| Lynne Gold-Bikin is the founder of Family Law's | | | | They see you talking to someone they do not know |
| Commission on Domestic Violence. She tells the New | | | | and now here comes the cross examination. What |
| York Daily News, "A victim is often alienated from | | | | were the two of you taking about? Your significant |
| friends and family by the abuser, and if someone | | | | other's body language and tone of voice lets you |
| says something to her about the abuse, she may not | | | | know they are very upset. |
| listen." | | | | It can even be someone they know but they are |
| It could be any number of reasons why they refuse | | | | angry because they did not "authorize" you to carry |
| to listen. It can be anything from love to just | | | | on a conversation. |
| complete and effective manipulation by the abuser. If | | | | 3 They Decide and That's Final |
| the abuse victim does finally realize what is going on | | | | In certain matters you have no problem with your |
| trying can prove to be very dangerous. | | | | significant other taking the lead and making a decision. |
| The relationship may start off as love and romance | | | | They seem to enjoy it and its no sweat off your |
| personified but it is crucial that you be aware from | | | | brow. |
| the beginning of any potential signs of an abusive | | | | However on those rare occasions when you do |
| relationship. | | | | make a suggestion about what to do and where to |
| 1 Where Did You Go? | | | | go they do not take it well. Either they sit there |
| It was never really a problem in any relationship you | | | | stewing and adamantly refuse to do what you |
| had. It was understood that both parties from time | | | | suggest. Or they fly into a rage and explain in very |
| to time need their space. Not this time. Your | | | | strong terms that the two of you are going to do |
| significant other wants to know your whereabouts at | | | | exactly what they want and they need no advice |
| all times. And they are very insistent about it. | | | | from you or anyone else when it comes to making |
| 2. Who Were You Talking To And Why? | | | | decisions. |