What Abused Women Must Know When Seeking Help for Domestic Abuse

The last thing an abused woman needs to hear whileused in re-victimizing survivors of domestic abuse at
seeking safety from domestic violence is that she'sthe bequest of their perpetrators. And over the
crazy. Unfortunately, however, this may be one ofyears, actually decades, they became the enemies of
first things she learns from the evaluating mentalbattered women.
health professional.I have since learned that this is understandably so,
The Battered Women's Movement and Clinicalespecially for women residing in domestic violence
Psychology are as far apart as the North and Southshelters. It is estimated that over 90% of women
Pole. Yet, many people outside of these circlesgoing through the abuse shelter system will be
disciplines believe domestic abuse treatment and"certified" (i.e. blessed with a psychiatric diagnosis) by
advocacy are sub-specialties of the practice ofvirtue of their navigating the mental health care
psychology. Not at all so!system-while in route to safety-as a survivor of
After I fled from the danger I lived in Chicago, Idomestic violence.
retreated into a life of solace and wrote All But MyThis truly disturbed me, as a practicing psychologist
Soul: Abuse Beyond Control. Creating that publicationand domestic abuse survivor. Even more disturbing
was the most amazing experience of my life-right upwas the fact that I could find little to no domestic
there with the birth of a child. It was my fourth child.violence curricula offered in psychological training.
With the enthusiasm of a child, I approachedIn no way am I suggesting that one not seek the
individuals in the domestic violence arena, eager toservices of domestic abuse advocacy; to the
share what I had learned and produced in thecontrary. I strongly believe in the work of domestic
manuscript. Initially, I was not received well andabuse advocates. However, I recognize that when
couldn't understand why, until an individual from theutilizing domestic abuse advocacy, one must be
inner circle of the Battered Women's Movementmindful of the importance of also securing the
shared the inside politics with me.expertise of a mental health professional, authentically
"You will have a hard time breaking into this line ofknowledgeable in domestic violence.
work," she said, "because you are a psychologist."The front line treatment for domestic violence and
Funny thing is I thought this was my asset, until shethe actual practice of professional psychology are
helped me realized it was my liability among batteredtruly as far apart as the automotive industry and the
women.practice of dentistry. I vowed to commit myself to
She explained that historically the psychologists werehelping bridge this huge knowledge and service gap.