| Spousal emotional abuse is a marital problem that is in | | | | through therapy and rehabilitation? Have they abused |
| a class of its own. And the reason why is because | | | | you before? (This is not giving them an excuse, but |
| unlike other types of marital issues, spousal abuse | | | | generally if they have abused you before, it will |
| leaves both physical and emotional scars. In fact, the | | | | continue to happen until they seek help and maybe |
| situation can even escalate to murder, if no | | | | even after). |
| appropriate action is taken. | | | | Spousal emotional abuse is one of those rare |
| So what are one's options when this sort of thing | | | | occasions where, even if the marriage can be saved, |
| happens in a marriage? Now, usually, it's | | | | it's probably wise to take it one very slow step at a |
| recommended that separation is the best answer for | | | | time. Most people remain separated while the abusing |
| victims of spousal emotional abuse. Yet, as more of | | | | spouse seeks treatment. They seek therapy |
| these situations come to light in the media, there are | | | | themselves. Most people do not rush into anything |
| stories of rehabilitated abusers. They show remorse | | | | until they are absolutely sure that their spouse has |
| for their actions and, (after intense therapy), are able | | | | been fully rehabilitated and they take it to the next |
| to continue the relationship in a normal manner. | | | | level only under the condition that if it happens again, |
| However, it's difficult to determine if an abuser is | | | | there will be no more chances. |
| capable of rehabilitation. And even if they are, why | | | | In conclusion, if you are in a marriage where |
| would you want to be with someone who has hit | | | | domestic violence is a problem, it would be wise to |
| you or even abused you emotionally? If they | | | | get out as soon as you can and if they agree to |
| crossed that line once, what's to keep them from | | | | seek help, stay separated while they go through |
| crossing that line again? Well, this all depends on the | | | | treatment. This will ensure your safety. If the abuse |
| person we are dealing with here. Even though | | | | has happened before, don't wait around hoping that |
| statistically, abusers are not likely to be rehabilitated, | | | | your spouse is going to change, because statistically |
| some are. So how can you tell if your spouse is | | | | it's not likely. You need to have a certain attitude |
| among the treatable? | | | | when dealing with spousal emotional abuse and you |
| Do they show remorse? Are they willing to seek help | | | | need to stay strong and go with your instincts. |