Sexual Harassment Policy Guidelines Part II

SEXUAL HARASSMENT COMPLAINTThese persons may be important components in the
INVESTIGATION PROCEDUREEvery complaint will begrievance resolution process if a formal complaint is
thoroughly investigated. When a complaint of sexualfiled. You will want to contact the individuals
harassment is received we will take the followingperceived to be targets of sexual harassment before
actions:1. Question both parties in detail.2. Probedisclosing their names. This action should be discrete
deeply for corroborative evidence.Here is what weand kept confidential for your own protection and
are trying to determine with our investigation:also to be absolutely fair to the accused. Information
Is the testimony of the victim internally consistent?should be disclosed only on a need to know basis and
Is the testimony of the accused internally consistent?with the understanding that the recipient has a duty
Does each follow logically? Are both accountsto preserve confidentiality. We will closely monitor the
externally consistent? Does the victim's account jibesituation to ensure that there is no retaliation against
with the testimony of witnesses? Does the accused'syou or any possible witnesses.The next step is to
account jibe with the testimony of witnesses? Didconsider writing a letter in which you request an end
the accused have time to do what the victimto the harassing behavior. Writing a letter to the
alleged? Does the victim have any possible motiveharasser has been a controversial issue because it
for falsely implicating the accused? Could themay trigger questions of legality, confidentiality,
harassment have happened at the time and locationadmissible evidence, and due process. However, if
specified? Despite the fact that there were nothe letter is kept CONFIDENTIAL and is written in a
witnesses, could the harassment have taken place at"polite" yet direct manner, these questions will not
the time and the location?We will not assume thearise. The letter should contain the following:1. A
accused is guilty, but neither will we attach muchdescription of the incident and the type of behavior,
significance to a general denial by the accusedincluding details about location, date, and time of the
harasser. We will search completely and thoroughlyincident. This part should be low-key and should
for evidence that corroborates either side's story.address only the facts.2. A description of the
We will do this by:1. Interviewing co-workers,incident's mental and physical effect on you. You
supervisors, and managers2. Obtaining testimonyshould convey opinions, thoughts, and feelings, and
from individuals who observed the accuser'sshould share the effect of the harassing behavior. For
demeanor immediately after the alleged incident ofexample, "It embarrassed me," "made my stomach
harassment3. Checking out people with whom theturn to knots," or "I can't concentrate on my work."3.
alleged victim discussed the incident (e.g., co-workers,An clear statement that you want the sexual
a doctor, or a counselor).We will ask otherharassment to stop immediately and what is
employees if they noticed changes in the accusingnecessary to maintain any future relationship. For
individual's behavior at work or in the allegedexample, "I want our relationship to be strictly
harasser's treatment of him or her. We will look forprofessional and I don't want you ever to touch me
evidence of other complaints, either by the victim oragain or make gestures or remarks about my
other employees. We will follow up on evidence thatsexuality." A copy of the letter should be kept by
other employees were sexually harassed by theyou in a secured location. A copy should be given to
same person. In order to make a fair and legalyour supervisor or the person in personnel who is
decision on a sexual harassment complaint we needassisting you, and a copy to your union steward. You
to find out as much information as we can, not onlymay give the letter to the harasser in person or send
on the incident itself, but also on the victim's andit by certified mail. We will help you write the letter if
accuser's personalities, surroundings, and relationships.you want us to do so.Generally writing a letter is
To accomplish this task, we need to not only askmore powerful than a verbal message telling the
many questions of the victim and accuser, but alsoharasser to stop. Writing a letter is an important step
