| If there ever was any doubt in your mind where | | | | - Abuse is normal because their peers are abused |
| adult domestic violence has its roots-put your | | | | - Jealousy, possessiveness and even abuse are |
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| recent study partnered by Teenage Research | | | | support these findings. This serves as pretty solid |
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| 13-18 were surveyed on the frequency of dating | | | | frowns on adult domestic violence, yet it appears |
| violence in their lives.The study revealed some | | | | they serve their apprenticeships in high school learning |
| shocking statistics and facts about the teen dating | | | | the nuances of how to abuse. Do they learn on their |
| scene. Among many conclusions are that a significant | | | | own or do they learn from their abusive parents? It |
| percentage of teens not only are victims of dating | | | | is a very difficult question to answer nevertheless |
| abuse but also they accept it as normal and that | | | | the cycle must be broken. Today's youth represent |
| they feel pressured to have and keep relationships | | | | the best chance to make a change.Here's how to |
| particularly if it is a "serious" one.Teens in these | | | | start. Educate and Prevent.Know Some Warning |
| serious relationships report by nearly a 2 to 1 margin | | | | Signs. Is there a history of violence with previous |
| more abuse, controlling and even violent behavior | | | | partners? Are there threats of violence, use of |
| compared to other teens.The study also showed | | | | force? Is there cruelty to animals? Are traits of |
| that: | | | | sudden anger, jealousy, verbal abuse, controlling |
| - 20% in a serious relationship report being hit, | | | | behavior, unpredictable mood swings present? All or |
| slapped or pushed | | | | any of these can be predictors of future behavior |
| - 30% report being worried about their physical | | | | and definite warning signs.Set Standards. Only allow |
| safety | | | | double dates for the first few dates. Know exactly |
| - 64% report controlling behavior | | | | what the plans are-who, where, what, when-be very |
| - 55% compromise their values to please their | | | | specific. Remember: Trust but Verify. You love your |
| partner | | | | children. It is your responsibility to set the standards |
| - 61% reported having a partner who made them | | | | for their actions.Develop a Safety Plan. In an |
| feel bad or embarrassed about themselves | | | | emergency know who to call: police, relative, parents, |
| - 25% report being in a relationship where their | | | | friend, neighbor, pastor-have a calling card handy. |
| partner put them down or called them names | | | | Know who you can trust to talk to. Develop a buddy |
| - 29% said they were pressured to have sex they | | | | system at school so you are never alone. Change |
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| - 50% of young women worry that their partner will | | | | lethal self defense items-pepper spray, personal |
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