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Article #90: Is It Harmful to Continue Having Sex With your Ex-lover

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Breaking it off with a former lover is feeling that you are having. It may be
not always easy to do. There still may hard to find a way to get out of this
be feelings on both parts and it is hard rut.
to go on from a relationship that you How will this affect my relationship and
have grown comfortable with. Sometimes life?
one of the people involved in a If you are still having sex with your ex
relationship is not ready to let go lover, you may find it hard to move on.
emotionally and physically as well. This You may be declining other opportunities
can make it hard for the couple to part because you are waiting for the ex to
ways permanently as lovers. call.
If you are still attracted to your ex You may be holding on to the past and
lover and it is hard to stay away from making it very hard to move on to your
them in a physical way, you may be future. For some people they are wasting
setting yourself up for even more their life waiting for someone else.
heartache. Some couples break up and This someone else may never be ready to
stay good friends. There is nothing commit fully to the relationship and
wrong with this. You can have a healthy therefore it is nothing but wasted time
relationship with your ex lover without that you are creating.
going to bed together. You may find that you are lonely and
In fact, when you are having sex with depressed most of the time. If you are
your ex lover, this may be one of the still having sex with a former lover, you
worst things that you can do for your own may be separating yourself from other
self-esteem. You may in fact be setting friends and family that are trying to
yourself up for most disappointment and persuade you from making this type of
hurt when the reality sets in that the mistake. You have to figure out what you
other person may be using you. are doing and how it is affecting your
Top reasons why I should feel that I life emotionally and physically.
couldn't stop having sex with my ex-lover What can I do to stop?
If you are finding it difficult to stop There are ways to stop this type of
having sex with your ex lover, you may behavior. You have to be ready to make
need some support and help. You may be the break and separate yourself from this
feeling that you are still in love with type of destructive behavior. The first
the other person. Maybe the ex lover is thing that you need to do is evaluate
lonely and wants to use your for when your life. Are you really happy? Are
there is no one else to comfort or you tired of waiting by the phone for him
satisfy their needs. This is a form of or her to call? If you are then you are
abuse and you are only being conned into ready to make this change in your life
thinking that the other person still and ready to move on.
wants to be with you because they love or You will have to tell the former lover
need you. how you are feeling and what it is doing
Maybe you have low self-esteem and are to your life. It they truly care for
finding it difficult to get into another you, they will not want to continue this
relationship. You may be feeling type of situation. They will want to
unwanted and confused and the ex lover is have only the best for you. They may
the one thing that is constant in your decide to stay friends with you and to
life and you feel a connection with them. distance themselves from you. If they
Maybe you are not ready to move on with are not worried about how you feel and
another relationship and you need to have what this is doing to you, then you will
this person give you affection so that know that they truly do not care for you
you can raise your own self esteem up at all and it is only a physical feeling.
higher. This is something that is an This is when you need to sever the ties
emotional issue and may need to be and depart from this person permanently.
discussed with a professional. Do not accept phone calls, mail, or see
Sometimes people are not ready to this ex lover in any way. Make it clear
separate form a former lover. They may to them that your relationship is over
not find it possible to move on to and that you have to move on. You need
another relationship. When this is the to start new relationships and go out
case, it is going to make it hard for the more. Find a friend that you can go out
person to distance himself or herself with. Take in movies, go out to eat and
from the former lover. play miniature golf. You need to
When the former lover is calling and experience the rest of the world and not
wanting to have sex with you, it is be afraid to find another relationship
making it easy to stay attached to them that you can progress with when the time
and to feel the connection that you once is right.
did. This is a comfortable and familiar






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