| Things just aren't working out with your boyfriend, | | | | confrontational, and don't give him a long list of |
| and it's time to move on. But, how do you end the | | | | reasons why you're breaking up. This will prolong the |
| relationship without it being a huge emotional affair? | | | | process, making the situation worse for you. |
| While there is no easy way out, there are things you | | | | Instead, be neutral if you can. Mention that the two |
| can do to make the process go more smoothly. | | | | of you are growing apart and should explore new |
| Most importantly, do not break up with your | | | | relationships. Casting blame will start a fight. Use "I" |
| boyfriend in person. It will be more uncomfortable for | | | | phrases and be nice. There's no need to make him |
| you, and it will give him the opportunity to try to | | | | feel like a loser, even if he is one. Be respectful when |
| change your mind. If you are absolutely sure that | | | | breaking up with him, and show him that you have |
| you want to end the relationship, and you don't want | | | | some class. |
| to be talked out of it, don't give him the chance to | | | | Keep the conversation short. Breaking up should not |
| talk you out of it. When you see him in person, | | | | take any longer than five minutes. If it takes longer |
| there's too much time to talk, which makes it easier | | | | than that, then you've let him take control. You need |
| for him to manipulate you. It's better to break up | | | | to stay in control of this conversation, even if you |
| with him over the phone, on his voicemail, via email, | | | | had absolutely no control in the relationship. You say |
| or by written letter. I don't recommend text | | | | what you need to say and end it when you want to |
| messaging because the character limit will keep you | | | | end it. |
| from saying everything that you might want to say. | | | | Finally, make your wishes clear. Do not say, "Let's be |
| It will also inevitably result in him calling you anyway. | | | | friends" if you never want to talk to him again. Don't |
| It's also important to stay focused on your goal, | | | | say, "I need time to think it over and then decide", if |
| which is ending the relationship. For any number of | | | | what you really want to do is break up now. |
| reasons, you've decided that this is not the right | | | | Dragging it on is only going to make things harder for |
| person for you and that you need to move on. It is | | | | you and him both. |
| pointless now to fight with him. So don't be | | | | |