How to Just Get Over It

Many people work with me to overcome the aftertraumatic diagnosis moments that may still be
effects of traumas like rape, auto accidents,affecting you.
childhood abuse, war experiences, etc. TheseUse EFT to deal with any medical or dental
terrifying, often life threatening events leave themprocedures that create strong anxiety or fear. Again,
with what is called Post Traumatic Stress. They can'tstart by saying or thinking, "Even though I am
stop reliving what happened, often have nightmares,extremely anxious whenever I think of: having my
and develop other fears.teeth cleaned, going for a mammogram, having a
I also see people who suffer from another kind ofpelvic exam, getting a flu shot, etc, I know that I
trauma, and they don't even know it. They usuallydeserve good health." Tap as many rounds as you
come in to seek treatment for something else andneed until you feel unafraid.
discover that unhealed emotional wounds from aDo you still feel sad about losing good friends when
past disturbance are contributing to their currentyou or they moved away? Some people felt as if
problem. These traumas result from commonplacesomeone died when this happened. That loss may still
experiences that also happen to others who seembe a deep pain all these years later. Take a few
untouched by them.minutes to treat your sadness with EFT. Say, " Even
The kind of upsets I am thinking of are: diagnosisthough_____ happened when I was _____ years
trauma, medical or dental procedures, having yourold, and I still feel sad and hurt, I am releasing that
best friend move away when you are growing up,now." Tap and notice any thoughts or other
moving away from your friends in childhood, andmemories of loss or abandonment that may surface.
being embarrassed or criticized in front of a group orIf necessary, tap on those memories too. Continue
a class in school. You may have tried to share youruntil you feel serene and accepting as you remember
upset with your family or friends only to hear, "Justwhat happened.
get over it!" You suppress your feelings, but theI knew an intelligent and capable woman who held a
body remembers. Continuing to carry this stress isvery low paying job that was safe but boring. When
harmful.she was in the second grade, her teacher criticized
Diagnosis trauma occurs at the moment the doctorher in front of the class. At that moment, she made
tells you that something is wrong with you. Hearingtwo decisions: that she would never let that happen
"You have cancer;" "You will need surgery for this;"to her again and she was stupid. As a result, she
"We need to do more tests." Or "I think you shouldchose a life in which she never called attention to
see a specialist;" may feel as if someone punchedherself and never worked at anything where she
you in the stomach or stabbed you.might fail or be criticized. If you are still haunted by a
All you have to do is use EFT (Emotional Freedomchildhood memory of being shamed, use EFT now to
Techniques) to release whatever your initial reactionfree yourself. Say, "Even though _____ happened
was to hearing this. Start by tapping the outsideto me when I was _____ years old, and I decided
edge of your hand saying, "Even though the doctor_____, I am tired of blocking myself from achieving
said, ______ and I felt terrified/ breathless/ faint,health/ success/ happiness/ love etc and I am ready
etc, I deserve good health." Then, using the indexto let the past go. Keep tapping until you feel free. If
and middle fingers together, tap on each of thesemore memories come to mind, you may want to tap
energy points for about 3 seconds: the beginning ofthem away over the next few days.
the eyebrow near the nose, the outside edge of theWhen people tell you to "just get over it!" they
eye socket, under the lower eyelid, under the nose,never tell you how to accomplish that. Therefore,
under the lower lip, under the collar bone, and on themost people just push whatever it is below the
side of the body about 4 inches below the armpit.surface where it still smolders. EFT will help you "get
Keep gently tapping these energy points until youover it" permanently.
feel calm and positive. Use this on all old memories of