| How to raise a child | | | | When we went to a store and the children wanted |
| Introduction: | | | | something special to snack on, ide tell them that they |
| I raised four children to wonderful adults and they | | | | could have two items, ant two in the fruit and |
| are my true friends, loyal, friendly, strong, helpful, and | | | | vegetable section and they loved picking out their |
| ready to face the world. One had and still has health | | | | own two treats. |
| issues, two have graduated high school then on to | | | | Never allow the children to act up in the store, take |
| collage and the youngest is 16 and in high school and | | | | them out side and explain that this behavior is not ok |
| wants to be a doctor. | | | | and that you will take them back in the store as |
| If You play the part of parent verses child, heads are | | | | soon as they stop. |
| bound to roll .A child needs a parent but most of all a | | | | When children fight, have them take time out in their |
| child needs a close and loving friend. | | | | own space until they figure out a way to talk and |
| When the rest of the world drops on your child they | | | | work it out without fighting. |
| will come to you as a friend and find love and | | | | Never allow children to swipe food from the others |
| support from you. | | | | plate or toys from the others hand, what they have |
| There will be times when your child needs your full | | | | are their own. There is plenty of sharing skills to be |
| attention, but they have to understand that you | | | | learned but to allow swiping will only teach stealing. |
| have something pending and even though you cant | | | | For children that throw temper tantrums when their |
| help them at that moment, assure them that you | | | | little in the house, leave the room for a moment. |
| can help them in a moment when your done, just | | | | They do this act to let you know they are angry, |
| make sure that time is spent just between you and | | | | the show is for you and when you leave the room |
| that child and every thing else is set aside so that | | | | they stop. |
| they believe in your word and it lets them feel | | | | When a child is angry or hurt, It has the same |
| important. | | | | meaning and importance that an adult feels. Just |
| If you're raising more than one child, be sure to find | | | | because they are small does not mean that their pain |
| that one on one time with each one. To never favor | | | | is small, They hurt just like anyone, pain is just that, |
| one over the other. For each child is beautiful and | | | | pain. |
| unique and very different from the other. | | | | I would tell my children that if they did something |
| Children need an Education so skipping school and | | | | that was against the law, that they would be |
| letting a child be lazy will only let them find less | | | | arrested and do their time and if it was a crime that |
| respect in you. | | | | I felt that was not right I would always stand beside |
| It is very possible to raise a child without beatings, | | | | them 100%. |
| spankings or angry words. | | | | Children do live what they learn and if cruel words |
| Allow them to make their own choices in life and let | | | | and actions are used, children will do this behavior to |
| them know that they will have to be responsible for | | | | others. |
| those choices. | | | | If you create a fear in a child it will always remain |
| Let them know what's acceptable in life and what will | | | | with them. Jokes are funny but be careful what you |
| trigger trouble for them, that there is a line of | | | | teach them, they will use this skill on others. |
| choices where you'll have to step in to keep them | | | | Never teach them to make fun of people for |
| from injury. | | | | everyone in life is different and unique and deserve |
| My oldest daughter painted her lips dark while in a | | | | to feel good about their selves. |
| southern California school and I asked her to wipe it | | | | Never allow your children to talk rudely to you or |
| off, she let me know that if she went to school and | | | | swear at you, let them know in the beginning that |
| didn't look like the other girls, she would have results | | | | you love them and would never say those things to |
| that weren't favorable, I allowed her to paint her lips | | | | them. If they are rude to a friend of theirs, take |
| to keep her safe. | | | | them aside and let them know that it's not ok. |
| Boys were not allowed to come to the house with | | | | Never reprimand a child in front of someone, its not |
| pants dropping past their rear ends or belts hanging | | | | only embarrassing to them it will teach them to do |
| down or to dress gangster and my children accepted | | | | this to others, and when you take them aside it will |
| this. I never barked or complained much about things | | | | show importance of the situation and they will hear |
| so when I did say something about my concern they | | | | you better and it will stick with them. |
| listened. Rewarding with candy and food is not a | | | | If you teach them good morals, common sense, |
| good idea. Food should be just that, food. Some | | | | fairness, kindness, love and individuality they will |
| people do not need three square meals a day, but do | | | | become the adults you'd hoped for. |
| try to make sure those meals are healthy. | | | | |