| Women say, I was glad when he hit me, because I | | | | The psychology here is the two contradictory |
| finally realized what was on my plate. I finally got it. | | | | behaviors-emotional verbal attack and multiple |
| This is abuse! | | | | expressions of promise, caring and perceived love-are |
| Do you need the altercations in your home to | | | | cancelled out by the person on the receiving end, all |
| become physical before you can see them for what | | | | with the hopes of starting anew. Yet, when physical |
| they are? If so, you could be making your remedy | | | | abuse creeps into the picture, a whole new level of |
| more difficult, more debilitating, than you may | | | | rationalization must take place for the couple to |
| imagine. | | | | move forward in the abusive relationship. |
| Each time a verbal assault occurs, is neutralized, | | | | Emotional and Verbal Abuse Maintain the Threat of |
| rationalized, forgiven, swept under the carpet, the | | | | Physical Abuse |
| elephant that forms under the carpet gets larger and | | | | Once they do move forward in the relationship, the |
| larger and larger...until the day comes when it's so | | | | emotional verbal abuse can be used to sustain the |
| large we trip over it. | | | | abuse dynamic. How and why? Because, the use of |
| Allowance for Verbal and Emotional Abuse | | | | the verbal assault serves to remind the victim that |
| The verbal attacks and emotional blows are simply | | | | the big blow is right around the corner. This knowing |
| another medium of battering. And some people will | | | | invariably complicates the survivor's dealing with the |
| tell you that the scars of these wounds can be as | | | | abusive relationship. What happens is it keeps her in |
| destructive, if not more, than those of physical | | | | the corner for longer periods of time. |
| abuse. | | | | If verbal abuse or emotional abuse knocks on the |
| When on the receiving end of verbal and emotional | | | | door of your relationship, see it for what it is before |
| abuse from someone you love, it is easier to create | | | | it spirals into physical abuse. The sooner you do, the |
| "permissions" by our own internal denial mechanisms, | | | | easier it will be for you to remedy the conflict you |
| even though we may know the verbal and emotional | | | | live in your home. |
| abuse are "wrong." | | | | |