| When two people are sincerely in love with each | | | | your attachment. However, given that the |
| other, their relationship would exhibit mature qualities | | | | relationship ends due to one reason or another, each |
| that deepen their relationship as a couple, at the | | | | of you can still move on albeit going separate ways. |
| same time allow each to grow as an individual. Being | | | | Despite the pain of losing each other, you would gain |
| intimate, they are comfortable and open with one | | | | strength and maturity via the wisdom obtained |
| another. However, if either one is a love addict, the | | | | through your experience as romantic partners. |
| underlying motive behind the affection is tainted by | | | | But if You Are Addicted to Love |
| deeply rooted emotional needs, which could cloud the | | | | Being a love addict, on the other hand, your personal |
| relationship and lead to dramatic and even tragic | | | | experiences stemming all the way from your |
| consequences later on. | | | | childhood has left you emotionally needy. Being in love |
| When You Are Truly in Love | | | | for you may be a subconscious means of filling in the |
| If you seriously believe that you are in love, then you | | | | emotional void, which are open wounds that have |
| must be comfortable in baring your true self before | | | | yet to be realized and healed. Normally, as shown by |
| your special someone. Delighting in the joy of the | | | | many diagnosed cases, love addicts were starved of |
| special feelings you share with him, you are | | | | affection or attention as children. They were treated |
| uninhibited. You allow yourself to freely demonstrate | | | | cruelly or coldly. Either way leaves them with deep |
| your feelings in adequate ways that are driven solely | | | | emotional scars that eventually resurfaces and haunts |
| by your affections, and not by an underlying motive | | | | them in their relationships many years later. |
| or fear—it can either be borne of your desperate | | | | Hence, as a love addict, your interaction and actions |
| need to avoid being alone or a deeply rooted | | | | in your relationship could be controlled by an |
| insecurity that prevents you from being comfortable | | | | underlying personal emotional need or fear. This could |
| with your true self in his presence. | | | | either drive you to compromise your identity just so |
| You and your partner should be much aware of the | | | | that you keep your partner, thinking that you are |
| value of each other as lovers and as individuals in | | | | doing it out of love for him. Or you may become |
| your own right. Neither one outshines the other for | | | | helpless and totally dependent on him, to the point |
| each is secure of himself as a person worthy of | | | | that you could not exist without him. |
| esteem and love, in as much the same way that he | | | | The culmination of the life drama involving love |
| maintains an awareness of how his partner is equally | | | | addicts are usually tragic and very painful. The |
| deserving of these as well. Thus, your identities | | | | consequences open them to other mental disorders |
| remain intact. You move on together in harmony | | | | like depression and anxiety, both of which could easily |
| without compromising your personal space and needs. | | | | set in given certain instances. If you exhibit qualities |
| Although you are aware of the special bond that links | | | | similar to that of a confirmed love addict, do not |
| you to each other, you also know that there is a | | | | think twice about seeking help right away. With |
| bigger world aside from the one that only the two of | | | | proper treatment and therapy, you would eventually |
| you share together. As your relationship deepens and | | | | overcome your tendencies and put an end to the |
| grows, each of you develops further; becoming | | | | drama once and for all. Only when you have properly |
| stronger, wiser, and better persons. | | | | addressed your dilemma, could you claim the true |
| Over time, as your relationship thrives, you would be | | | | happiness that comes from loving someone in the |
| able to weather storms, which would further deepen | | | | truest sense of the word. |