| Most of the people that visit my site, like 85% of | | | | 2. I had to allow time for healing and counseling. |
| them come from the USA. I have heard that 35% of | | | | My pastor knew that I had been abused as a child |
| people in the USA attend church on Sunday and so I | | | | and said that this time alone would be a perfect time |
| am sure almost a third of the readers might find this | | | | to enter into a time of healing for those things that |
| interesting. It was a very frank and honest chat. He | | | | happened in my childhood. I had some good friends in |
| outlined 3 things that had to be considered. | | | | the church that could support me in this process, |
| 1. I had to find myself. | | | | both male and female and it was a good opportunity |
| My pastor explained to me that when you are | | | | to heal myself up and become a potentially better |
| married that is was like yellow soda (me) mixing with | | | | partner for the next lady. |
| blue soda ( my wife) into a union that made us green | | | | 3. I had to allow time to develop a deeper |
| soda. He said it did not matter that she was not living | | | | relationship with God. |
| with me anymore, the fact of the matter was that I | | | | My pastor knew that my wife was my idol and he |
| was not yet back to my original yellow soda as parts | | | | suggested that the next two years be devoted to |
| of her blue were still in me. He said I needed to take | | | | drawing closer to God so that no partner in the |
| a two year break from relationships in order to | | | | future would be unhealthy for my faith. He pointed |
| re-find myself and also to be in the right state of | | | | out to me that a man can hold his lady in higher |
| mind to enter into a mature relationship with another | | | | esteem than God and he pointed out that this was a |
| woman. | | | | great error. |