| A few weeks ago my community paper
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| | because it is usually administered when
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| published a letter to the editor which
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| | the parent is at their 'wits end' or the
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| asked the question, "When will society
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| | parent(s) is/are in a bad mood about
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| stop domestic violence?"The answer to the
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| | something which sometimes has no
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| question is surprisingly simple, but
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| | relationship to what the child did
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| difficult for people to accept, because
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| | creates distrust. How can a child
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| domestic violence is ensconced in the
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| | continue to trust a parent, who has
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| deepest fiber of many families--religion.
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| | betrayed them? Children trust their
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| Many religions teach that 'spare the rod,
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| | parent implicitly, but once that trust
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| you spoil the child' or that the Bible,
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| | has been betrayed it is seldom regained,
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| specifically the book of Proverbs,
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| | because there is no way to achieve
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| commands spanking.There is a distinction,
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| | reconciliation with a parent/person who
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| however, which is of key interest to
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| | doesn't acknowledge their unacceptable
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| fundamentalists, between the practice in
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| | behavior.When will society stop domestic
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| King Solomon's day of beating people on
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| | violence? The simple answer is: When
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| the back for discipline. The latter is
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| | society stops sanctioning and promoting
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| not prescribed anywhere in the
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| | hitting or spanking children at home or
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| Bible.Furthermore, it needs to be pointed
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| | in school. Twenty-two states allow
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| out that the Old Testament contains
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| | corporal punishment with a wooden paddle
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| passages that could be (and in some
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| | in schools. Is your state one of the
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| incidents have been) construed as divine
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| | twenty-two? Alabama, Arizona, Arkansas,
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| endorsements of wife-beating, racial
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| | Colorado, Florida, Georgia, Idaho,
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| warfare, slavery, the stoning to death of
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| | Indiana, Kansas, Kentucky, Louisiana,
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| rebellious children and other behaviors
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| | Mississippi, Missouri, New Mexico, North
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| that are outrageous by today's
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| | Carolina, Ohio, Oklahoma, Pennsylvania,
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| standards.If our laws no longer allow
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| | South Carolina, Tennessee, Texas and
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| these Biblical commands, why then do we
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| | Wyoming allow paddling children with a
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| hit children, a.k.a. chastening to
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| | wooden paddle in schools.The real
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| supposedly correct unacceptable
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| | question is "When will you stop
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| behavior?The answer is not complicated.
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| | sanctioning and promoting hitting
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| We cannot conceive this Biblical and
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| | spanking of children in your community,
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| society-sanctioned form of child
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| | your school, your state? As Voltaire
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| discipline as abuse until we can honestly
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| | pointed out long ago: "We are not only
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| acknowledge the mistreatment from our own
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| | responsible for what we do, but also for
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| childhood experiences and examine the
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| | that what we don't do." If you aren't
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| shortcomings of our own parents.As long
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| | part of the solution, you are part of the
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| as we believe, "I was hit and I turned
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| | problem. Take action to educate yourself
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| out OK," the practice of violence through
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| | and others about this insidious crime
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| spanking will continue to be perpetuated
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| | against children.1. "Punished for life:
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| in the home with the blessing of religion
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| | Canadian study links spanking to
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| and a blind eye from society--unless of
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| | addiction and psychiatric disorders,"
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| course the 'spanking' goes too far and
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| | Reuters, 1995-OCT-5. Online at: Harriet
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| the child is bloodied and bruised.One
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| | McMillan, et al., "Slapping and spanking
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| fundamental commonality among all men and
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| | in childhood and its association with
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| women in prison is the fact they were all
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| | lifetime prevalence of psychiatric
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| spanked. If spanking created compliance
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| | disorders in a general population
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| to rules of society, then why is this the
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| | sample," Canadian Medical Association
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| only commonality among people who are on
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| | Journal, 1999-OCT-5, at: Jane Gadd,
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| the wrong side of the law?Our laws and
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| | "Spanked children suffer intellectually,"
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| our cultural values are unambiguous
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| | The Globe and Mail, Toronto ON,
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| concerning adults who hit, attack or
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| | 1998-JUL-304. M.A. Straus, Corporal
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| verbally threaten other adults. Such
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| | punishment of children and adult
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| behavior is recognized as criminal and we
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| | depression and suicidal ideation,"
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| hold them accountable.Why then when so
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| | Chapter 5 of: "Beating the devil out of
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| much is at stake for society, do we
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| | them: Corporal punishment in American
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| accept and promote physical assault
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| | families and its effects on children,"
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| against children? Then we wonder why
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| | New Brunswick, (2000), Page 60 to 77.