of any witnesses to the incident and the surroundingtoward ending the sexual harassment. Other
environment.Here are some questions we may askadvantages of writing a letter are as follows- It
the victim:keeps the incident/s confidential.- It avoids public or
Specific to the incident, what happened? When did itone-on-one confrontation.- It gives the alleged
happen? Where did it happen? What preceded theharasser a chance to know how his or her behavior
incident? What did the harasser do or say? What didis affecting you.- It gives the harasser a chance to
you do or say? What happened in addition to orchange his or her behavior or defend it before
since the incident? Who may have seen or heard theinformal or formal complaints are filed.- It may
incident? With whom have you discussed theminimize or prevent retaliation against you.- It may be
incident?Here are some questions we may ask theused in support of a formal complaint or lawsuit to
accused:demonstrate that you initiated action to end the
Specific to the incident, are you attracted to (nameharassment.HARASSMENT QUESTIONNAIREThis
the employee)? Do you ever think of (name thequestionnaire will be administered to all employees at
employee) in a sexual way? Have you ever touchedleast once per year. Please do not write any names
(name the employee)? Have you tried to kiss (nameon this form. Continue on the back of this form if
the employee)? (Describe the alleged incident.) Pleaseadditional space is needed to answer a
give me your version of the incident. Did you offerquestion.Questions (Answer Y or N )1. Have you
(name the employee) help with his/her career inbeen subjected to sexual harassment while working
exchange for his/her affection?Here are somehere? (If "No," skip to Question #11.) Y ___ N ___2.
questions we may ask any witnesses:If so, what did you encounter? (Check as
Have co-workers complained about inappropriateappropriate).- Physical contact you did not want. Y
behavior in the department? Have you personally___ N ___- Cornering or invading your "personal
noticed or been offended by inappropriate behavior?space." Y ___ N ___- Continued or repeated idle
Please describe any inappropriate or offensivechatter of a sexual nature and graphic comments
behavior that you have experienced or witnessed.about sex.
Are there any calendar pictures or posters displayedY ___ N ___- Offensive and persistent "risque"
which offend you or someone else? Have offensivejokes or sexual teasing. Y ___ N ___- Comments
jokes or comments been made about people in themade or questions asked about the sensuality of
department? (If the answer to the above question isyour spouse, friend or your own sexual orientation. Y
yes then ask:) Who made these remarks and what___ N ___- Pseudo-medical advice given to you
was said? Specific to the incident (describe the timesuch as "You must be feeling bad because you didn't
and place of the incident, then ask:), Did you noticeget enough (sex)" or "A Little Tender Loving Care
anything in your department that may have disturbed(TLC) will cure your ailments."
you or another employee? Did you hear aY ___ N ___- Provocative looks such as leering or
conversation involving (name the employee)? Did youogling. Y ___ N ___- Lewd gestures (holding or
see anyone talking to this employee? Did youeating fruit provocatively) or suggestive noises or
observe any interaction between this employee andsounds (wolf calls, kissing sounds, or lip smacking). Y
a co-worker or supervisor?MYTHS ABOUT SEXUAL___ N ___- Annoying or degrading comments about
HARASSMENT- The complainant wanted theyour body, weight, or size. Y ___ N ___- Annoying
attention or enjoyed it.- The complainant's physicalor degrading remarks about sex. Y ___ N __-
appearance or clothing enticed the harasser.- ThePressure to engage in sexual activity, but without
complainant probably falsified the incident report ofjob-related threats. Y ___ N ___- Threats or
sexual harassment.- The complainants and thesuggestions that your job or working conditions, etc.,
accused sexual harassers can be easily identified ordepend on your submission to sexual demands. Y
stereotyped.- All men are harassers.- Women are the___ N ___- If you have experienced sexual
only victims or sexual harassment and women do notharassment on the job in a form that was not listed,
sexually harass. (Approximately 10% of reportedplease use the space below to explain. (Continue on
cases are filed against women and 90% againstthe back if necessary).
