| 1 - You actually need to know how long the abuse | | | | bring back guilt, pain, shame, embarrassment and |
| has being going on. This gives you an idea into the | | | | fear, the farther the abuser is the better for the |
| level of emotional trauma that child has been | | | | child. |
| suffering from. | | | | 6 - Do not isolate the child, let him or her be free, let |
| 2 - Every detailed information gotten from the | | | | the child have access to friends and relations, |
| abused child must be held in utmost confidentiality, | | | | because if you isolate the child you make the |
| because the more people you tell the bigger the scar | | | | problem or situation look like a very big stigma, which |
| and shame the child is exposed to, let the story stay | | | | could further damage the child's confidence and can |
| limited within the household, this gives the child some | | | | lead to depression. |
| assurance that things can still go right. | | | | 7 - Any substance or activity that might be addictive |
| 3 - Try as much as possible to make the child know | | | | like (alcoholic drinks, pills, some kind of food, video |
| that it was not his or her fault, that it happened due | | | | games and so on) should be avoided and taken away |
| to the action of an irresponsible adult.This saves the | | | | from the child, these things could lead to addiction |
| child from self guilt, which could slow down the | | | | which is another big problem. |
| healing process. | | | | 8 - Try to seek some professional help if you can |
| 4 - At this point the child needs a new companion, | | | | not handle the pressure alone, just make sure the |
| needs someone to talk to, so you must always be | | | | situation is looked at properly. |
| around the child, show him or her a different and | | | | 9 - Avoid every form of self pity as possible, self |
| special kind of love, this will help engage the child's | | | | pity puts the child's mind in constant sadness and |
| mind and get the child off the thought of those | | | | pain, which could make getting over the problem |
| traumatic times. | | | | very hard. |
| 5 - Take the child away from the abuser, there | | | | 10 - If you believe in God, then this is the time you |
| should be no contact with the offender or abuser in | | | | need to pray hard and seek the face of the |
| anyway, because the presence of the abuser could | | | | almighty, who has all answers to mans problems. |