| There are many things in life we would prefer not to | | | | he abuses from the rest of the community if not |
| think of. The common occurrences of spousal abuse | | | | society in general. By isolating someone, the ability to |
| definitely fall into the category of things we would | | | | make the person more dependent is made possible. |
| prefer not to think about because of the brutal | | | | This, in turn, makes them less likely to rebel against |
| nature associated with it. However, it is important to | | | | the abuser. Hence, they forever remain under the |
| understand the common signs of an abusive spouse | | | | control of the abuser. Part of the reason for this is |
| because doing so may allow you to take the proper | | | | the fact they are unable to seek help since they |
| steps to deal with such a dangerous individual. To | | | | have no known close friends whom they can seek |
| help facilitate this, here is a brief overview of some | | | | help from. |
| common signs of an abusive husband. | | | | Threats are also commonplace with the abusive |
| An abusive spouse is extremely domineering. In many | | | | spouse since they are what he relies upon in order to |
| ways, an abusive spouse will treat his loved ones as | | | | make sure the spouse does exactly what he says. |
| if they are his property. As a result, spouses and | | | | These threats can take all forms from canceling |
| children will not be allowed to make their own | | | | vacation plans to threats of physical violence. |
| decisions. Instead, they will be expected under threat | | | | Regardless of the type of threat one issues, the |
| of punishment to act the way the abuser wishes | | | | purpose is always the same. The goal is to strike |
| them to behave. Such an overbearing nature is far | | | | fear into the spouse's heart so she acts a certain |
| more than just an inconvenience to deal with. It is | | | | way. |
| stifling to the point of smothering. | | | | And, of course, physical violence is a common trait of |
| Verbal abuse and belittlement is also a hallmark of the | | | | the abuser. Beatings are common with an abused |
| abusive husband. Far too often, people will look at | | | | spouse although the attacks are delivered with |
| abuse from a purely physical standpoint. While it is | | | | targeted cruelty and rage so as not to leave any |
| most definitely true that physical abuse is a serious | | | | noticeable marks. Such an abuser is cold hearted and |
| problem with abusive husbands, verbal abuse is | | | | calculating and very, very dangerous. That is why it is |
| almost always integrated into the way these | | | | extremely unsafe to stay with an abusive spouse |
| husbands will treat their spouses. And verbal abuse | | | | since the potential for serious harm is just too great. |
| does more than just annoy the person who must | | | | If your spouse behaves in any way like the actions |
| deal with the brunt of it. Such abuse will involve the | | | | described herein, it is critical to seek help as soon as |
| complete destruction of the individual's self-esteem | | | | possible. Simply put, such a spouse is a danger to |
| so that they always remain reliant on the spouse. | | | | himself and others. Removing yourself from the |
| This also ties into the abuser's desire to isolate those | | | | situation is critical. |