| Whether to file for divorce is one of the hardest | | | | disposing of assets, then you also may need to file |
| decisions you could ever face. There are no easy | | | | for divorce to prevent a waste of marital money. |
| answers. If you are asking yourself this question, | | | | We are now seeing a lot of cases which involve the |
| your marriage is probably already in serious trouble. | | | | loss of a job where the spouse either cannot or will |
| Only you can answer this question. However, here | | | | not get a job. They become depressed and sit home |
| are some thoughts that may help you to decide and | | | | doing nothing. This may not arise to the level of |
| some signs of a broken marriage. | | | | having to file for divorce but maybe talking about it |
| The most important part of question should you get | | | | will motivate them to get off the couch. |
| a divorce has to do with why are you thinking about | | | | Infidelity or cheating is a common cause for the |
| a divorce. There are some serious problems that | | | | question of whether you should get a divorce. The |
| simply cannot be solved such as physical abuse, child | | | | answer varies extremely based upon the individual - |
| abuse, mental illness, criminal activity, fraud, etc. If | | | | can you move past this issue or do you want to? |
| you find yourself in one of these situations, there is | | | | Some people can forgive and move on. To some |
| very little you can do to resolve them especially if | | | | people, this is an unforgivable offense. Before you |
| your partner is the one who has the problem. For | | | | make the decision, however, you should definitely |
| your safety or your child's safety, you may not have | | | | give counseling a try. Divorce is not an easy answer |
| a choice but to seek a divorce to get protection | | | | to marital problems. Cheating is usually a symptom of |
| from the legal system. But, as difficult as these | | | | problems in an individual or a marriage - not |
| problems are, the answer to the question of whether | | | | necessarily the cause of the problems. If you can |
| to get a divorce is easy - yes! | | | | resolve the underlying problems, perhaps your |
| There are other reasons you may be thinking about | | | | marriage can be saved. |
| a divorce that are not so clear cut but still very | | | | There are a variety of other reasons for divorce - |
| serious. For example, drug or alcohol abuse or | | | | growing apart, changes in personality, changes in life |
| another addiction could be the issue. Of course, your | | | | views and goals, incompatibility, control issues, verbal |
| spouse can seek treatment and if he or she does, | | | | abuse and emotional abuse are all common themes. |
| this could save your marriage. Unfortunately, many of | | | | The real questions you have to ask yourself is |
| these people will not seek treatment unless they | | | | whether these problems can be resolved and, if not, |
| truly want to and/or until they "hit rock bottom". | | | | whether you can live with them. As to whether they |
| Sometimes, the "rock bottom" doesn't happen until | | | | can be resolved, this is a two-way street. If he or |
| they are charged or convicted of a crime or being in | | | | she is willing to try to resolve them, you should |
| a serious accident. However, sometimes the impetus | | | | obtain professional help to assist the two of you in |
| for change is a divorce - the loss of their marriage or | | | | working through these issues. If your partner refuses |
| family. In that case, filing for divorce could actually | | | | to acknowledge or work on them, then they cannot |
| help the person get their life back on track and seek | | | | be fixed. At that point, you need to decide how you |
| treatment. In either case, if the situation becomes | | | | want to live the rest of your life. |
| dangerous or unbearable for you or your family, you | | | | Do you have signs of a broken marriage? Should you |
| may need to file for divorce. | | | | get a divorce? I always tell people that life is too |
| Money issues sometimes trigger this question. If you | | | | short to be unhappy. No one person should have the |
| have a spouse who gambles, for instance, or, if your | | | | power over you to make you unhappy or miserable. |
| spouse simply cannot manage money or stop | | | | People often stay in marriages because they don't |
| spending, you may need to seek some financial | | | | want to be alone. However, if you are alone, then at |
| orders from the court to protect your assets. If | | | | least you have control over your own life and the |
| your spouse is making poor financial decisions such as | | | | complete power to determine whether you are going |
| bad business decisions, refusal to pay debts or | | | | to be happy or unhappy. |