Don't Hide the Hurt of Domestic Abuse

Sisters, brothers, children and partners - the realmsthat domestic abuse is repetitive and pattern forming.
of domestic abuse know no bounds and often it isThe nature of domestic abuse means it often goes
those closest to the victim who causes the mostunnoticed, unreported and ignored but it must be
damage. Instead of providing support through toughremembered that domestic abuse is against the law
times, the victim's nearest and dearest are aand something can always be done to help anyone
common cause of angst and abuse in people's lives,subjected to it. Civil law primarily protects victims of
and this fact in itself can be difficult to overcome.abuse whilst criminal law seeks punishment for the
One out of every three women will suffer from aabuser. Whatever the circumstances and situation,
form of domestic abuse at some stage throughoutthe law exists to help those who need it most and
their life, as will one in six men. More often than notdomestic abuse is just the same as any other crime
the abuser is a family member or someone known tocommitted and will be taken just as seriously.
the sufferer and abuse can take place anywhere; inThe first step on the road to recovery is sharing the
the home, at work or whilst socialising.experience with someone else. Domestic abuse tends
A common misconception of domestic violence lies into worsen and intensify over time so suffering in
the assumption that abuse is always physical.silence and hoping the problem will go away is not
However, the truth is you don't need visible bruisesthe answer.
to be a sufferer of domestic abuse; what youHiding the hurt will not rectify the situation and to
cannot see is just as damaging as what you can, andtruly overcome domestic abuse the help of others is
emotional and mental abuse are equally as commonrequired; whether it is friends, family, support
as their physical counterpart.organisations, doctors or the police and judiciary
It is also not only the direct victim whose life issystem. Domestic abuse and violence can make the
affected by domestic abuse, however, as children,sufferer feel isolated but they are never alone and a
friends and family often become involved and canwealth of support organisations are in operation,
also be adversely affected by the abuser and theproviding an array of services from counselling to
surrounding circumstances. The family unit isprovision of temporary housing.
particularly affected by this type of abuse. In Britain,Sharing the experience of domestic abuse is a
almost three-quarters of children considered 'at risk'difficult step to take but doing so will herald a fresh
by Social Services are living in households where onestart for anyone affected and is a positive step
of their parents or carers is abusing the other. A hightowards ending abuse that no-one deserves to
proportion of these children are themselves beingsuffer from.
abused by the same perpetrator, reiterating the fact