| You can probably recall at least one relationship | | | | do is not sufficient. The abuser wants all of your |
| involving emotional abuse. Isn't it hard to be the | | | | time. As a victim, you must exhibit a level of |
| victim of this kind of pain, or worse yet, to recall | | | | commitment to the point of neglecting your personal |
| being the person who caused pain to someone you | | | | needs. |
| loved? You can let go of pain you've felt or caused. | | | | There are many ways the victim of emotional abuse |
| Self-help requires digging down into your memory and | | | | feels unworthy. Have you ever had a person |
| pulling out the issues you must confront. What some | | | | withdraw from the relationship, or mistreat you by |
| people do when they have unresolved issues is look | | | | making threats, calling you names, ordering you |
| for solutions in therapy. Not everyone values therapy | | | | around, or making you feel obligated to take abuse? |
| or is willing to invest in the process. Self-help is an | | | | When an abuser feels superior, you feel conflicted. |
| answer. | | | | But who wants to stand up to a person who they |
| Look around you - you know people who have | | | | love or greatly admire? |
| healed themselves from emotional abuse and other | | | | Healing from the past includes recognizing the signs |
| kinds of pain. These are people who grew up in | | | | of unhealthy relationships and moving past them to |
| broken homes, moved past destructive marriages, or | | | | restore your own sense of value. The self help book |
| suffered abuse from their own children. They felt | | | | "How to be Healed from the Pain of your Past" gives |
| hurt, rejected, abandoned, or unwanted. They | | | | you a solid way to begin healing. You can accept past |
| worked through the pain and came out stronger. In | | | | painful relationships. |
| new relationships, they are not afraid to love. Their | | | | Move forward and discover more fruitful associations. |
| partners love them back in a more balanced | | | | Expect new relationships from people who value you |
| relationship. | | | | as you are and believe that a good relationship is a |
| Emotional abuse takes many forms. Common signs | | | | two-way street. Look for someone who makes you |
| of emotional abuse include feelings of being | | | | feel valued, respected, and cherished. Once you |
| manipulated or made to feel less of a person. The | | | | establish this standard for yourself, remember it |
| other person holds the advantage. That person | | | | always. Never accept less than what you deserve as |
| always wants you to give more. His or her demands | | | | a person worthy of love. |
| are over the top, making you feel like whatever you | | | | |