| Relationships are like physical magnets. That | | | | |
| is why you find that most people who enter | | | | If possible, they would like to find someone |
| into a relationship are alike. This also | | | | who can give them solace; erase their painful |
| applies to children who have been abused | | | | memories, and make them live normally. But |
| during their childhood. They somehow attract | | | | where can they find such partners? Their |
| other adults who have had similar experience. | | | | subconscious mind keeps telling them to be on |
| | | | guard; and not to enter into another bruising |
| However, very few of these relationships tend | | | | relationship. That is why most of their |
| to be stable. People who have had a traumatic | | | | relationships are brief and unnatural. |
| childhood need more mature partners. They | | | | |
| don't need partners who are emotionally and | | | | Children of divorced families |
| mentally scarred. Unfortunately, as the Law | | | | |
| of Attraction states, they continue to | | | | We should also not forget children whose |
| attract partners who are like them. | | | | parents break up during their growing years. |
| | | | These children may not suffer from any direct |
| Kinds of child abuse | | | | abuse but emotionally they are shattered. The |
| | | | effect is especially noticeable among those |
| However, before examining relationships | | | | children who have seen their parents inflict |
| between adults who have had a traumatic | | | | physical and emotional wounds upon each |
| childhood it is important to understand the | | | | other. Such children tend to slip into |
| different kinds of child abuse. Psychologists | | | | depression, become unnaturally quiet and |
| recognize four clear acts of abuse. These | | | | withdrawn or turn into bullies. |
| are: | | | | |
| | | | They too, when they become adults, get |
| 1. Physical abuse: This happens when children | | | | attracted to men and women who come from |
| are repeatedly beaten by hands, fists, sticks | | | | divorced families. Many of them would not |
| etc for small misdemeanors. Physical abuse | | | | like their partners to go through the same |
| may leave permanent scars, both physical and | | | | private hell as their parents did. But the |
| emotional. | | | | insecurity of the past does not leave them |
| | | | untouched. Many of them end up going through |
| 2. Sexual acts: This happens when children | | | | similar motions, sooner than later. |
| are forced to touch private parts or are made | | | | |
| to commit unnatural acts. Most children end | | | | Can counseling help |
| up getting confused, and feeling dirty and | | | | |
| unhealthy. | | | | The experience is especially nightmarish for |
| | | | those individuals who happen to have suffered |
| 3. Emotional abuse: In this case the child is | | | | similar abuse during childhood. They may be |
| deprived love, affection or acceptance within | | | | initially attracted to each other when they |
| the family. Instead the child may is | | | | first share their experiences. They may get a |
| constantly shouted at, criticized, ridiculed | | | | feeling that they have finally found someone |
| and verbally abused. | | | | who can relate to them. But this euphoria is |
| | | | short-lived. It is not long before they start |
| 4. Neglect: This happens when a child is | | | | getting into each other's way, and start |
| deprived of proper food, warmth, shelter, | | | | blaming each other for their troubles. The |
| clothing etc. The child then hungers for | | | | anger and hurt may even be passed onto |
| material and emotional comforts and may grow | | | | unsuspecting children. It is like a vicious |
| up to have an unhealthy affinity for physical | | | | cycle, a story of pain without end. |
| needs. | | | | |
| | | | What is needed is mature counseling, and the |
| The unfortunate thing is that most acts of | | | | willingness to change. The counseling is |
| child abuse are either committed by parents, | | | | especially helpful in those cases where both |
| elder brothers, sisters, stepfathers, | | | | the partners seek it together. They then find |
| stepmothers, babysitters or by people who | | | | one more reason to hold onto each other. |
| form the immediate family. In very rare cases | | | | Otherwise, victims of child abuse, who did |
| a child will suffer at the hands of an | | | | not get proper counseling when they were |
| outsider. | | | | children, continue to live like the |
| | | | proverbial bull in the china shop hurting |
| The result is that the child does not grow up | | | | themselves and everyone around them. |
| into a healthy individual. Deep within this | | | | |
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