Growing up: Wounds and Traumas that happened to you that will draw unhealthy relationships to your..

Relationships are like physical magnets. That is whygive them solace; erase their painful memories, and
you find that most people who enter into amake them live normally. But where can they find
relationship are alike. This also applies to children whosuch partners? Their subconscious mind keeps telling
have been abused during their childhood. Theythem to be on guard; and not to enter into another
somehow attract other adults who have had similarbruising relationship. That is why most of their
experience.relationships are brief and unnatural.
However, very few of these relationships tend to beChildren of divorced families
stable. People who have had a traumatic childhoodWe should also not forget children whose parents
need more mature partners. They don't needbreak up during their growing years. These children
partners who are emotionally and mentally scarred.may not suffer from any direct abuse but
Unfortunately, as the Law of Attraction states, theyemotionally they are shattered. The effect is
continue to attract partners who are like them.especially noticeable among those children who have
Kinds of child abuseseen their parents inflict physical and emotional
However, before examining relationships betweenwounds upon each other. Such children tend to slip
adults who have had a traumatic childhood it isinto depression, become unnaturally quiet and
important to understand the different kinds of childwithdrawn or turn into bullies.
abuse. Psychologists recognize four clear acts ofThey too, when they become adults, get attracted
abuse. These are:to men and women who come from divorced
1. Physical abuse: This happens when children arefamilies. Many of them would not like their partners
repeatedly beaten by hands, fists, sticks etc for smallto go through the same private hell as their parents
misdemeanors. Physical abuse may leave permanentdid. But the insecurity of the past does not leave
scars, both physical and emotional.them untouched. Many of them end up going through
2. Sexual acts: This happens when children are forcedsimilar motions, sooner than later.
to touch private parts or are made to commitCan counseling help
unnatural acts. Most children end up getting confused,The experience is especially nightmarish for those
and feeling dirty and unhealthy.individuals who happen to have suffered similar abuse
3. Emotional abuse: In this case the child is deprivedduring childhood. They may be initially attracted to
love, affection or acceptance within the family.each other when they first share their experiences.
Instead the child may is constantly shouted at,They may get a feeling that they have finally found
criticized, ridiculed and verbally abused.someone who can relate to them. But this euphoria is
4. Neglect: This happens when a child is deprived ofshort-lived. It is not long before they start getting
proper food, warmth, shelter, clothing etc. The childinto each other's way, and start blaming each other
then hungers for material and emotional comfortsfor their troubles. The anger and hurt may even be
and may grow up to have an unhealthy affinity forpassed onto unsuspecting children. It is like a vicious
physical needs.cycle, a story of pain without end.
The unfortunate thing is that most acts of childWhat is needed is mature counseling, and the
abuse are either committed by parents, elderwillingness to change. The counseling is especially
brothers, sisters, stepfathers, stepmothers,helpful in those cases where both the partners seek
babysitters or by people who form the immediateit together. They then find one more reason to hold
family. In very rare cases a child will suffer at theonto each other. Otherwise, victims of child abuse,
hands of an outsider.who did not get proper counseling when they were
The result is that the child does not grow up into achildren, continue to live like the proverbial bull in the
healthy individual. Deep within this individual is a childchina shop hurting themselves and everyone around
who feels threatened and abused all the time. Thethem.
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