Victims of Stalking - The Damage Done!

Being stalked would have to be one of the mostan ex partner. In any relationship break-up there are
terrifying experiences a person could endure. Literallysure to be friends and family who take certain sides.
plucked out of a seemingly normal life and thrownIn the event of an ex turning stalker this can prove
into one of harassment and persecution would be anto be a very bad outcome for the victim who may
incredible shock.feel they are being blamed for the change in their ex.
Being stalked can be soul destroying. Emotions wouldHow vulnerable this would make the victim feel as
range from depression to loss of self-esteem andtheir ex is given a free rein to inflict their revenge as
shame. A stalker wants total control of their victimthey see fit. Crazy as it sounds it does happen.
and will put them through absolute hell in order toThe sad thing is that long after the stalking has
achieve this. The more vulnerable they can makestopped the victim often bears the scars of their
their target feel the better for them. Using threatsterrifying ordeal. How hard it would be to feel safe
and coercion they are often able to isolate theirand secure again not knowing who you could ever
petrified victims from any potential support. There istrust. It is not often until a stalker is rejected that
no trick in the book a stalker will not try to get theirtheir true colours emerge. They may seem very
wicked way. Mental abuse is always at the heart of aattentive and caring at first in their bid to get what
stalkers assault and often- physical violence thethey want. The damage done by a stalker to a
weapon of choice.victim can take years to undo and this is where
The person at the centre of the stalking would becounselling can be of a great help to restore the
horrified at the sudden intrusion into their seeminglyvictims belief in a life without fear.
normal life. Once the initial shock of losing theirWhether a person is an ex or a perfect stranger
privacy and peace had passed a victim maystalking is an invasion and a serious infringement of a
experience a multitude of emotions. Depression,persons human rights. There can be no reasonable
shame and a lowering of self-esteem are all likelyexcuse for the interfering or harassing of any man
candidates. Some victims have been known to blamewoman or child.
themselves and this often occurs when the stalker is