| What happens to the battered mother-abused child | | | | strings. I am the embodiment of all that I have lived |
| relationship once the children outgrow "legalized | | | | and the universe from which I am." |
| control?" Can you overcome the parental alienation? | | | | When you own that, my friend, you are free from |
| These questions come across my desk by readers | | | | the abusive relationship that you have endured. But |
| and from the hearts of patients globally. My answer | | | | how will your children see you?...And will your |
| is that the core mother-child relationship will always | | | | relationship with them survive the parental alienation? |
| be there even if it is tainted with pain, propaganda | | | | Adult Child's Remnants of Abusive Relationships |
| and confusion. | | | | Chances are they will carry the mother-child bond |
| Mother's Remnants of the Abusive Relationship | | | | that you have with them until the day that they die. |
| In her words... | | | | It is part of who they are, as our experience is part |
| "If you throw darts at me and bruise me in every | | | | of us. |
| way, shape and form-from assaulting my character | | | | They may feel you from that space and intermix |
| to robbing me of my natural civil rights-then there are | | | | their perception from the mental airbrushing that has |
| consequences. What remains is for me to deal | | | | been their life in your absence. Their challenge is to |
| with...within myself and with my children. | | | | reconcile that ambiguity. Most important is that it's |
| It may mean that I feel the scars from the wounds | | | | their job, not yours. |
| inflicted whenever I see or feel you through our | | | | Be mindful that, when you interact with your adult |
| children. It may mean that I remain committed to | | | | child after the parental alienation, you are still their |
| never allowing you entry into my life. But it does not | | | | mother. And the relationship you create is what you |
| mean that I am your victim. | | | | long for it to be. As you hold that and groom it as |
| To the contrary, you are the puppet of your own | | | | such, it takes a life of its own for you and your adult |
| making, and you no longer hold my strings. I hold my | | | | child to hold. |