks can be fed by the batterers |
| reach a point where they can no longer live with the | | | | counter expedition, also known as a defense. And |
| abuser, they will just get a divorce and the system | | | | the more shark-like they are, the more skilled at |
| will protect them and their children. Not necessarily so! | | | | getting the abusive party to empty their pockets. |
| That's a drastic assumption. | | | | With all this change, often the entire family estate, |
| Hard and Cold Reality of Domestic Violence | | | | legal ploys can fill your skies for years until you are |
| Common sense would suggest that the | | | | consumed by a litany of meaningless paper chase, |
| "protective"agentsthose serving in the interest of | | | | only to chase you into your own demise. Some |
| children during divorcewould insure their placement | | | | women continue until they are confined psychiatric |
| in the hands of the protective parent. However, | | | | vegetables or locked-up felons. Others take their |
| what actually is more common is for you to face | | | | sanity and criminal-free record and they leave |
| threats and/or the fact of your abused children being | | | | moments before the ultimate crash, that is before |
| placed in the hands of the abusive parent. | | | | they are institutionalized or jailed. In either case, the |
| Well how can that be you may wonder. Here's the | | | | children are left to wonder where is Mommy? |
| real common sense. You see when a battered | | | | We see women all over the United States and |
| spouse and/or protective parent becomes vocal | | | | Canada with the same story. Unfortunately for them, |
| about abuse in the family, the abusing party will do | | | | they learned this truth when it was too late. You |
| what? Defend, attack, you know how that goes. | | | | don't have to be one of them. You can know this |
| Your best defense is a good offense. | | | | trend today and you can avoid the living nightmare |
| When the evidence is glaring, the system may even | | | | that befalls battered woman and abused children |
| acknowledge that the abuser is an "abuser" by giving | | | | when they seek safety through divorce court. |