| Women who believe a divorce is a possibility or who | | | | them now, and how they can adjust their lifestyle to |
| think that their husband will be asking about getting a | | | | make sure they can financially survive. |
| divorce at some point should put their emotions aside | | | | Women and divorce tactic 3: |
| and plan "just in case" their intuition is correct that a | | | | Women who may be facing divorce should look at |
| divorce may be coming in the near future. If women | | | | the household wills. In some cases, it may be legal to |
| who believe that the "divorce discussion" may be | | | | take someone out of a will or put someone into a will |
| lurking, they should make it a point to look for solid | | | | without that person knowing. |
| signs that their husband will indeed ask for a | | | | Women and divorce tactic 4: |
| divorce...then they should plan accordingly. | | | | Women who want to plan for divorce should try to |
| Women who think that they are signs that her | | | | put away cash in the event something dramatic |
| husband may ask for a divorce but haven't thought | | | | happens unexpectedly. Bit by bit, putting cash away |
| about it deeply or who think that a divorce would | | | | somewhere in a place that cannot be found by heir |
| better suit them rather than their husbands, should | | | | husband will allow women to make sure they can |
| view the situation realistically and as stoically as | | | | survive in the event of "unforeseen circumstances". |
| possible. This will ensure that plan they take is | | | | Women and divorce tactic 5: |
| calculated, logical and will benefit them based on what | | | | Women who plan on getting divorced should |
| they want the end result to yield. | | | | document any events that will strengthen their case |
| Often times women refuse to think that a divorce | | | | against their husband. Occurrences such as physical |
| could happen to them and one day their husband | | | | abuse, verbal abuse, mental abuse, and drunken |
| comes home and says "There's something I have | | | | stupors that end in embaraasment or abuse are |
| been meaning to talk to you about..." or "I think we | | | | examples or instances that should be documented |
| should get a divorce." or something similar. If the | | | | because these happeneings strengthen any case the |
| situation has reached this point, its too late for | | | | women have against their husband. |
| women to start planning for their financial future | | | | Women and divorce tactic 6: |
| after divorce. | | | | Women who know that divorce is in their future |
| So what do women who think a divorce is eminent | | | | should do all they can to decrease liabilities and |
| or who want a divorce for themselves do in order to | | | | increase their access to money. This includes paying |
| ensure they aren't left in financial ruin? | | | | down mutual debt, establishing credit of their own if |
| There's certainly a myriad of tactics that can be used | | | | they do not have credit already, and making sure |
| and each woman's situation is different regarding | | | | that the mortgage (if there is one) is paid down as |
| divorce, but here's some tactics that will help: | | | | much as possible. |
| Women and divorce tactic 1: | | | | Women and divorce tactic 7: |
| Once women validate their own reasons for divorce | | | | Women who are serious about getting a divorce or |
| and are sure that divorce is the right path, they | | | | who think that their husband might ask for a divorce |
| should make a plan and keep it to themselves. They | | | | in the future should gather all documents that have |
| shouldn't let anyone know what they've decided to | | | | to do with anything financial that has their name |
| do. They should not tell their friends, co-workers, or | | | | listed. They should make a list of all these items with |
| family...no one. And they certainly shouldn't lead on to | | | | financial institution name, address, account number, |
| their husband that they want a divorce if they are | | | | balance, interest rate, etc. Knowing exactly what is |
| the ones who will be making the first move to end | | | | at stake financially will help alleviate surprises later. |
| the marriage. | | | | Planning a divorce can be as painful for women as it |
| Women and divorce tactic 2: | | | | can be for men. Generally, women aren't the |
| Women in divorce should realize that the plan they | | | | breadwinners (although things are getting a lot closer |
| take may require several months to implement and | | | | to being 'new age' than in previous decades) and |
| they should be patient and plan logically. Women | | | | getting surprised with divorce papers can have long |
| should learn how much money it would take to | | | | term financial affects to women who don't plan |
| support themselves (and children if the situation | | | | accordingly and protect themselves financially. |
| warrants it), how much money is actually available to | | | | |