Family Violence - The Inter-Generational Transmission of the Cycle of Family Abuse

If your home consists of one (or more) parent thatHe/she may even say those words in the same tone
batters, chances are higher that your children willand with the same demeanor as your spouse or
acquire the same tendency to be controlling and useex-spouse. And moreover, he/she may even expect
battering to get their way. Now this doesn't meanyou to respond to the use of his/her verbal abuse in
that all children of abusers become abusers, as theythe very way that you responded to it when dished
may very well instead become victims in their adultout by the perpetrator-modeling parent.
intimate relationships instead.Your child may break things in the home exactly as
Fortunately, it is also true that one can choose tothe abusive parent did, that is reaching for the same
over-compensate and end up highly sensitive toobjects to fling or weapons of assault to use. And
battering as an adversity to avoid...thereby notfurther, he/she may very well expect the same
becoming an abuser or a victim."privilege" of getting away with it.
Family Violence: Parent to ChildSo if you witness this inter-generational transmission
However, we know from decades of psychologicalof family abuse in your home, do not be surprised.
theory that it is clear that we acquire behavioral andAnd, most importantly, avoid establishing the same
"interactional" styles through modeling what we bothdynamic with your abusive child that you had with
observe and experience. So it's not surprising whenyour abusive partner.
your latency stage, or adolescent, son or daughterThe sooner you can get professional help for your
starts to call you the exact names that yourbattering offspring, the better. That is the better for
battering spouse used as household words ofhim/her, the better for you, and the better for any
degradation toward you.other children in your family.