| Physical abuse which often accompanies psychological | | | | they become adults. |
| abuse of women is very common, and it happens | | | | When those exquisitely painful memories are |
| across all strata of society. Those who know | | | | triggered, they lash out at those closest to them. |
| pretend they don't. To make it worse, few abusers | | | | Eckhart Tolle of A New Earth fame calls these |
| are publicly and unanimously condemned. The | | | | emotions the pain body. |
| battered woman is the one who gets the stick | | | | Opposites Do Not Attract |
| because she had to have done "something". How | | | | So what brought these two beautiful young people |
| absolutely obscene. Men do not hit women, period! | | | | together? Unbeknownst to them, it was their painful |
| The Chris Brown and Rihanna Affair | | | | backgrounds. Their "pain bodies" were attracted to |
| The Chris Brown and Rihanna affair is a perfect | | | | each other and they called it love. And they were in |
| example. I heard someone say recently that we | | | | love - with abuse that is. That's all they ever knew. |
| weren't in the car and don't know what really | | | | But of course, they didn't know that. And as |
| happened, so we shouldn't judge. Really? I guess | | | | opposites do not attract, what else could it be? |
| Rihanna beat herself up. That's pretty impressive. | | | | We don't see things as they are, we see them as |
| These types of belittling comments are so common | | | | we are. Anais Nin |
| and detrimental to the female psyche. Unfortunately, | | | | The Impact of False Beliefs |
| every piece of verbal garbage spewed by a "star" is | | | | Human beings genuinely do not understand the |
| transmitted by the media and ignorant people gobble | | | | massive, negative impact abusive childhood |
| it up as gospel. Quite simply, that means that violence | | | | experiences can have on their adult lives. It is |
| perpetrated against women is set to continue. | | | | because of this lack of understanding that they |
| Awareness is the greatest agent for change. Eckhart | | | | continue to perpetuate the habits, fostered by false |
| Tolle | | | | beliefs developed in childhood, when they grow up. It |
| Violence in the Home | | | | poisons their lives, day after day after day. |
| Violence does not have to be physical for it to be | | | | These negative beliefs are particularly detrimental to |
| detrimental. A while back, I saw an interview on TMZ | | | | one's health and well-being. Some people are |
| with Chris Brown who was still in his teens, where he | | | | eventually forced to seek professional help when |
| talked openly about the physical violence that was a | | | | they break down and can no longer function, as it |
| common occurrence in his home. It was very | | | | was in my case. Or they get a wake up call in some |
| revealing. And Rihanna is no different. She had a hard | | | | form or another, and start reassessing their lives. And |
| life as well before being discovered and whisked off | | | | others stay stuck in the mire of their existence. |
| to the USA. | | | | Trying to become a good or better human being |
| And this is where the problem lies, you see. When | | | | sounds like a commendable and high-minded thing to |
| abuse of any type is part of a child's growing up | | | | do, yet it is an endeavor you cannot ultimately |
| years, the child absorbs the message that abuse is a | | | | succeed in unless there is a shift in consciousness. |
| normal part of life; even when they know it's wrong. | | | | Eckhart Tolle |
| These messages warp the person's psyche as they | | | | Childhood Programming and Debugging |
| grow older. | | | | The programming wired into children's brains when |
| You do not become good by trying to be good, but | | | | they are young and defenseless, dictates their lives |
| by finding the goodness that is already within you, | | | | today. Our subconscious mind controls ninety percent |
| and allowing that goodness to emerge. But it can only | | | | of our daily lives. And because so many don't know |
| emerge if something fundamental changes in your | | | | that, they continue the futile exercise of trying to |
| state of consciousness. Eckhart Tolle | | | | solve current problems with solutions from the past |
| Role Playing | | | | which never worked in the first place! |
| Child victims generally do not receive the | | | | False beliefs are insidious and contaminate every area |
| psychological assistance they need to work through | | | | of our adult lives. It is time to become fully aware of |
| the emotional mine-field created by their caregivers. | | | | how deeply rooted they are and set debugging |
| And they unconsciously role play - battered or | | | | process in place. |
| battering - what they witnessed as children when | | | | |