| Perhaps one of the most painful thing that | | | | |
| you can go through is to say goodbye to a | | | | You can have love, respect and trust in a |
| relationship that you have nurtured for so | | | | relationship and yet all those things seem |
| long. A failed relationship does not only | | | | not enough. There are things that one seeks |
| mean saying goodbye to a person that you love | | | | in a relationship that are sometimes not |
| so much but also saying goodbye to a love | | | | provided. This is one of the reasons why |
| that you thought would last forever. In a | | | | couples break up. |
| sense, you are also saying goodbye to one of | | | | |
| your cherished dreams and hopes. | | | | Lack of time is perhaps one of the most |
| | | | common examples of this problem in a |
| Break ups can be really hard. People, in | | | | relationship. In today's fast-paced world, |
| fact, suffer from momentary depression after | | | | people are busy with their work. People find |
| break ups because the pain is just too much | | | | it hard to find time to be with each other. |
| for them to bear. It is a really difficult | | | | This is especially true with couples, who are |
| situation and for some, it can be really | | | | both working and have a career that they have |
| traumatic. But it is something that is | | | | to take care of. Things get complicated when |
| inevitable. Nothing lasts forever. Even the | | | | their schedules would not meet because of out |
| best relationships end, either because of the | | | | of town trips and scheduled meetings. |
| decision of the persons involved or the | | | | Eventually, each will feel that the |
| decision of fate and death. | | | | relationship is only second priority, leading |
| | | | to the disintegration of the relationship. |
| There are actually a million and one reasons | | | | |
| why relationships end. A lot of factors can | | | | Another need that may not be met is the |
| play up in a break up. | | | | emotional aspect. This is where remembering |
| | | | anniversary dates and other occasions will |
| Although, one can never really tell what | | | | come into play. Some partners especially |
| exactly caused the rift between people, one | | | | women are sensitive in dates like these |
| thing is for sure, break ups happen not | | | | because they feel that remembering is a sign |
| because of one reason but because of several | | | | of love and care. |
| factors. Love, as they say, is not enough for | | | | |
| a relationship to survive. Although it is one | | | | 2. Abuse |
| of the main ingredients in a successful | | | | |
| partnership, the couple need more than that | | | | There is no point in staying in a |
| to be able to last. One of the primary things | | | | relationship that abuses you in some way, |
| that they need is trust in each other. A | | | | whether it be physical abuse, mental abuse or |
| relationship will go nowhere without trust. | | | | emotional abuse. A relationship should let |
| | | | you develop in some way. It should make you a |
| This is why most relationships break up | | | | better person and not destroy you. Your |
| because of infidelities. Trust does not also | | | | partner should take care of you and not abuse |
| constitute the trust that a person will not | | | | you in some way. |
| look for someone else. Trust also refers to | | | | |
| the trust that a person will never hurt you | | | | If you feel that you are not growing as you |
| in any way and will always be there for you. | | | | should in a relationship and that you are |
| Respect is another ingredient to a lasting | | | | being abused. Get out. No one deserves that |
| relationship. There must be a sense of | | | | kind of treatment. |
| respect for each other, a sense that each can | | | | |
| give you what you need. Without respect, | | | | 3. Falling out of love |
| there can be no trust. | | | | |
| | | | Although love can be true and lasting, love |
| Yet even if you know that you have had all | | | | can dwindle and couples can fall out of love. |
| three, relationships still end. Trust is | | | | There are a lot of factors that may |
| broken. Respect dwindles into nothing. Love | | | | contribute to this feeling of emptiness and |
| lessens. When do you know then when it is | | | | unhappiness even when you are not with the |
| time to say goodbye and break it up. | | | | person anymore. Some people may feel guilty |
| | | | for feeling like this but they should realize |
| 1. Your needs are not met. | | | | that it does happen and it is normal. |