men).- Sexual harassment is only teasing and an____________________________
innocent flirtation sport.- Sexual harassment is rare in____________________________
the workplace.- If the complainant had only said "No,"____________________________4. Who
the harassment would have stopped.For manyharassed you? (Do not write names)Co-worker
people, sexual harassment is an uncomfortable,_____ Supervisor _____ Customer _____Other:
disturbing and even frightening experience. It can be(Specify) ____________5. What action did you
extremely disruptive to one's lifestyle to face atake to end the harassment? (If you did not take
continuous barrage of unwanted comments, toany actions to end the harassment, skip to Question
rearrange one's schedule to avoid certain people, and#8.)
to simply live in a constant state of wariness. As aNo Action _____Filed a formal complaint/grievance
result, harassment can have devastating effects on_____Filed an informal complaint/grievance
one's performance at work, one's comfort and_____Resolved the problem on your own _____
self-esteem and physical health. Often, people areOther measures: (Specify)
afraid of addressing the harassment they experience____6. Did the harassment stop when you initiated
because they fear that the perpetrator will exerciseaction to end it? Y ___ N ___7. What was the
their power in a disadvantageous way. For example,outcome? (Continue on back if necessary)
one might fear losing a promotion, getting a poor____________________________
evaluation, or being fired if one protests or even____________________________8. If you did
acknowledges the harassment.People who arenot take any action to end the harassment, please
sexually harassed often wrongly assume that theindicate why?
cause of their problem is in their own conduct, and
therefore are very hesitant to confront the____________________________
instigator, or to discuss the problem with an authority____________________________
or even a friend. Others try to downplay the____________________________9. Would
existence of the harassment in the hopes that it willyou have filed a complainant if you had been aware
simply end. But victims are not to blame for theof a procedure for you to do so? Y N10. Were you
behavior of their harasser, nor should they pretendpenalized in any way for objecting or complaining? If
that the negative effects they're experiencing don'tso, how? Y N
exist, because they probably won't go away by____________________________
themselves.We understand that if you have been the____________________________
victim of sexual harassment you may not have told____________________________
the harasser to stop for a variety of reasons. If you____________________________11. Do you
come forward to us with your complaint, this is howknow of anyone who works in this unit who has
we will help you.We will not treat your complaint asbeen harassed and was afraid to object or complain?
trivial. All complaints will be taken seriously, but thereY N12. Do you think that sexual harassment is a
is a wide degree of difference between incidents.problem in this unit? What suggestions do you have
You and the person accused will be advised of yourfor creating a sexual harassment-free work place? Y
right to union representation. Less serious complaintsN
can be handled informally. For example, the supervisor____________________________
may call in the person who has been complained____________________________13. Has
about and reiterate the policy and makeharassment, or your fear of it, distracted you from
admonishments where necessary for the employeeyour work or reduced your efficiency? Y N How?
to modify his or her behavior. We will first try to(Specify and continue on back if
resolve the issue informally without a formal____________________________________
complaint, unless the incident was unambiguous and____________________________14.
severe, in which case a formal procedure will be(Optional) Are you male or female? M F15. Please
implemented immediately. It is up to you to decidemake any additional comments on any aspect of this
how serious the situation is. You will not be pressuredsubject.
to handle the incident informally. If the situation is____________________________
adequately resolved with an informal procedure, no____________________________
further action shall be taken. If the matter is not____________________________
resolved to the complainant's satisfaction through____________________________
informal resolution, a formal procedure will be____________________________
implemented.We will ask you if you feel comfortable____________________________
asking the harasser to stop, or would prefer____________________________
third-party intervention from us. You may choose to____________________________Permission is
accept the self-help approach. If so, approach thehereby granted to modify and use the information in
harasser and say "I want (whatever the sexuallythis draft sexual harassment guideline, provided you
harassing behavior is) to stop immediately" in a firminclude reference to the author as shown at the
and assertive manner. This approach gives you anend.Original document created by Al Link (4
active role in the resolution process and a sense ofFreedoms Relationship Tantra) Link and Pala Copeland
"empowerment." Telling the harasser to stop willown and operate 4 Freedoms Relationship Tantra.
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