| of the best things a parent can do to boost the | | | | says that well-being involves every person at |
| self-esteem of pre-teen girls is to share family books | | | | personal, family and community levels. Personal |
| about their worth. Starting in early childhood and | | | | well-being includes hope and optimism that prevents |
| going throughout life, girls and women look at life | | | | abuse. Hope-filled stories show how girls make a |
| shaped by stories told to them. Stories affect the | | | | significant difference for good. When you treasure |
| worldview and belief systems of both girls and boys. | | | | girls, their self-esteem grows. Family and society |
| Did you ever stop to think how certain stories | | | | become stronger and more loving. |
| influence pre-teen girls? | | | | How do parents make a safe environment for |
| Consider child abuse and bullying. Child abuse is the | | | | pre-teen children? Discover and read meaningful |
| direct result of a lack of respect for the dignity and | | | | adventure stories that value the contribution of girls |
| potential of children. Statistics show that almost 80% | | | | and women. Find books with a hope-filled story about |
| of child abuse is caused by parents or family | | | | pre-teen girls and boys. For example, consider stories |
| members. Pre-teen girls are verbally and emotionally | | | | that have these five elements: |
| challenged at school. According to Prevent Child | | | | First, there is a spirit of collaboration. Children work |
| Abuse America, nearly 160,000 children stay home | | | | together instead of against one another. |
| every day because of bullying. | | | | Second, the heroes in the story have a mission to |
| In the United States alone, there are more than 11 | | | | serve others. This could be helping to solve a |
| million pre-teen girls who are between the ages 9 | | | | problem, lend assistance, or provide kind words and |
| through 13. Girls face a special challenge. When girls | | | | deeds. |
| are hurt by emotional abuse, they can develop a | | | | Third, the book follows a progressive story line |
| lasting cycle of feeling depressed, anxious, or fearful. | | | | where the characters of boys and girls are growing |
| They can develop low self-esteem that leads to | | | | deeper and more meaningful. Avoid stories where no |
| inappropriate or troubled relationships. They lack trust | | | | growth happens. |
| in others and teach their own children not to trust | | | | Fourth, the story illustrates virtues, not vices. For |
| others. Girls and women are experts in relationships, | | | | example, hope replaces despair. Peaceful and creative |
| much more so then boys and men. So when an | | | | solutions replace violence. Respect for all characters is |
| emotionally abused girl grows up to be a mother or | | | | the main focus of the story. |
| grandmother, what about her children? | | | | Fifth, the book imagines a positive ending that |
| What contributes to the overall debasing of girls? | | | | children can associate with. Closure is an important |
| Have you considered how stories build negative | | | | aspect of the book. This may include scenes of |
| thoughts and beliefs about the value of girls? | | | | reconcilation, forgiveness, reunion and other positive |
| Pre-teen books about boys or men with power show | | | | heart-felt events. |
| that it is all right to bully and verbally or emotionally | | | | When hope and optimism win out, pre-teen girls can |
| abuse girls. Even some of the leading adventure | | | | imagine how they can make life better for everyone. |
| stories contain violence. Boys act as warriors and | | | | The girls of today become the mothers, business and |
| treat girls as victims. These stories abuse the real | | | | civic leaders of tomorrow. To break the cycle of |
| value of children and teach them unsafe roles. | | | | violence and improve lives of pre-teen girls and boys, |
| Preventing abuse depends on developing well-being. | | | | tell stories of hope and optimism. Family books with |
| Well-being is a state where everyone is respected | | | | positive messages provide parents with an excellent |
| and treated with dignity. Prevent Child Abuse America | | | | place to start. |