| Maya had the dream life. She had a career she loved. | | | | problems, good luck, we could over medicate the |
| She married when she was mature enough to pick a | | | | baby with addictive drugs to make us all feel better." |
| partner for the right reasons. She had a partner, a | | | | During this time, Maya's husband refused to see the |
| son, a daughter and a lovely puppy. Add the picket | | | | connection between Maya's mother in law's abusive |
| fence and you could say she had it all. On the | | | | behavior and the grandchild's sickness. Maya had one |
| surface of course... | | | | advantage in that she was highly educated and could |
| Beneath the surface she was struggling with the | | | | read like a demon when need be. So Maya read |
| demise of a marriage due to the malicious interactions | | | | everything about the brain gut axis in the infant, and |
| of a verbally and emotionally abusive mother in law | | | | the link between exposure to emotional abuse and |
| who was going unstopped in the family. This women | | | | infant physical problems. Maya fortunately had the |
| had such control over the men in her family, that she | | | | strength to walk away from the situation, with a |
| could say and do as she pleased, and no one would | | | | two month old infant and two puppies, and take |
| stop her from viscious behavior. Maya became the | | | | back her life even when her family was not being |
| victim of emotional and verbal abuse, first from her | | | | protected by her husband. |
| mother in law, then her extended family members, | | | | Interestingly, after Maya's son was removed from |
| and then ultimately from her husband. She was a | | | | Maya's mother in law's house, all the extreme physical |
| highly educated women, so how could anything so | | | | symptoms Maya's son had disappeared. And yet to |
| serious be happening in her life? | | | | this day, although Maya's husband and Maya have |
| The walls came crashing down upon Maya, when her | | | | worked on staying married and communicating |
| mother in law crossed the line to not only verbally | | | | through the struggle, as a victim of infant abuse |
| and emotionally abuse her, she repeatedly hurt her | | | | himself, the husband is very unwilling to ever see his |
| infant son too. The saddest thing about this situation, | | | | mother with the lense of reality. It's a sick situation. |
| is that her mother in law "did not intentionally" | | | | However, it's important for women with abusive |
| verbally and emotionally abuse anyone. Even though | | | | mother in laws to know you are not alone. You |
| she was the former manager of a pre-school, she did | | | | sometimes have to be the strong one to protect |
| not consider that flying into a mad rage directed at | | | | your family. In Maya's case, Maya's mother in law had |
| Maya in front of her 2 month old son, would | | | | a pattern of abusively force feeding babies. She |
| ultimately harm the baby. | | | | force fed Maya's husband as an infant with a spoon, |
| When Maya tried to rationalize with her mother in law | | | | by holding her thighs over his torso as he screamed |
| not to shout in front of the baby and even set a | | | | and cried in protest. This lady actually tried to force |
| limit with her mad rages that were in hearing distance | | | | feed Maya's son in her home while Maya was on a |
| of her two month old son, she exploded into an | | | | business call. Fortunately, Maya was present and able |
| enormous shouting attack of unbelievable proportions. | | | | to intervene. The lady never took responsibility for |
| Maya's then 2 month old son, was quivering in her | | | | her abusive behavior with Maya's son. And |
| arms with fear. Maya had one gift as a mother, in | | | | interestingly, the entire family, Maya's father-in-law |
| that she had enormous mother's intuition- and she | | | | and husband tried to emotionally and verbally attack |
| knew my mother in law's shouting verbally abusive | | | | Maya in defense of this sick behavior. However, over |
| comments at her had resulted in sheer terror and | | | | time with compassion, I understand a family with a |
| fear for her son- from his perspective, he had done | | | | narcissistic and abusive mother without self |
| something to cause such anger. An infant of this age | | | | awareness, learns to cover up what really happens. |
| does not have the capacity to handle hearing an | | | | They try to make the person who stands up against |
| abusive adult. As adults- parents or grandparents- we | | | | abuse as the crazy one. |
| owe it to our children not to expose them to such | | | | After experiencing from Maya how bad abuse can |
| emotional abuse. | | | | get from an intimate family member, I have |
| Maya's son suffered from the most intense "colic" at | | | | committed my life's work to spiritually healing abuse |
| that time. He was crying in pain throughout the day, | | | | survivors, so you become the mothers, lovers, and |
| and no one else had the patience to sit with hours of | | | | the professionals you deserve to be. I will be |
| screaming agony from him. Maya knew that her son | | | | publishing a series of articles called, "You're the First", |
| was a very empathic, emotionally gifted child that | | | | that will be about how women and men have turned |
| was picking up the emotionally abusive nature of her | | | | around difficult situations, and become highly |
| mother in law, and it was manifesting itself physically | | | | successful in their own right. Believe in yourself, you |
| as "colic". Colic is an interesting term for "we don't | | | | can get anything you dream of... |
| know what is going on, there are no physical | | | | |