The Family As a Pack

It has been a little while since I submitted an articleNew York Times. The experiment was as follows:
here. A few things have happened since. The mostRats were introduced in a closed environment. There
important is the fact my son was operated on. I willwere only a few rats in this experiment. The rats
get back to that later.built nests, formed families and peacefully co-existed.
The second thing that has occurred, is I now haveThen other rats were introduced into this
another dog. I call her Chi-Chi since she is partenvironment and it became overcrowded. Young
chihuahua. Chi-chi was neglected and ultimatelymale (teenage) rats formed gangs, raped female rats
abandoned. She was kept outdoors 24/7. She wasand killed younger rats.
never given a name, or house broken. She hadMan is supreme on this planet. Man can still learn from
nothing to hide under during a thunderstorm. You canother inhabitants. Rats showed us what
understand why I took her in. She is now houseovercrowding can create. Dogs show us there must
broken and is learning how to walk on a leash. I dobe a leader and if weakness is displayed, another will
not allow her to walk in front of me. By allowing achallenge to become alpha. This challenge does not
dog to walk in front, I would be giving over thehave to come from an adult. I have seen children as
position of leader, or alpha, to the dog.young as eight challenge to become alpha. Many have
When Chi-Chi first came here, she did not see whosucceeded. There are too many families where the
was the 'alpha' as I tend to spoil both Bubba andchildren rule. There are too many families where
Kitty. She decided she was. I watched this eightchildren were neglected and found other neglected
pound little dog try to take over running the housechildren to form a pack with, just as the rats had
as one of us had to be the leader of the 'pack' anddone.
this household, with both human and animal, is a pack.I have seen this repeat itself over and over again.
As I already mentioned, my son was operated on. IParents have to find the happy medium between
take him to his follow up doctor visits. We happenedlove and discipline. Discipline means love to children. It
to be at the doctors' office yesterday. I watched adoes not have to be strict and constant. Children
big, imposing man who was there with his ten yearhave to understand they are not the alpha in a
old son. The son had a broken arm. I saw the lovefamily.
this man had for his son. I heard him gently giving hisParents also have to understand that they cannot
son advice. I watched his son absolutely defy andpursue their own enjoyments to the neglect of their
argue with everything this man was saying. The man,children. I know a woman who neglected her sons
in his love and affection for his son, was abdicatingafter her divorce. She said to me, "I have my needs
the alpha position.also." Her needs were more important than her sons.
The love he was showing his son was being takenThe father was not allowed to have any input in the
for weakness and therefore the son had to takesons upbringing. One was just arrested. The older
over as the leader of the pack (the family). Whenone is serving twenty years in prison. Having a black
the man and his son stepped outside for a moment,belt in Karate did not help him. He was just stabbed
other people in the waiting room commented on thesix times in the chest.
rudeness of the son toward his father.We think he is going to live. The mothers' reaction -
A few years ago, an experiment was reported in the"he caused his own problems, and I have my needs.