Parents, Teens and Cyberspace

Isn't that obscene?I heard Kris commenting on seeingproblem and help them avoid problems in the future.
an obscene image on the web page to Philip.WhyRemember - how you respond to a problem initially
should anybody be allowed to use such images inwill determine whether they confide in you the next
online? Someone should do something about peopletime they encounter a problem and how they learn
like these who made this horrible, obscene web pageto deal with problems on their own.Guidelines for
that uses pictures like that where anyone could seeParents to avoid risks online for their teensGet to
them. What will become of my teenage son when heknow about internet: If you are not aware of the
comes across such a page? Why don't we censorinternet, get to know about it. At least the basics.
this kind of thing?I was surprised to hear Philip'sThis will help you guide your teen and watch his/her
reply:Well, no, what you say? It's art. I see worseonline activities.Get to know about your teen's
than that on TV channels! Why would anybody bebrowsing habits: Don't let your teen go online
upset about that?We're all adults here, right? And ifunsupervised. Always know what your teen is doing
we aren't, if there is some young innocentonline. This doesn't mean peeping above their
thirteen-year-old soul, why are their parents notshoulders. Consider keeping the computer in a family
supervising their internet use? Why would picturesroom rather than in the teen's bedroom. Browse
like that bother anyone? Why should we censoralong with your teen when you are free. Let him/her
that?Now, who is right? Neither or both. No one canshare their favorite sites with you. This will give you
really answer this question in just one word. This is aan idea about their browsing habits.Get to know
never ending debate. While debating on whether aabout your teen's alternative sources of going online:
page is Obscene or not, our focus turns on to ourUnderstand that there are many sources by which
young innocent soul that has just started surfing theteens can go online other than your PC at home. It
net. Parents are worried about the risks to theircan be in a friend's house, in school, a library, club, or
teens online, while some are not really aware of it.cafe. Many game consoles can be connected to the
Although there is a reason to be concerned aboutInternet and used for chatting and other online
exposing teens to sexually explicit material, it'sinteraction. It is also possible to access the Internet
important to look beyond pornography when thinkingon mobile devices such as cellular telephones and
about keeping teens safe on the Net.The Internetother handheld devices. Get to know about your
has good information that teens can learn from andteen's e-friends: Like pen friends those days, teens
use. The Internet connects teens globally to othermay have e-friends. It's absolutely safe if that
teens. The number of teens using the Internetrelationship stops at healthy chatting. It's not safe to
grows rapidly each day. However, there are risksallow your teen to arrange a face to face meeting
involved. When teens are online, they become morewith someone they "meet" on the Internet without
vulnerable. Teenagers are particularly at risk becauseparental permission. If a meeting is arranged, make
they often go online unsupervised and are more likelythe first one in a public place, and be sure to
than younger children to participate in onlineaccompany. Remember that people online may not
discussions regarding companionship, relationships, orbe who they seem. As you can't see or even hear
sexual activity. According to a recent U.S.the person, it would be easy for someone to
Department of Justice study, 24 million childrenmisrepresent him or her. Thus someone indicating
between the ages of 12 and 17 use the Internet.that "she" is a "16-year-old girl" could in reality be a
One in 5 children online is sexually solicited yet only 135-year-old man.Tell your teen about the importance
in 4 reportedly tells an adult about theof Privacy: Instruct the teen to never give out
solicitation.Risks that are faced by teens onlineTheidentifying information such as photographs, home
main risks a teenager may face online are:Exposureaddress, school name, e-mail id or telephone number,
to Obscene material - Many a time, teens may havein a public message such as chat or newsgroups. Tell
to confront with material that is disturbing orthe teen about the importance of keeping personal
inappropriate which is violent or sexual in nature. Peerinformation, credit card number and passwords
to peer networks are sometimes used to distributeconfidential. Tell the teen breaching into others
pornography, including child pornography. Manyprivacy is bad manners.Install software to block and
commercial web sites have links to pornographicwatch: Use filtering programs such as NetNanny,
sites.Harassment and bullying - Teens mightSurfWatch, CyberPatrol and CyberSitter. These
encounter e-mail or bulletin board messages that aresoftware, helps in blocking porn sites, hate sites and
harassing, demeaning, or belligerent.Physicalothers that meet their blocking criteria. It also blocks
molestation - Teens might provide personalsites containing words that have been deemed
information to strangers on the web or arrange anobscene. It provides reasonably good access to safe
encounter that could risk his or her safety or thesites that ought to be available. This also monitors
safety of other family members. In a few cases,where a child has been.Another option is to use a
intruders had used online services and bulletin boardsrating system that relies on web-site operators to
to gain a child's confidence and then arrange a faceindicate the nature of their material. Internet
to face meeting. Monitory loss - Teens could dobrowsers can be configured to only allow teens to
something that may be illegal or that leads to financialvisit sites that are rated at the level that the parents
consequences, such as giving away father's creditspecify. The advantage to this method is that only
card number.Places of Risk in the Cyberspace for aappropriately rated sites can be viewed. The
Teenager.Just like there are many TV channels, theredisadvantage of using such software is that, some
are many avenues in the web. The risky places ontime good sites may also be blocked because of the
the web for a teenager includeCommercialword it may contain. Eg. Some sites which give
sitesInternet relay chat(IRC)Instantinformation on "Breast cancer" may be blocked if you
Messaging(IM)ChatroomsE-mailPeer-to-Peerblock the sites which contain the word "Breast" in it.
NetworksNewsgroups, Forums and BulletinMany parents have a question in their mind, "Should I
BoardsShould Teens be monitored by parentsstop my teenager from using the web?" The answer
online?YES. Nowadays teens demand privacy. At theis a big NO. To tell teens to stop using these services
same time, they also need parental involvement andwould be like telling them to stop attending school
supervision in their daily lives. The same generalbecause students sometimes get to develop bad
parenting skills that apply to the "real world" alsofriendship there. A better strategy would be to teach
apply while online. Talk to them about their onlineteens how to be smart. Teach them moral values so
activities. If your teenage son/daughter tells youthat they know what is right and wrong in order to
about an upsetting message, person, or web sitesafeguard them in any potentially risky situation.Safe
encountered while online, immediately don't blamesurfing!!!!!
your teen but help him/her to get out of the