To Forgive

p>I have always wondered why Gandhi neverJesus in his humanity is a reminder of us of the love
advocated a violent act against the English, or whyof God. Perhaps we could turn it around and say
the Dalai Lama is doing the same, and why JesusJesus as the son of God could have chosen to
asked His Father for forgiveness for all those thatpunish.
persecuted Him.All of us have suffered some pain in one way or
Real or perceived, there are injustices in the world.another. All of us at some point has condemned
We are not able to fathom the depth andanother and wished we could take revenge. That is in
interconnectedness of events so we feel justified inthe past. Imagine how the world will be when there is
feeling hurt and angry. We ask ourselves, why didno anger anymore. We can choose to relieve the
my husband/wife/lover leave me? Why did mypast right now. Every moment that we spend in
parents abuse me verbally/beat me physically/notreminiscing the hurt of the past is taking away from
love me enough? Why did my superior reprimand methe enjoyment of the present. Why choose to
in front of my other co-workers/give my promotionsuffer?
to someone else/fire me and on and on. Why did myJesus never condemned and therefore has no need
parent/child/cousin/friend have to die just because ato forgive. In His humanity Jesus wept when Lazarus
drunken driver lost control of his/her car?died, not because his friend died but because of the
Why did I lose my parent/child/friend in the warimperfection of the faith of the people who saw Him
which I do not believe in in the first place? We clingpart the sea, heal the afflicted and even raise the
to the memory of the past hurt because we feeldead. To forgive, we must first condemn, but how
justified in our anger, and we carry this anger andcan we condemn when we do not know completely?
hurt to our next relationship. Sometimes we refuseWe see only a fraction of reality through the lenses
to enter a new relationship because of all of these.that we put on.
We make it our shield from further pain. SometimesJesus has no karma, and in my mind, Gandhi and the
pain becomes our armor. Inside it we create theDalai Lama fully know the meaning of what the
illusion of being invulnerable. Other times we make itscriptures from a thousand years say "To take
our prison when we can choose to walk out. Weoffense is the same as to offend" for with every act
don't walk out because we hang on to our sense ofor event or person that we condemn, we enter the
justice, our sense of being justified in our feelings.cycle of rebirth, once more. No one is immune to this.
Somehow it is more comfortable to be there,If we feel the pain, if we acknowledge it and then
imprisoned by our thoughts, imprisoned by the past.we let it go then perhaps there is a chance for us to
Sometimes we want to exact revenge, in any waysee through the illusion. Perhaps then we would
or manner that we think will hurt the other personrealize what Jesus meant when he said "The kingdom
who we think hurt us. We can use the rationalizationof heaven is within."
that we are only humans and we are not gods, but© 2007 by Melinda M.