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| there is domestic violence. Adults tend
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| | Online at: This is a PDF file. You may
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| to repeat what they experienced more
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| | require software to read it. Software can
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| often than not. The old saying, 'The
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| | be obtained free from: Adobe Acrobat5. P.
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| acorn doesn't fall far from the tree'
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| | Greven, "Spare the child: The religious
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| makes this point. The child accepts the
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| | roots of physical punishment and the
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| message, "If I don't like something
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| | psychological impact of physical abuse,"
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| someones says or does, hitting is the
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| | Knopf, (1991)6. Irvin Wolkoff, "Spanked
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| acceptable response."As a physical and
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| | child can become self-loathing adult,"
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| sexual abuse prevention specialist, I
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| | The Toronto Star, 1999-NOV-26, Page F4.7.
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| have heard all the rationales why
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| | E. Larzelere, "A review of the outcomes
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| spanking is the only form of discipline
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| | of parental use of non-abusive or
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| some children seem to need in order to
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| | customary physical punishment,"
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| get the message. All these rationales are
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| | Pediatrics 98:824-8318. Patricia McBroom,
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| biologically faulty, because when a child
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| | "UC Berkeley study finds no lasting harm
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| is hit, his/her brain goes into shock and
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| | among adolescents from moderate spanking
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| when the brain is in shock it no longer
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| | earlier in childhood," at: Maggie Fox,
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| can assimilate information. Thus the
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| | "Why some boys go bad: Gene study may
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| message the parent intends to convey is
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| | show why abused turn violent," Reuters
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| lost. Furthermore, hitting is a betrayal
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| | News Agency, 2002-AUG-1.10.Michael A.
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| of trust and engenders anger/rage not
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| | Milburn & Sheree D. Conrad, "The Politics
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| compliance.Think about it, if spanking is
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| | of Denial," MIT Press, (1996). Read
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| the magic solution for correcting
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| | reviews or order this book safely from
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| aberrant behavior, then why doesn't one
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| | online book store11. Andrew
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| spanking solve the problem? Why does the
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| | Grogan-Kaylor, "The effect of corporal
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| child continue to repeat the same
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| | punishment on antisocial behavior in
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| unacceptable behavior over and over?Again
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| | children," Social Work Research, Vol. 28,
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| the answer is simple--spanking doesn't
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| | # 3, 2004-SEP, Pages 153-162.12. "U-M
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| work and children repeat any
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| | study: Spanking can lead to more bad
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| behavior--acceptable or unacceptable
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| | behavior by children," University of
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| because they are in a learning process
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| | Michigan News Service, 2004-SEP-08, at:
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| and they learn by repetition.Consistent
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| | The abstract is online at: You can also
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| consequences such as: time out,
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| | purchase the article from the same
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| grounding, withholding something of
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| | URL.14. Sean Fine, "Study links spanking
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| significance, extra chores teaches
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| | to future alcohol abuse," The Globe and
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| critical thinking, problem solving,
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| | Mail, Toronto, 1999-OCT-5, Pages A1 &
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| relationship building and understanding
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| | A13Dorothy M. Neddermeyer, PhD,
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| how they are the creator of the
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| | specializes in verbal, physical and
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| consequence.Whereas hitting/spanking
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| | sexual abuse prevention and recovery.
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