| It is quite fascinating today when I see some parents | | | | life until they reach the age of majority which in |
| letting their child or children tell them (the parent) | | | | some states is either 18 or 19 years old (check your |
| what they want to do or what they're going to do. | | | | state laws for accuracy). |
| Or even what they won't do. Do you let your child | | | | Reason being once your child reaches a certain age |
| tell you want they're going to do? I'm from the old | | | | they will be constantly telling you all the time what |
| school. Back in the day if I told my parents what I | | | | they will do or what they will not do and you could |
| was going to do or want I wanted to do in detail I | | | | find yourself being intimidated by your own child. You |
| would have been slapped right in the face and put in | | | | don't want that. Your job a parent is shaping and |
| my place as a child. Yes, it is necessary for children | | | | molding your child to become a splitting image of |
| today to have a say so in their activities today. But, | | | | yourself. Hopefully your demeanor and your attitude |
| by the same token you as a parent have to be the | | | | is one that is warm, welcoming and friendly. Your |
| one shaping, molding and directing your child's life. Until | | | | children will mimic your behavior patterns. So if they |
| your child begins helping take care of the home | | | | see you being considerate and kind they will do the |
| including but not limited to; paying some of the bills, | | | | same. Yet, if they see you clowning and acting a fool |
| buying groceries, buying their own clothes etc. then | | | | trust me, they will imitate you. |
| you as the parent have all decision making that's best | | | | I know we have all these child custody laws granting |
| for your child or children. There are some things of | | | | children their rights. Which is cool; but as long as you |
| course you can let your child decide to a certain | | | | are providing the necessities for your child or children |
| degree. Like if they want to play a particular sport or | | | | then do not be intimidated by the judicial system. |
| participate in some other extra-curricular activity. | | | | Learn the system for your benefit and for the |
| Some parents today want to be their children friends. | | | | benefits of your children. |
| That's o.k. to a certain degree; there's certain limits; | | | | Who's the Parent you or your Child? |
| and a time and place to be-friend your child. For | | | | Your child or children are an asset to you and not a |
| instance, say you were both out having fun at a | | | | liability. Look, Children are a heritage from the Lord, |
| store or some place of recreation. But then if | | | | the fruit of your womb is a reward. Psalm 127:3. If |
| parental decisions need to be addressed, then don't | | | | you are struggling with your parental rights and |
| look to your child to make a decision which is your | | | | responsibilities sign-up to receive tips on life in general |
| responsibility as a parent. As a parent today you | | | | and I can help you with your parenting concerns. |
| want to make sure you are in control of your child's | | | | Copyright © 2007 Clark A. |