| To define bullying or offer up a bullying definition is | | | | The secret weapon in your dealing with bullies' arsenal |
| quite easy. Put very simply, bullying is normally | | | | is so simple but is insanely effective - SELF |
| regarded as the act of someone stronger or in a | | | | CONFIDENCE! |
| stronger position putting undue and often unrelenting | | | | YES! It really can be that simple! In most cases, the |
| pressure on another person in the way of taunts, | | | | traditional bully is usually a coward, full of insecurities |
| slander, gossip or other mental abuse as well as the | | | | and feelings of low self esteem and self worth and |
| physical torment of hitting, fighting, kicking, beating or | | | | that is exactly how they pick their targets - by |
| other forms of physical abuse. | | | | finding potential victims that suit the same or similar |
| As above, a bullying definition is easy to give | | | | profile. By dominating and bullying this "target" they |
| however a bullying solution is not so easy to come | | | | are able to (in theory) feel better about themselves. |
| by. It seems as though everyday in our news | | | | Taking this principle further, it makes sense then to |
| reports we hear of yet another story of tragedy | | | | assume that a bully searching for potential targets will |
| resulting from the cowardly acts of bullies torturing | | | | never, ever, pick someone who is healthily confident, |
| their victims. Whether it is mental or physical, in | | | | has great self esteem and has the ability to stand up |
| person or online, bullying seems to be on the rise and | | | | for themselves and what they believe in. The target |
| also rising is the personal cost that these bullying | | | | is just too hard! |
| victims and their families must pay. It seems that as | | | | Like a lion in the jungle that preys on the sick, the |
| we have embraced the ever increasing amounts of | | | | weak, the very young or the very old, so too does |
| technology, so too have we unwittingly invited the | | | | the bully hunt on people with similar qualities and |
| bullies of the world - now more commonly known as | | | | characteristics. You or your child might say "But I |
| cyber bully's - so much more readily into our home. | | | | have no confidence, it's just not in me, it's not the |
| There are countless bullying stories of abuse and | | | | way I'm wired!" Do not resign yourself to having low |
| torment but sadly, not so many solutions. There are | | | | self esteem and little self confidence because the |
| a few bullying programs available out there and many | | | | truly great thing about learning this awesome life skill |
| schools as part of their school bullying policy and | | | | is that once you have lit the spark, flames will come |
| procedures now undergo anti bullying activities as | | | | and come quickly at a surprisingly fast rate! |
| part of their curriculum. This is fantastic and a great | | | | The key here is simply getting started. Once you |
| start however there is a simple life skill that potential | | | | have begun your confidence building exercises you |
| or actual victims of bullying can learn and utilise to | | | | will start to notice rapid changes in yourself and if |
| ensure they are never picked as a target in the first | | | | you fully commit to such a program then no bully will |
| place. | | | | ever target you again! |