| In the 37 years that I have been
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| | childhood abuse.
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| counseling individuals, I have worked
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| | Once the inner children who hold the
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| with many people who have suffered from
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| | memories feel safe that there is a loving
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| severe physical, emotional, and/or sexual
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| | Adult self who is capable of managing the
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| abuse in childhood. Many who have sought
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| | feelings, you will start to remember your
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| my help were suffering from fear and
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| | past. As these memories come up, you will
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| anxiety, depression, various addictions,
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| | begin to understand the conclusions you
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| relationship problems and sexual
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| | drew about yourself that are currently
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| problems. Many of these people had no
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| | causing your pain. Almost all children
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| memory of their childhood and had no idea
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| | who have been abused draw erroneous
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| why there were so unhappy. Many had
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| | conclusions about themselves as a result
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| spent years in therapy yet had never
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| | of the abuse - false beliefs such as,
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| remembered their abuse.
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| | "I'm not important." "I have no worth."
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| The reason they could not remember the
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| | "I am just an object for others' use." "I
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| traumatic events of their childhood is
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| | am not lovable." "I should never have
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| because the child or children within, who
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| | been born." "I would be better off dead."
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| suffered the abuse, did not feel safe in
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| | "I don't deserve love." "I am a bad
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| revealing the abuse. These unconscious
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| | person." It is these beliefs that are
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| inner parts were protecting the person
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| | causing your present pain.
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| from reliving the horrible pain of the
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| | Healing from childhood abuse is not just
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| past. These inner children knew that the
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| | about remembering the past. It is about
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| adult self did not have the strength to
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| | remembering the very good reasons you had
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| learn about and manage the information
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| | for drawing the conclusions that are
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| and the feelings.
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| | currently causing you such pain. It is
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| In order to remember and heal traumatic
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| | about gently and lovingly acknowledging
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| events from the past that are affecting
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| | what happened that led to your present
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| you today, you need to have a strong and
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| | beliefs that are now limiting you. It is
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| loving Adult self who is capable of
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| | about learning how to access the truth
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| managing emotional pain. Without this
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| | from your spiritual source so that you
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| loving inner Adult, you may get so
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| | can move out of lies that you are telling
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| flooded and overwhelmed with the feelings
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| | yourself that are causing your current
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| of traumatic memories that you cannot
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| | pain.
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| function.
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| | Most of us learn to treat ourselves based
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| The gentle, transformational Inner
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| | on how we were treated and how our
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| Bonding process that we teach is a
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| | parents or caregivers treated themselves.
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| process for developing this strong,
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| | When your parents abused you, they were
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| loving Adult self. The loving Adult is
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| | also not taking loving care of themselves
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| the aspect of us that is connected with a
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| | and were not role modeling loving
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| powerful and loving Source of spiritual
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| | self-care. As long as you treat yourself
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| guidance - whatever this is for you.
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| | the way your parents or other caregivers
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| Learning and practicing the Inner Bonding
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| | treated you and themselves, you will
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| process develops your ability to connect
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| | suffer. Healing from childhood abuse is
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| with your personal Source of spiritual
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| | about developing your loving Adult self
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| guidance. It is your connection with your
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| | so that you can learn to treat your inner
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| guidance that gives you the strength to
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| | child or inner children the way you
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| manage the intensely painful feelings of
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| | always wanted to be treated.
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