Healing Emotional Wounds

Positive Thinking isn't a Wound Dressingthat causes feelings that are re-felt every time the
If you have some terrible memories of relationshipthought or memory replays. The repeating of that
problems, failure on tests, or a critical parent, theseloop re-enforces the attachment of the feeling. If
are wounds. These are memories of events thatyou can think positive thoughts, reducing the
happened repeatedly. Certainly there are memoriesopportunity of that memory to arise, you will
of events even worse than these which I won'tgradually weaken the bio-feedback loop. But, this is
mention here. But, if they happened to you, youthe slow and arduous way to do this.
know what I'm talking about. I am talking now ofClearing Methods to Change Thinking
emotional wounds, not bruises or scratches.The Sedona Method and the Work both utilize a
Neither these wounds, nor the feelings attached toparticular thought process or series of questions that
these wounds can be healed or corrected usinghelp you change the thoughts attached to a memory.
positive thinking or NLP. NLP can help because it willAs the Sedona says, any feeling that is not peace or
teach you how to make the memory of the event,love needs to be cleared. Even feelings that we think
each time it comes up, smaller and darker and lessof as good, such as "pride" affect our ability to
generative of emotions. But, smaller and darker is notclearly operate in space/time. They cause us to want
gone.to attach to them, or to want to control life so that
Let's face it. The worst childhood memory is painful,we can hold on to them.
not because of the pain it caused, but because ofFor example, lets say your team wins some playoff
the memory attached to it. The fact and the thoughtevent. Now, there will be the final event, and you will
that life is good now, has never helped anyone withwant to win that as well. If you win the final, then
severe childhood abuse.there will be another season. Or, if you have just
Painful Thoughtsaged out or retired or changed school, you will want
Any victim of child abuse realizes that the wounds,to find a way to repeat that win, or you will look for
the broken bones or the scars have healed. Theopportunities to replay that win in your mind, and the
physical body is no longer in pain. Yet, it is still painfulfeelings attached to it.
when those memories come up.The only way to give up all perceived need to
A soldier will be having a great time with his family orcontrol, is to give up all attachments to feelings, both
friends, but if there is a noise outside, or a persongood and bad.
walking nearby in a way that reminds him of war, hisWhat is the advantage of clearing all feelings? You
face changes, his body language changes and hisare in the now. When you are in the now, you are
mood changes. There was no danger, but he ishealthy. When you are trying to control life, you are
physically and mentally ready for action.asking for illness, suffering and pain -- because that is
What causes these things? Thoughts.what you fear.
The thoughts and memories of past pain orWhat we fear about, comes about.
embarrassment are attached to a bio-feedback loop