| "body"> | | | | is because both parties are not willing to do what it |
| As I am someone who has been married for almost | | | | takes to save their marriage. I call society today a |
| 40 years (my wedding anniversary is next week 6th | | | | "throw away" society. It's so easy to throw |
| June 2010), I think I have a pretty good idea about | | | | something away rather than fixing it, and this is what |
| what it takes to have a long and successful marriage! | | | | is happening with marriages. |
| My husband and I are more in love with each other | | | | - Don't let money or health issues come between |
| every day, and we tell each other quite a few times | | | | you. If you really love each other you'll be able to |
| throughout the day. We have never had a fight! You | | | | work through them together. |
| may find this hard to believe but it's absolutely true. | | | | - Never fight in front of your children if you have |
| We have had minor disagreements, but we've never | | | | them. This is the worst thing you can do to a child |
| yelled at each other or mentally or physically abused | | | | psychologically. I call it mental abuse, which they will |
| one another. | | | | carry with them for life. |
| You may ask how we've managed to stay married | | | | - Don't try to live a "single" life when you're married. |
| for so long? Here's a few tips to help you have a | | | | If you're going out on your own on a regular basis, |
| great relationship too. | | | | then you're looking for trouble. A happily married |
| - Treat your spouse as though they are your best | | | | couple will want to spend as much time with each |
| friend. You can tell a best friend everything, but a lot | | | | other that they can. This doesn't mean that you |
| of couples don't see themselves as being "best" | | | | never go out on your own, but try to stay away |
| friends with each other so the communication breaks | | | | from clubs and pubs as they are deemed in many |
| down and the relationship usually falls apart. | | | | people's eyes as "meat factories". Don't put yourself |
| - NEVER go to bed angry. If you have to stay up all | | | | into a situation where you'll be tempted to do |
| night to resolve an issue, then do it. | | | | something wrong. |
| - If there is a problem within your relationship, then | | | | It really isn't difficult to be successfully married for 40 |
| discuss it with your spouse. Don't let it fester so that | | | | years. Yes there are times when we've both had to |
| it gets to a point where the relationship breaks down | | | | make re-adjustments, but we did it together. |
| and the marriage is dead. Do whatever it takes to | | | | I am a totally independent person and I do my own |
| remedy the situation. If it means going regularly to a | | | | thing, have my own friends etc., but I know that my |
| marriage counselor then do it. One of the main | | | | "very best friend" is waiting for me at home. |
| reasons why so many marriages are ending in divorce | | | | |